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mis-carry (Anonymous)

June 16, 2008

I found this site and the testimonies about pregnancy and the mothers that have the same issues with their bodies that i have. i have been pregnant twice the first being miscarried at 6 months and the second my son was still-born. I hate my body. the stretch marks, the extra skin, and even worse my saggy breast. Finding this site has lifted my spirits and had inspired me to take a second look at myself. My husband and i are talking about trying to have another child but after my previous two i just dont know how my body will react again. These pictures not only took me forever to take because of my body issues but it has taken me a couple of months to get up the nerve as like the other brave mothers on this site and taken this step has helped me out quite a bit with my body issues and so forth.






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15 Responses to “mis-carry (Anonymous)”

  1. Jaime Says:
    June 16th, 2008 at 9:01 pm

    I think that you are beautiful. Listen to your heart, and God will guide you in your decision.

  2. mary Says:
    June 16th, 2008 at 9:04 pm

    I am so sorry for the loss of your 2 precious babies.

  3. Rachel Says:
    June 16th, 2008 at 10:21 pm

    Girl, don’t give up! I always believed that if you feel like you’re supposed to have children than you are! Even if it never works out you can be someone’s momma. Thousands of kids need a safe home and a loving family and it takes a REAL mother to take them in.

    Still, keep trying on your own. You’re obviously a very sweet person and you’ll make a great momma.

    Oh yeah, you hate your body? I think every part of you is beautiful.

  4. Allison Says:
    June 16th, 2008 at 11:06 pm

    You’re so brave and beautiful. Best of luck with whatever you and your husband decide to do.

  5. Anna Says:
    June 17th, 2008 at 4:18 am

    You poor thing, I can’t even imagine how you’ve coped with your losses. I wish you the very best of luck if you do decide to try again for a baby, you deserve happiness. Your body isn’t that bad, at all, looks a lot better than mine! I hope you find strength and acceptance from this site, and look after yourself. x

  6. Avery Says:
    June 17th, 2008 at 4:56 am

    Hugs to you. You strike me as incredibly strong and you will get through this. I am so sorry for your loss.

  7. dolly Says:
    June 17th, 2008 at 6:37 am

    I am so sorry, I had a full term Stillbirth and I know how it is so painful. You are so brave to try again, bless you. I have two lovely children and one in Heaven.

  8. Melissa Says:
    June 17th, 2008 at 8:19 am

    I’m so sorry you had to endure such loss in your life. The stretch marks and extra skin are all reminders of your little angels. Embrace your body and love yourself. My heart aches for you.

  9. martha Says:
    June 17th, 2008 at 1:51 pm

    I just wanted to tell you that my mom had me after two miscarraiges, one of which was a stillbirth. I thank God she was brave enough to try a third time; I also have a younger brother. Listen to your heart; you’ve already shown us how brave you are by posting here. Blessings to you.

  10. Sarah Says:
    June 17th, 2008 at 2:11 pm

    I couldn’t imagine being in your place. Only a strong woman such as you could do it! You are an inspiration!

    Have you talked to your doctor about hormonal issues that can cause miscarriages? I’m no expert, but I remember reading about progesterone issues that could make it hard to carry to full term. I know a lady who miscarries every time if she isn’t on progesterone.

    God bless you. I hope you get your baby! =D

  11. Rebecca Says:
    June 17th, 2008 at 9:07 pm

    Thirty-six years ago, then again twenty-six years ago, I had one, then another miscarriage. At the time, understanding support of any real meaningful type was hard to find. Pity was about all I remember, except from my mother.
    Today, I have a lovely twenty-five year old daughter, who has given me two terrific grandsons. I’m glad I didn’t give up.
    I lost one after my daughter was born, so she was an only, but I’m grateful for the blessing of other children/now wonderful adults in my life.

    Rachel is right that our poor broken world is full of children who need love, guidance and a commited parent (birth, adoptive or foster.)

    You will know what is right for you. In the meantime, be kind to yourself.
    By the way, your body is perfect.

    Rebecca

  12. Claire Says:
    June 18th, 2008 at 8:26 am

    Your post made me so sad on many diffenet levels – mainly because of your indescribable loss but also because of the look of sheer self-loathing and pain on your face in the mirror.

    Stop focussing on what you perceive is ‘wrong’ with you. I understand, believe me. But until we can stop concentrating on what is basically skin deep we will never be truly happy.

    Please be kinder to yourself. x x

  13. MH Says:
    June 18th, 2008 at 10:47 pm

    I am so very sorry for your losses. PLEASE ask your doctor to check you for thrombophilia, a blood clotting disorder which has been linked to repeat pregnancy losses and stillbirths. It can be treated. God bless you.

  14. michelle Says:
    June 19th, 2008 at 12:01 pm

    If your desire to have a child is still there please don’t give up on it. My husband and I also lost two babies before we were blessed with our beautiful daughter who is now 6 months old. At the time we decided we weren’t going to try again… I was on birth control (which i took religiously) and 4 months after our second loss I found out I was pregnant again… with our “little miracle.” I guess someone had other plans for us. I’m keeping you and your family in my thoughts and praying for a “little miracle” for you.

  15. happy mama Says:
    June 21st, 2008 at 2:48 pm

    Honey, keep your head up!! SMILE! I would love to see you re-post another pic, only give a huge smile. You’re beautiful.

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