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Tigers are tough, so that’s why I have stripes (Megan)

March 8, 2012

Age-21
Height-5’2
# of pregnancies- 1 miscarriage.. 1 full term
Weight gained during pregnancy- 45lbs

I am 37 weeks pregnant today. And when I look in the mirror I see warrior. My story is unfair, but I love that it happened to me. It has
given me the strength that I have needed for each and every day of these long 9 months. Lets go back to July 2011 when I found out I was
expecting, after only a month of trying with my beloved fiance of 3 years. I was over the moon with joy as I sat on my bathroom floor and
cried tears of excitement and happiness. I called my fiance and told him the good news. He sounded angry and said we would talk later. My high spirits had lowered after that and I sat there wondering what was wrong? Later on he got home and sat on the couch, he asked me to sit down. I had no idea what was about to happen, but if I did I would have had a titanium bat ready for him. He said I can’t be with you anymore. I asked why. He said Jessica, his “ex” girlfriend, was 8 months pregnant with his child and they’ve been together for the entire time. My first thought was that he was just making this up because he was scared.. and then he whipped out the ultrasound photo of his daughter. I sat there, tears streaming down my face not even knowing how the hell this happened or how dumb I was to have missed the signs of his infidelity. How could he actively try to conceive with me knowing that he had another on the way? As I sat frozen on the couch he packed his things and left. I sat on that couch the whole night, not moving an inch, knowing that if I did I would have to go find him and kill him. A few weeks go by with no word from him, I went about my life in a zombie like state, hating him more and more every day, but realizing that I was pregnant and went for my first ultrasound. Well., that was it for me. I was in love with this
little person growing inside of me. My whole perceptive changed that day. I was glowing and excited and looking towards the future with a grin so big it could have blinded someone. When I was about 16 weeks he called me. I asked him what was up. He said he wanted nothing to do with me or my child ever again and to not contact him because he was starting his new family and didn’t want any distractions or trouble. I said No problem! and hung up the phone. I haven’t talked to him since. As my belly grew and my excitement increased, I noticed some small stretch marks.. that eventually turned into large stretch marks. And even though I am young, and my body will never be the same after this, I know that my child gave me the most amazing strength I could ever have to not break down and loose it all. But hey, I figured.. a tiger has to be tough! And god damn I was a tiger proudly sharing my stripes with all of you.

First photo- 20 weeks, no stretch marks(black and white)
Second photo- 37 weeks.. lots of stripes
Third photo- 37 weeks front view

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13 Responses to “Tigers are tough, so that’s why I have stripes (Megan)”

  1. mia Says:
    March 8th, 2012 at 10:36 am

    WOW…your better off without him anyways, at least this you can your child the way you want to without someone telling you otherwise…congrats and have tons of fun with your little one!

  2. shannon Says:
    March 8th, 2012 at 12:27 pm

    You are awesome! I have got some mega tiger marks as well! Your ex sounds like a D-bag (I never did understand how someone would not want to be in their child’s life). Your baby will have you though :) You look and sound beautiful mama!

  3. Jan Says:
    March 8th, 2012 at 12:43 pm

    What an incredible young woman you are, this whole situation could have completely destroyed you and you didn’t let it. You will be a wonderful mother! This child is YOURS, not his!! All the best to you!

  4. Stephanie Says:
    March 8th, 2012 at 1:55 pm

    Just my opinion….I would contact him when the baby is born, jut to let him know and give him a chance to change his mind- not about being with you, but about being with his child. At the very least I would consider going after child support- it’s not for you, but for your child.

  5. Sarah Says:
    March 8th, 2012 at 3:53 pm

    Congratulations on your incredible strength; I don’t think I could have gone through this situation with the same composure.

    I know you guys want nothing to do with each other, but your ex-fiance is legally obligated to provide you with child support. It’s tough to be a single mom and I’m sure any assistance would be helpful for you and the baby. Just a thought.

    Good luck!

  6. angels mom Says:
    March 8th, 2012 at 6:42 pm

    Your amazing continue to b strong u took a situation that would of destroyed alot of women but u pulled through i wish u and your little one many blessings.By the way what are you having

  7. river Says:
    March 9th, 2012 at 1:31 am

    Well done hot mamma!!! I must say you handled your ex w ith a lot more grace then I woud have. So on that alone I must say your amazing. Your little baby is very lucky to have you. congrads and good luck!!!!

  8. Misty Says:
    March 9th, 2012 at 4:52 pm

    I’m finding myself agreeing about the child support but that doesn’t require contact with him. It can be handled completely through the court system. Who cares if he doesn’t want “distractions or trouble”. Since you dont want anything to do with him, if you can financially afford it, put the child support into a savings account for the baby. You then can feel like you’ve done it without him but have a safety net for the curve balls life seems to throw.

  9. L Says:
    March 10th, 2012 at 8:41 am

    Good job in letting go of that jerk. Your a strong woman and your baby will be happy if your happy. I do agree you should get child support even if he doesn’t want a relationship he did try to get you pregnant. He was fully aware and should be held financially responsible. Its expensive raising kids. Good luck!

  10. Louellen Says:
    March 13th, 2012 at 1:36 pm

    dang what a loser! We are the same age and I couldn’t imagine going through that! I love your tiger strips! Remember that you are an exotic woman ;) the next guy who wants to take care of you will have to handle that :P

  11. KK Says:
    March 14th, 2012 at 4:22 pm

    I am in AWE!! You are awesome.. hope you stay so positive and keep fighting! x

  12. Tricia Says:
    March 19th, 2012 at 8:04 pm

    Absolutely touching story. I’m so happy that your little one gave you the strength to live for you and him and not be consumed by the hate for “that person”. Karma is a bitch, and he will get his.

  13. Melissa Says:
    March 27th, 2012 at 12:28 pm

    Screw him! Congrats on your courage and strength! Happy mommying!

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