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I will lose this weight (Natalie)

April 7, 2008

During my pregnancy I gained 60lbs, I went from 115 lbs prepregnancy to now 6 months postpartum 153. I haven’t been able to lose any of the weight, I am miserable and have now started showing signs of a possible eating disorder. I will not accept my body how it is. I workout like crazy and it’s been 6 months and I have yet to lose 1 pound. I feel so disgusting, I hate looking in the mirror. I will not give up, I will keep trying to lose this weight. This site really helps, it’s amazing how different all of our bodies handle pregnancy and how supportive all of the ladies are. Thank you!






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22 Responses to “I will lose this weight (Natalie)”

  1. Sarah Says:
    April 7th, 2008 at 2:16 pm

    You need to start telling yourself “I will accept my body! I love my body. It is beautiful and so am I.” You do look very hot! You have beautiful perky breasts and a flat sexy tummy. Stop looking at the scale and start looking in the mirror at the beautiful woman and mother that you have become!!!!!

  2. kimmy Says:
    April 7th, 2008 at 2:16 pm

    i TOTALLY understand. i’ve never been compelled to write a comment before, but i am going through the same thing you are. i am 4mo pp and work out like a madwoman and i have not lost one single pound or inch. before i had children (i have three), i was 115lbs and now i am 155. my husband (God bless him…he loves me no matter what and thinks i’m beautiful) has been suggesting i go to the doctor’s to have my hormone levels checked. i am breastfeeding exclusively, so maybe my hormones do indeed have something to do with it.

    good luck with your weight loss!

  3. dan Says:
    April 7th, 2008 at 3:15 pm

    hi, let me start by saying that im a dad of 3 and love my wifes body more now than ever. you look beautiful. this is the first time ive ever commented on this site in the 2 years ive been visiting. i dont want to seem like a porn hound. you have no idea how many men ( i work in an autorepair shop)would look at you and some 110 lb girl and say ” damn, shes hot” referring to you, love yourself, i gaurentee there are more guys checking you out than you think.
    hot moms rock
    Dan….

  4. Farrah Says:
    April 7th, 2008 at 3:36 pm

    You look healthy to me, maybe 115 was a little underweight for you. I’m 30 weeks 5’4” 155lbs and still active. I was in top shape before pregnancy at 130lbs. My bestfriend is a trainer. I’ve been 115 and it wasn’t a healthy weight for me. At 130 I looked good and felt strong. Thats how you look to me, Healthy muscle tone. and I wish I had your boobs.

  5. Rachel Says:
    April 7th, 2008 at 5:20 pm

    You hate looking in the mirror? You’re beautiful girl!!!

    I think you have a very sexy body and very nice boobs. You’re just one of those girls with curves in all of the right places. I bet at 115 you didn’t look as “woman” as you do now!

  6. Rachel Says:
    April 7th, 2008 at 5:24 pm

    I forgot to ask where you got the green panties, they’re cute!

  7. Jonathon Says:
    April 7th, 2008 at 8:12 pm

    You have an absolutely beautiful body. I am also a man and think my wife has a sexy body after 2 with one on the way. You should be proud of your body and your husband is a very lucky man.

  8. Juliet Says:
    April 7th, 2008 at 9:47 pm

    We could be body doubles! I weigh 150lb at 2 years post-partum, up from 120lb pre baby. Don’t be disgusted when you look in the mirror, you look awesome!

  9. Lucy Says:
    April 7th, 2008 at 11:00 pm

    It looks like you don’t need to lose any weight to me. But the way I lost weight after pregnancy was by learning about proper food combining. The book I started with was Fit For Life, and it helped the weight come off naturally. There may be better books out there about food combining, but that’s the one I read. But damn, you look so good already!

  10. Jessica Says:
    April 7th, 2008 at 11:14 pm

    I like you look fantastic! I would love love love to have your tummy!!! I think women who have some curves are beautiful! I actually didnt lose all my baby weight either and My hubby keeps saying dont lose anymore dont lose anymore!!!! You look good with some curves! You should be sooo happy with your body you have an awesome body!

  11. Natalie Says:
    April 8th, 2008 at 8:56 am

    Thank you guys, it’s been such a hard struggle and since I have posted these pics I have lost 6lbs from eating healthier and still breastfeeding. Thank all of you so much for such positive words of encouragement, it means so much!

    P.S. The green panties are from Old Navy!

  12. tinifer Says:
    April 8th, 2008 at 10:20 am

    First, I have to say, I think you look fatntastic. Second, are you breastfeeding? I noticed a comment to your post from a gal who is breastfeeding and not losing weight. I have five kids, my youngest is now six. I know most women lose weight from breastfeeding, but I have to tell you that I never lost a pound, once home from the birth, until I stopped nursing. I’m not telling you to stop nursing, on the contrarty, I nursed all of mine for 1-3yrs, but no matter how healthy I ate, how many miles I ran or how many reps/sets I did, I wouldn’t lose, sometimes I’d even gain. However, after putting myself aside for my kiddos, everytime the nursing ended I’d drop 15 pounds in a matter of weeks. just food for thought!

