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Pregnant With My Second and Overweight (Anonymous)

Being pregnant with my second child n overweight I feel awful im 19 n weigh 260lbs my daughter passed away last year due to rsv as a mom I feel I have nothing to show for having my shape of body my boyfriend loves me but why is it I cant love myself?!?!

in Belly, Child Loss, Plus-Sized Mom, Pregnant, Second Pregnancy, Submissions, Teen Mom

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  • Melissa Tuesday, April 24, 2012, 8:10 am

    So sorry for your loss, I can’t even begin to imagine the pain you’ve gone through and begin young still makes it even more difficult. I hope you find some closure so you can heal. Focus on the good in your life and look forward to meeting your new baby! The weight will come off I promise! Good luck to you you are beautiful just the way you are!

  • Karla Tuesday, April 24, 2012, 10:08 am

    I’m sorry about the loss of your child :( God bless you. I wish I could give you a magic pill and then you would love your body…but it takes time. Begin by believing your boyfriend! they dont lie to you when they say you look hot! Hope you get to enjoy your new baby longer and that he or she become a happy person in the future! :)

  • Artrice Tuesday, April 24, 2012, 11:55 am

    I am so very sorry for your loss.

  • Sarah P. Tuesday, April 24, 2012, 8:07 pm

    Oh my gosh, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your little one. :( That’s the worst thing any woman could ever go through.

  • shannon Wednesday, April 25, 2012, 6:49 am

    Your baby that passed gave you those stretch marks…those are wonderful little reminders! My son passed away at 19 months…I feel the only physical proof I have that I had him are my marks (of course I have pictures, videos, and memories…but I could lose all of that someday if I develop alzheimer’s) so I cherish them!

    Best of luck on the remainder of your pregnancy. You are a beautiful mother of 2 :)

  • Jessica Thursday, April 26, 2012, 1:01 pm

    I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you. I struggle every day with my body image. The best advice I can give you is to honestly try to love yourself. I know that sounds stupid but trust me, if you can look past how you feel about your body, and just know that your man loves you for you, then you will find true happiness. Enjoy your pregnancy, and look forward to meeting your new little one!

  • angw Thursday, April 26, 2012, 7:46 pm

    Congratulations on your baby to be. Bodies are funny things; never really happy with them. However, in this case, your body is providing your with another beautiful child to love and guide through life. This is truly awesome. Don’t worry about the weight right now, you can address it later if you want to. Have a great pregnancy and wish you the best.

  • maria Tuesday, September 11, 2012, 3:09 am

    So sorry to hear about your loss! Don’t worry about the weight, a lot of it is due to hormones and very different for different women how you gain/lose baby weight.
    Enjoy your pregnancy and love your beautiful body for making a precious baby, if nothing else. You are beautiful. You are strong. You are a mother. Nothing will ever change that. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. You are awesome! Hugs and strenght to you!

  • Bekah Wednesday, June 12, 2013, 2:46 pm

    I want to thank you for posting. You are so brave and strong! You have gone through the hardest thing someone may have to deal with in their life–the loss of a child. I know it’s hard to forgive yourself and love yourself when you don’t look the way society deems beautiful (my belly looks a lot like yours!), but I try to focus on the good things as much as possible. The more I think on “how could I have let myself get this size?” the more depressed I became. It took me years to accept that what I was feeling was ok and that I could love myself anyway. I try to reject those thoughts as soon as they come up and focus on something good about myself. I hope that helps you too. I had a miscarriage and am now pregnant with what will be our first child, so I know that being pregnant again is not a replacement and can bring up fears & worries about what happened last time, but it can also be a time of healing if you let yourself grieve for what you lost and then be hopeful and love the baby growing inside you. I hope life treats you well!

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