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Struggling to accept my new body. (Anonymous)

May 31, 2012

Age-21
# of pregnancies & births- 1
9 months post-partum

It’s been 9 months since I had my beautiful little girl & while I love her with all my heart I can’t seem to accept my new body. I was 120 pounds before I got pregnant with a perfectly flat stomach. I had gestational diabetes during my pregnancy and was 180 the day I had her. I am 135 now but cannot seem to lose the mommy belly. I find myself comparing myself to all my friends that had babies and have perfectly flat stomachs & I honestly am embarrassed at times to go in to public around people who knew what I looked like before. Shopping for clothing is discouraging and frustrating. I feel like a nuisense to my boyfriend and family and can tell they are annoyed with my constant downing on myself about my body. It’s just hard to accept that this is my body now. I keep waiting for my stomach to shrink back down but some days I honestly think its only getting worse Thank you for letting me share with you ladies sometimes it feels better to get it all out.

The picture I included is of my stomach 9 months post-partum (now)

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6 Responses to “Struggling to accept my new body. (Anonymous)”

  1. Juli Says:
    May 31st, 2012 at 10:12 am

    I went through the same exact situatuion. I had my ideal body before pregnancy. Up until 9 months pregnant, I had no stretchmarks no cellulite I weighed a healthy 170 for me and my baby. Then what felt like a split second, my whole body just seemed to break down. When I gave birth, of course I was so happy to have my child. But the moment I saw my body. I was a wreck. My stomach all around to my back, every inch of my thighs, and my calfs were covered in stretchmarks. even my armpits!! I had a hard time accepting it. I had awful postpartum blues. I also had a hard time losing the weight. Let alone my saggy stomach. Both my best friends of course are goddesses with kids. I was so embarrassed to wear anything showing my scars. So you could imagine my surprise and despair when I find out I’m pregnant again, 7 months after my first child was born. Now my second is 1. I’m back to my preprego weight but still have a beast of a belly. Lately I have been pushing extra hard in workouts. Introducing new exercises amd healthier foods in my diet. And moisturize everyday. EVERYDAY! It is so important. I have noticed a big difference. Even with a saggy tummy, I still have my insecurities of course. But when I get compliments, that is what drives me even harder! Please pleeeeeeeeeeease believe in yourself. Because I do :) good luck beautiful lady.

  2. Juli Says:
    May 31st, 2012 at 10:17 am

    Ps we are the same age. And I believe that anyone with a child, is beautiful. its up to us to feel that way. I wpuld love to help with any struggles you have.

  3. Jill Says:
    May 31st, 2012 at 12:08 pm

    I feel the same way!

  4. KMG Says:
    June 1st, 2012 at 4:10 am

    It is easy to feel like the whole world is judging us for the changes in our bodies, but they’re really not. It seems that way because it’s OUR body and because WE notice every little imperfection. Others do not. These days, people are so consumed with their own issues, big or small, that they don’t have room in their heads to critique a woman for being a part of the most beautiful process in life. Many of them are busy critiquing themselves for the things that we don’t notice about them. You are amazing, and your body is amazing!

  5. MJ Says:
    June 1st, 2012 at 3:12 pm

    :) Were very similar shaped I was 18 for a minute wiith a rock hard body then it was over I feeli robbed myself of those hot bod years but I wouldn’t trade it for the world!!

  6. Charlene Says:
    June 21st, 2012 at 11:09 pm

    I can relate to you cause I gained almost 70lbs with my daughter and I’m also 9 month PP. my tummy looks similar to yours but I just want to say dont feel down about your body cause you are beautiful and gave life. it will also take time and hard work to get back to where you want to be so don’t give up!! Keep pushing! All the love to you & your baby!! Xox

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