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Only my partner could love this… before, during and after. (Terri)

August 6, 2012

20 years of age
1 pregnancy, 1 birth to a beautiful baby girl
Baby’s aged 7 weeks.

Whilst I was pregnant I always thought that after the baby was born I could just do a couple of sit ups and i’d get my body back the way it was before. I was applying baby oil religiously every night for the whole of my pregnancy in ingnorance of hoping that
it would prevent stretch marks and I regularly went out for walks to help prevent the belly. Oh how ignorance was bliss! I didn’t get stretch marks on my stomach so I was fooled into thinking i’d be one of the lucky ones. Nope! A couple of days after my baby
was born I got them all over my stomach, all over my boobs and on my thighs. I didn’t even dare look at my bum and look at the dreaded cellulite! Now I find that as much as I love my little bundle of joy I absolutley hate my new body. My confidence now has
a huge dent in it and no matter what my partner says about my body (all of it positive) I still can’t see what he sees. All I see is the rolls of fat when I bend over to my now saggy chest. I’m no longer the confident woman I once was. I get annoyed at everyone
telling me I should be proud because it carried my baby because I was fooled into thinking I should look like all of those celebs that lose it no matter what. I am proud! But I just want to be me again not mum! Even though I am very proud to be a mum.
And also although I am back in my size 8 clothes I can’t help but notice that I now have a bit of skin hanging over my jeans :( And I also would LOVE to have another baby but this has made me scared about what would happen to my body after I have that one.

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15 Responses to “Only my partner could love this… before, during and after. (Terri)”

  1. shannon Says:
    August 6th, 2012 at 7:01 am

    First off, you look AMAZING. You are back in pre-pregnancy clothes at 7 weeks? That is insane! Also, if that is what you call “stretch ,arks all over”, I would hate to hear what you would say about my stretch marks (which actually are all over). Your belly is almost completely flat again, at ONLY 7 weeks. Your uterus just went down…give your body some time! It created a human not long ago…we forget that all too soon…give the poor thing some time! Even without time, YOU LOOK GREAT NOW :)

  2. july Says:
    August 6th, 2012 at 7:51 am

    oh im so sorry at least yur boyfriend loves yu like that you know at the end we’re going to get old and die and face the last judment so thats the scary part

  3. Jamie Says:
    August 6th, 2012 at 10:27 am

    I was also 20 when my son was 7 weeks pp, turned 21 a week later. I completely understand what you’re saying and how you feel. I almost feel guilty about the fear in my head of how another would effect my body, and that’s one of the reasons I don’t want to have any more children at this point. I hope one day I can get comfortable with my body again, feel confident the way I used to.
    You look amazing and I’m completely jelous that you’re in your pre-pregnancy clothes again. I’m the same size as you are now, size 6 and 8 jeans, but I was a size 2 before I had my son. I don’t think I’ll ever get back there again..
    It’s going to take you some time of getting used to this new you to gain confidence again, you’re only just getting to know you as you are now; a mother.

  4. MHD Says:
    August 6th, 2012 at 5:56 pm

    You look far better then I ever did even BEFORE I got pregnant! And you are only 7 weeks postpartum! You’ll be amazed at how much your body will go back over the next several months. Just be patient and give it some time. You look amazing, please don’t be so hard on yourself.

  5. mélaine Says:
    August 7th, 2012 at 1:43 am

    I think you look awesome.
    Give you some time to like your new body.

  6. Erin Says:
    August 7th, 2012 at 10:07 am

    You kook great! Only 7 weeks since you gave birth? Girl you are crazy. You look amazing already, just think how awesome you will look in a year! Exercise and eat right and you will be one hot mom!

  7. Carina Says:
    August 7th, 2012 at 1:40 pm

    I can relate wery much to how you feel. I’m 22years old, have two kids that I love, have one body that I hate. And girl, I would be so happy if I got your breasts and my stretchmarks is so much more visible. I hope you will start to love your body again and I hope I will learn to love mine again.

  8. Corinne Says:
    August 7th, 2012 at 3:10 pm

    Our bodies are very similar prepregnancy. You look good PP. I look horrid..I want a tummy tuck.

  9. Adrian Says:
    August 16th, 2012 at 8:12 am

    Believe me, you’re completely wrong in saying “only my partner could love this”. I’d almost certainly find it an impossible task to find ANY man who didn’t think you look great in all your photos!

  10. Sara Says:
    August 23rd, 2012 at 9:04 am

    Your body is bouncing back really well. At 7 weeks PP, you have no belly! As for stretch marks…dont worry, they do fade with time. Buy some stretch mark cream to help the process along. You’re in your early 20′s and going up a dress size seems like such a big deal when your that young still. I remember those days, lol.When you have a baby inyour 30′s your body does not bounce back in 7 weeks to what you’ve got going on and I wish that all I was, was 1 dress size bigger, lol.

  11. Erin Says:
    August 28th, 2012 at 3:37 pm

    You look really amazing and your boobs are fantastic!

  12. DD Says:
    November 9th, 2012 at 2:35 pm

    Are you kidding me? Girl you look great after 7 weeks. In a few months you will be blown away at how great you’ll look. My son is 5 months and im finally back down to pre pregnancy size of 126.It almost happened overnight at around 4 months PP (i dieted) Of course i have stretch marks, there from my daughter. I thought nobody would want me with them but i have a very atttactive husband and while dating I never met a man who was bothered by them. Trust me… men other than your partner would love to be with you. You look insane. I mean you JUST gave birth.

  13. Suzanne Says:
    December 30th, 2012 at 12:06 pm

    You don’t even look like you’ve had a child.. I don’t think I believe you ;)
    You’re stunning.. ‘only my partner could love this’ = Not true!!

  14. Andrea Says:
    January 29th, 2013 at 11:25 am

    It’s interesting how it’s mainly the most “typically beautiful” wymyn are the ones who hate their postpartum bodies the most. Your body looks way more in shape than most of the rest of ours. lol

  15. Jackcarre Says:
    July 26th, 2014 at 3:05 am

    I very much appreciate you, served as a shared things that many hiddening. As my dear wife

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