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Learning (Trying Really Hard) to Accept and Love Myself (Rebecca)

November 29, 2011

i am 21 and i have had 2 pregnancies and one birth.
this is my body 1 year post pregnancy/c section.

i was a self harmer before baby, so i have some scars mainly to my thighs, i had almost come to accept them when i got pregnant.

the babys father left when i was 6 weeks pregnant, one of the biggest issues i have with my body, is that the last time anyone saw it, it was perfect (bar the scarring) and i am scared because the next person to see it wont like it. i was happy with what i had, neat breasts, toned tummy, hourglass figure, size 14, i’m now trying (and getting close) to being happy with my size 16, lived in tummy, pear?shaped figure, and the boobies that have nourished my child for 1 year…and show it.

my c section scar is uneven, as it was an emegency section due to arriving at hospital 9cms dilated, waters bulging, with baby in transverse lie with the cord covering the cervix which would have meant cord prolapse if my waters broke. my c section scar is a constant reminder that i didn’t get the birth i desired also.

but this is me, i do love my body for how it grew my son and got him into the world. i’m just learning to love how it looks.

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8 Responses to “Learning (Trying Really Hard) to Accept and Love Myself (Rebecca)”

  1. jackie Says:
    November 29th, 2011 at 11:12 am

    hun.. your stretch marks arent bad at all.. i have stretchmarks all overm y butt, inner thighs, some outter thighs, and on my knees… some on my calves too from pregnancy.. i wish i had just your stretch marks!! your beautiful remember that

  2. Dee Says:
    November 29th, 2011 at 11:54 am

    I have scars on my thighs, arms, and stomach from self-harm, also. I’d love to have a curvier figure like you. After pregnancy I was left with a much more boy-ish figure. It’s hard for me to love and accept myself. Some days are better than others, just gotta stay positive and remember all the great things your body has done. :)

  3. Sarah Says:
    November 29th, 2011 at 8:09 pm

    You are beautiful, Rebecca!

  4. Lacy Says:
    November 30th, 2011 at 9:36 am

    You have a beautiful waste line!

  5. Melissa Says:
    November 30th, 2011 at 11:10 pm

    We have a similar build. After the emotional damage of my daughters father and me finally ending it I was 3 months PP with lots of extra weight, post pardom depression, nasty c-section scar that wasn’t healing all too well and a really low self esteem. It took me a while, but once I started to accept myself, and realize it could be a lot worse, I could not have my beautiful little girl, or not (god forbid) miscarried like my daughters brother’s mom. (We were due at the same time). But men will appreciate your new mommy shape even though you may not. Late June early July I met the most perfect man, who kinda just fell into my lap when I wasn’t looking. I was 215 still sz 16, and he fell in love with me with all of the “imperfections” but he saw them as desirable. I’m 200 now, and trying to get back down to my 175-180 I was before I was pregnant. Just know that it will get better, and men will still see you as beautiful, even though you may not see how they will. :)

  6. marz Says:
    December 6th, 2011 at 12:44 am

    in Pic #2…is that for REAL??? Play to your strengths (whether or not you’re pregnant, pre-pregnant, or PP) girl and flaunt that ridiculous waistline.

  7. Sarah Says:
    December 9th, 2011 at 8:29 pm

    Thanks for posting, your tummy looks like mine and I think you look beautiful :)

  8. Polly Says:
    February 17th, 2012 at 6:30 am

    You have such a beautiful tiny waist! You’re a proper feminine hourglass figure and should be proud of it :-)

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