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Scars of Beauty (Anonymous)

March 1, 2012

I am a 23 yr old mom of 3 ages 4, 1, & 1 month old i am 8 wks pp 3 csections.I had my first @ 18 yrs old my pregnancy in the beginning was tough because I was living in an environment unhealthy to my child and to myself. Aside from the fact my child’s father was abusive the person we were living with one of his parents wouldn’t let us get food stamps, because they were too prideful and didn’t want to look like a state case. I and my unborn child were malnourished I weight less then 95lbs. Eventually I let that situation and got to a safe haven where I was fed and gained weight and my child was starting too look as though he was going to burst me open I went unmarked (stretch marks ) for 8 months then my son was born And i seen what had truly happened after my csection. I was devastated, insecure, my body had been destroyed by this cute lil baby. I grew so fast after leaving his abusive father & the environment in which We my unborn & i were being deprived of the nourishment we needed. I felt like It was a reminder of the things this person & his family put me through. But it was a reminder of our determination to thrive and survive. We made it. In 2008 We found a man to love us, his family loves us we fit right into his life perfectly. I got married i never thought I was beautiful I couldn’t stand my body so I didn’t see how a man could but he did. In 2009 3 yrs after my son was born I had my lil girl I gained not 1 extra mark she is the easiest lil person but I feared for her body and getting stretch marks like I did. And 16 months dec 2011 after her I have birth to my newest lil boy and I gained no extra from him.

These are scars that remind me of the path I chose for my survival and my 1st sons survival.

So in a way they are well earned

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5 Responses to “Scars of Beauty (Anonymous)”

  1. amber Says:
    March 1st, 2012 at 7:29 am

    Congrats to you for getting out of a tough situation. That is an amazing momma!! Your beautiful soul and your beautiful body deserved to find happiness!!

  2. Stacy Says:
    March 2nd, 2012 at 3:52 pm

    Your belly looks a lot like mine. I have found such peace after many years. I am currently pregnant with #7 and will post a new post soon but you can find my original posts here:

    http://theshapeofamother.com/blog/6-babies-5-c-sections-4-daughters-3-tols-2-sons-1-love-stacy/

    I had 5 csections before having my son at home in 2009.

    Blessings to you and your healing as well as your little ones.

  3. Valerie Says:
    March 3rd, 2012 at 9:05 pm

    God bless you!!!! YOU ARE A REAL WOMAN. Whoever is friends with the world, is an enemy of God. If you believe in God you are not of this world, therefore how you look DOESNT matter :) Smile! You have beautiful children!!!!!!! THEY LOVE YOU! So does God, and your husband :) You are amazing & you deserve to love yourself also :)

  4. Louellen Says:
    March 13th, 2012 at 1:51 pm

    When your son gets older, you should show him your tiger strips to show him how you fought for him. Your children will love you endlessly because they know you will always be there fighting for them.

  5. chels Says:
    April 3rd, 2012 at 1:09 pm

    you would have that belly regardless from children not just your first one.. he paved the way and made room for the others.. its not like hes the only one who “wreaked” your body!!!

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