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It looks like a frowny face (Kerry)

May 6, 2010

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Age: 19
First pregnancy/birth: 1 year pp

Thats what my 5 year old nephew says about my belly button. It bothered me immensely the first time he said it, then the more I thought of it a little chuckle escaped.. how many people can say it looks like their button is frowning? That short sentence pretty much sums up my whole postpartum journey thus far; denial, anger, mortification, acceptance, appreciation, and enjoyment! If you asked me a year ago if I ever thought I’d enjoy my body again I’d have given you a very quick and convincing, “NO!” I was very depressed about my body, I compared myself with every single female I saw, childless or mother; and in my eyes they all looked better than me. Every time someone complimented me or told me I was looking great I was sure they were lying, there’s no way I could look great.

Over this past year I have changed a lot, but its more my attitude than my body. My breasts are shrunken and saggy, yet I cherish the memories they give me.. my son kneading and tugging on them as he nurses and in those moments I’m the only thing in the world he cares about. The right side of my belly has far more stretchmarks than the left, and every time I look down I remember having his back pushed up tight on that side of me for the entire pregnancy. The stretchmarks from the top of my breasts to my calves remind me how strong my body is and I marvel in the fact that I was privileged enough to grow another human being inside me and it never ceases to amaze me how a body can morph to accommodate that baby. I don’t think my body is better or worse than any other mom out there, we each have our own stories and our bodies illustrate that individuality. What fun would it be if we all fit the same mold??

I finally started working out around the new year, before that I had felt hopeless. It’s helped boost my confidence, energy and moods so much! I’ve lost 55 of the 60lbs I gained during my pregnancy so far. I hope to lose 5 or so more and continue to get in better shape. I just wanted to say how much I appreciate this site for helping me see what really matters, I firmly believe I would still loathe my body had I not found SOAM.

Picture 1: 1 yr pp full body shot
Picture 2: 1 yr pp close up of the “frowny face” button and strechmarks
Picture 3: 1 yr pp side
Pitcure 4: Levi 1 yr old!

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9 Responses to “It looks like a frowny face (Kerry)”

  1. Shannon Says:
    May 6th, 2010 at 7:38 am

    Kerry, you look amazing! I do not see a frowny face at all. I am actually quite jealous of your body! You have seen my yucky overhang :) You look sooo great! If you changed NOTHING at this point, you would still always look great. As always, Levi looks adorable :)

  2. Tessa Says:
    May 6th, 2010 at 9:11 am

    You look great! And look at that adorable little boy! Worth every bit of it, isn’t he?

  3. keara Says:
    May 6th, 2010 at 10:59 am

    you look pretty good, i woulndt mind looking like you after a kid myself…you look great!

  4. Jenna Says:
    May 6th, 2010 at 11:07 am

    You look really great. You don’t have much loose skin at all!

  5. kimber Says:
    May 6th, 2010 at 1:16 pm

    we’re twins!! i wish, you’re much more toned than me. looking good!

  6. Gil Warzecha Says:
    May 6th, 2010 at 8:07 pm

    You look AMAZING!!!!

  7. Emily Says:
    May 8th, 2010 at 12:42 pm

    I think you look incredible and your stretch marks are really faded.

  8. Helen Says:
    May 16th, 2010 at 10:11 pm

    My body looks like yours. A lot like yours. I’m 5 months postpartum too, and it’s great to be out of pregnancy isn’t it!

    The hardest thing for me is the marks on the stomach and the dark line. I have squeezed the skin and looked at the ripples, dimples and crevices that form. I wish I hadn’t, but it’s there to play with.

    I did work out doing an hour 5 days a week on a treadmill, on an incline of 10 to 14, going at least 2.7 mph. I think that’s toned me up the most.

    Good luck with your search to become beautiful again. Keep smiling, it’s what makes us the most beautiful

  9. amanda Says:
    April 24th, 2012 at 11:19 am

    But when you look at your own belly button, it must look like a smile! It’s all about perspective…

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