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Not happy with the new me. (B’s Mommy)

August 11, 2010

Age: 22
1 Pregnancy, 1 Birth Via C-section
6 months PP

Six months ago I gave birth to my beautiful baby boy. I was in labor for nearly 30 hrs, I pushed for 3 and then had to have a c-section. My little man weighed 9 lbs 7 oz! This was my first pregnancy and it was unexpected, but I wouldnt change it for the world. I have had many ups and downs in these past 6 months. B has been in and out of the hospital. During these past 6 months I’ve heard more crying then i’ve heard my entire life. He has cried almost every day for the majority of the days. We didnt know what was wrong, and neither did the doctors. They passed it off as ‘colic’ and each time it kept getting worse. Finally a doctor figued out that he had a Urinary tract infection and he was put on antibiotics. They keep coming back and we don’t know why. He also has acid reflux and a milk allergy. It has been a difficult time but he makes me smile every day!

One thing that doesn’t make me happy is my new body. I really try hard to be happy with myself. I have been trying to work out and eat healthy, but it’s hard to do being a single mom. I gained 70 lbs during my pregnancy! I went from 120 up to 190! I was used to being small. Just when I start feeling a bit better about myself I have yet another person ask me if I am expecting again, or “how far along are you”. Even strangers ask me, it’s pretty depressing! I have more stretch marks then I can count and a sagging stomach. I don’t think I will ever feel comfortable naked around anyone. I wish I could just feel happy with myself, regardless of all this, but where do I start?

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11 Responses to “Not happy with the new me. (B’s Mommy)”

  1. Becca Says:
    August 11th, 2010 at 11:04 am

    I know how you feel…I have this new sagging stomach and all these stretch marks and it’s really hard to love my body. Especially when everyone else has the perfect body after having a baby.

  2. boom Says:
    August 11th, 2010 at 11:11 am

    u need to give urself time to get over havin a baby. u are only 6months pp girl.give ur body a chance plz. u will get ther eventually. keeep ur head up and keep smiling u r doin a gr8 job. having a bubba is one of the hardest jobs there is xxxx

  3. Nina Says:
    August 11th, 2010 at 11:34 am

    Sorry to hear your little guy has had such a tough time! Glad he keeps you smiling!

    It’s hard to stay positive when you’re down on the only vehicle you’ve really got, your body. It’s tempting to hide it under many layers, but try as much as you can to dress so you yourself think you look great, stretchmarks be damned! Give your body more time. Try dry brushing your skin, it has really helped my own loose skin tone up.

    Personally, I think you look great. You’ve got very cute proportions!

  4. Melissa Says:
    August 11th, 2010 at 4:19 pm

    I think you look good. The stretch marks will fade, and you will barely notice them. Im 3 yrs postpartum and I still cant except my body, and I come on this website, and I see these beautiful women, who look great, like you, who feel the same way about their body as I do, and I think, maybe it is just me. You are your own worst critic, beleive me. You look great, especially for only 6 months out!

  5. Sarah Says:
    August 12th, 2010 at 11:00 am

    You know, you don’t look pregnant at all. I don’t know why those strangers ask that. They’re just ridiculous! Your tummy looks very flat in my opinion! You look great! And for only six months postpartum?!?! You look flat-out AMAZING!!! Congratulations!!!

  6. jillian Says:
    August 12th, 2010 at 5:44 pm

    You look amazing!!! I dont really see any strethmarks, your skin looks nice and milky and smooth! I also dont know why people ask you how far along you are, you dont look pegnant at all to me! You have a great bum, nice round breasts and look well proportioned. Ive been asked too about when my due date is (and im not preggers) but instead of feeling humiliated and saying “im not pregnant” i just lie and say “oh in 3 months” and then i go on about how its a girl (i have 2 boys so this is my favorite part of the fantasy) i tell them a name and then i end the conversation with “so enough about my pregnancy, when are YOU due?” lol, maybe im cruel but i walk away with a sense of smug satisfaction instead of utter humiliation. :) I’m a single momma too, oh and btw, we ROCK!! Hopefully things will get better for your little guy, some babies just take a bit longer getting adjusted. Dont worry about getting naked around someone, the right man will come along and he will see all the beauty that the rest of us see in you! Keep focusing on yourself and your little man and eveything else will fall into place. Congrats!!

  7. Kristine Says:
    August 12th, 2010 at 8:20 pm

    I have the exact same tummy as yours. I think it’s coz of the c-section scar, I weigh 160 pounds (haven’t lost any weight and my little girl’s almost 2) when I used to be a skinny 120. I also have lots of stretch marks but you know what? I don’t care. My hubby loves me and my daughter absolutely adores me.

    I think you shouldn’t be so conscious about your body, you have everything in the world that you need: your beautiful baby boy.

  8. Emily Says:
    August 21st, 2010 at 3:25 pm

    omg! i didnt think i would find anyone that was as big as i was when i was pregnant! and i found you =) I was 110ibs pre pregnancy and i was 175 right before i had my son! he was 9ibs 2 ounces! I am a very short girl too 5ft, and i am 6 weeks post pregnancy and i look in the mirror and just cry because of how my stumic looks!! but its nice to know there are other ladies out there with this same issue. i have only seen other girls that had there little 7 or 6 ib babys abd pop right back to normal!! I have been told by many that it can only be fixed with plastic segury im hoping to prove them wrong!! feel free to email me =) i wouldnt mind talking to someone who is in the same boat as me =) em_bowser@yahoo.com

  9. Marz Says:
    November 3rd, 2010 at 9:39 pm

    some people just confuse the hell out of me– they ask you how far along you are, for real?? If that’s the case, then I agree with Jillian. Give them a taste of their own medicine. Seriously, some people are so friggin’ ignorant it hurts my head. You do NOT look pregnant.
    And in all seriousness, unless someone is wearing some kind of “baby on board” shirt– why on earth would you ask unless their belly button is about to poke your eye out? Am I the only one who thinks it’s weird for perfect strangers to strike up that kind of conversation with someone who looks like the poster’s pictures? I’m already mentally preparing myself…

  10. Mary Says:
    December 23rd, 2010 at 9:58 pm

    my son had chronic UTIs too and was put on antibiotics. turns out he has Urinary Reflux, which is where the urine comes out, then some of it goes back up to the kidneys. iwonder if your son has that too…

    i have been asked once when my next one was due and i smiled sweetly and said, “nope im just still fat from the last one.” the woman just about died. but i laughed. i know my stomach is bigger then it was before i got pregnant, duh, it’s natural, and eventually it will come down again. i know it. if only i could get up enough energy to actually exercise lol.

  11. payton Says:
    January 5th, 2011 at 9:52 pm

    OMG that is soo strange because my son has been in and out of the hospital as well he is 2 ina half months old an they kept passing it off as colic .. and still has not figured out what is wrong w. him also he has and alergy to milk and has to be on a certain formula andd has acid reflex.. HE has not stoped crying either it has been sooo hard. Its also so hard to have dumb dr.s keep telling you wrong things that are wrong with your child my baby seriously crys like he’s in some serious pain an it breaks my heart…. feel free to email me tho if you just want to talk about it.

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