  13. Joanie Says:
    April 8th, 2008 at 5:47 pm

    Girlfriend, you are beautiful! What a sexy body. I am 8-1/2 mos pregnant with my second and I hope I look as good as you after! Chin up. I think you look great!

  14. chingona Says:
    April 8th, 2008 at 9:48 pm

    You look fantastic. I honestly cannot imagine you much thinner.

  15. kristine Says:
    April 8th, 2008 at 10:47 pm

    girl I think your body is hott!!!I am not seeing the issue here..I think you look fantastic..I hope I look that good

  16. rod Says:
    April 9th, 2008 at 8:21 am

    natalie, I am a certified personal trainer and Certified Health Promotion Director and most of my clients obviously are women. I understand you want to lose weight but please don’t let that(the scale) be the number that holds your attention. the scale is NOT the best indicator of your success but could instead become a precursor for frustration. The most important numbers are surrounding your body fat percentage and making sure you have a healthy waist-hip ratio. Do you know what those numbers are currently? I would love to be of assistance. Please let me know if I can help.

  17. happy mama Says:
    April 9th, 2008 at 5:54 pm

    You are gorgeous! Your breasts are glorious, your belly is soft and sexy, your posture in the pics with the green underwear is darn sexy. Be proud of how you look NOW – just think, in 30 years you’ll look back and say, “if only I looked like that now…” Enjoy it! You are on hot mom.

  18. holly Says:
    April 11th, 2008 at 6:55 am

    I think you are beautiful. And I also know that no matter how many people tell you that, you probably won’t believe it. I can relate to you on every level. And trust me and what the other posters have said, some breastfeeding moms simply cannot lose weight whereas for others the weight just falls off. I was in the former category. Pre-prego I had 19% body fat and was a size 4/6 at 5’8″. Like you, I worked out daily while breastfeeding to no avail. I was determined to lose that baby weight. I even trained and ran an half-marathon when my son was only nine months old. And you know what? That weight didn’t even start to budge until I weaned when he was close to a year old. That was just the way my body wanted to handle it. Now my son is 15 months old. I am back to my “old self.” To tell you the truth, I am even more comfortable in my skin than I was before I was prego because that time gave me the time to cope with the changes. I won’t lie to you and say I liked my post partum body at first. I was disgusted every day with it. I have a history of body image issues and disorded eating. But I truly believe that training for my race allowed me to take the focus off my physical appearance and allowed me to build my inner self-confidence. Enjoy this time, you can never get it back. Enjoy nursing your baby. The weight will come off once you wean and your body will undergo more change. I didn’t know that then. Take heart from the women here who know. I bet that a year from now, you will look in the mirror and smile at that new person you will see peering back at you. You will have changed—both inside and out. take care.

  19. amster Says:
    April 11th, 2008 at 12:02 pm

    Just something to think about – the little girl in that photo is going to learn how to relate to her body from you. If every time you pass a mirror and say I’m so fat, or I’m so ugly… well then, guess what she’s going to do as a young woman? Your ED will set her up for one later – and I know that’s not what you want for your daughter!

    Even if you don’t mean it, next time you pass by a mirror, try smiling and telling yourself you’re beautiful. She’ll learn that it’s ok to think of herself as beautiful… and who knows? You might even begin to believe it yourself – because trust me, girl, you are!

  20. Nicole: Says:
    April 21st, 2008 at 9:25 pm

    You owe your daughter more then what your giving her. Like Amster said what do you think your body hate is going to do to her. I had body issues before having a baby. But the second I held my son I refuse to stress about. My love for him over rides EVERYTHING. I know an anorexic mom with two daughters. I honestly feel she is abusing them by giving them that horrible example. Its not fair. They didn’t choose to be here. We give up the right to be selfish when we have kids.

    Please get help if not for you for your daughter. If you love her you will.

    By the way you that baby is beautiful!!!

  21. Jenny Says:
    April 24th, 2008 at 11:14 am

    Natalie: Can I ask you if you are nursing? This is a common, but not much talked about phenomena. I nursed both of my kids until they were 16 months old. People go on and on about how the weight will just melt away. This does not happen for all women. In fact, some women will harbor the calories and their metabolisms will slow down to a turtles pace. I stuck out the nursing with both of my children and after I stopped, that’s when my 50 pounds of baby weight came off. I tried and tried as well. Don’t despair. You look fabulous and have a baby to show for your hard work! I don’t want to discourage you from nursing if you are. Nothing can be better for your child. My daughter is now 21 months and I am back to my old weight again. Thank you for posting this. I am sure so many women are in this same situation. You are beautiful!

  22. Sarah Lamb Says:
    May 12th, 2008 at 11:59 pm

    You look amazing!
    I get it must have been upsetting when your body changed and you’re looking to regain some control,
    but body image issues and eating disorders take your control away and stop you seeing what’s really there-your beautiful body and your beautiful baby. Please get support and don’t risk your precious health, especially at such an important and exciting time. Your baby needs a healthy, happy mummy.

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