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Before our loss & After (Anonymous)

April 18, 2007

Here are photos of my while I was VERY pregnant with our first child. My due date was Feb. 23 2007. I went into labor while I was 41 weeks pregnant at home, well my labor did not continue at home. I delivered our baby Birdie via emergency c-section, and Birdie was stillborn.

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40 Responses to “Before our loss & After (Anonymous)”

  1. Miranda Says:
    April 18th, 2007 at 7:42 pm

    That is so sad. I’m so sorry for your family’s loss. Thank you for sharing your photos and story.

  2. Kodismom Says:
    April 19th, 2007 at 12:23 am

    Those pictures are beautiful thank you so much for sharing them with SOAM… I am terribly sorry for your family’s loss.

  3. Danielle Says:
    April 19th, 2007 at 6:00 am

    I’m so sorry for the loss of your precious baby!I know exactly what you are going through. My daughter was stillborn in February. I know the pain and suffering and the longing for the baby that you have scars for but dont have. You can read my story in the March 2007 archives toward the very end. I’m terribly sorry…

  4. Rebekah Says:
    April 19th, 2007 at 6:13 am

    My heart breaks for you and what you have gone through.

  5. Fedora Says:
    April 19th, 2007 at 9:14 am

    I’m so sorry to hear of your family’s loss. Thank you for sharing, and may you find comfort, peace, and healing.

  6. Tammy Says:
    April 19th, 2007 at 10:29 am

    I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing. May you receive peace and comfort.

  7. Leigh Says:
    April 19th, 2007 at 11:05 am

    My heart is breaking for you, sweet goddess birthing mama.
    Your little Birdie is so beautiful and so are you and your partner. May she return to you in this lifetime, or another.
    Sending you love through the skies,

  8. drea Says:
    April 19th, 2007 at 12:41 pm

    that pic with you holding the baby is so beautiful

  9. Miss Valerie Jean Says:
    April 19th, 2007 at 1:09 pm

    I am so sorry for your heartbreaking loss. Your photos are gorgeous.

  10. beanbaggie Says:
    April 19th, 2007 at 2:15 pm

    I am so sorry for the loss of your Birdie. What a lovely name. She is beautiful in that picture. And the one of you laboring in the tub is excellent, aesthetically and artistically. I’m so sorry it ended sadly. My thoughts are with you and your husband/partner.

  11. Janice Says:
    April 19th, 2007 at 4:50 pm

    Such beautiful pictures. I’m sorry that your beautiful baby wasn’t able to stay with you.

  12. Bessie Says:
    April 19th, 2007 at 5:37 pm

    Bless you for sharing your story. Your photos are beautiful.

  13. Elle Says:
    April 19th, 2007 at 6:00 pm

    Your little baby Birdie is beautiful. I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your story and pictures. Take care.

  14. Autumn Says:
    April 19th, 2007 at 9:38 pm

    i’m so sorry for your loss, those pictures are very beautiful.

  15. Raine Says:
    April 19th, 2007 at 10:41 pm

    Your picture holding your little girl with your husband looking over your shoulder made my heart clench so painfully. It is SO poignant and beautiful! I am truly sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your photos. You are an amazing woman…

    Blessings upon you.

  16. Mariel Says:
    April 30th, 2007 at 12:07 am

    Your daughters spirit must have been too pure for this world… She is one of the most beautiful babies I have ever seen. My heart and prayers go out to you and your family. I should have a post up some time within the next few days – I remember my loss; my heart aches for you. Always.

  17. Caroline Says:
    May 3rd, 2007 at 8:48 am

    I am so sorry. Posting your photos is a lovely tribute to your beautiful girl.

  18. dot Says:
    May 11th, 2007 at 11:48 am

    I 1st want to say that i am sorry,

    and then say thank you for sharing!!

    make you receive strength thur it all

  19. monica Says:
    May 22nd, 2007 at 1:13 pm

    My dear,
    I am so sorry.
    Crying reading your post.
    I hope you come to peace with your huge loss.
    I’m sure birdie’s soul is waiting to fly back into your body again – when you’re ready.

    So sorry,

  20. Caitlin Says:
    May 31st, 2007 at 7:36 am

    Your pictures are beautiful and so is your little girl…you’re an amazing person for being able to share your story as hard as it may be for you..I’m sure your pictures and story have helped alot of women realize they’re not alone…

  21. Diva Says:
    June 10th, 2007 at 5:39 am

    I am so, so sorry….Birdie is beautiful, your pictures are gorgeous. Thank you for sharing them, as treasured as they must be.

  22. ellie Says:
    June 11th, 2007 at 4:07 pm

    aw honey. I wish I could have been the only person in the world to ever lose a baby. For that, it would be worth the pain.

  23. elvira Says:
    June 20th, 2007 at 10:41 am

    so so sorry for your loss
    she is so beautiful – all 3 of you look so gorgeous and strong in the picture!
    good luck with the healing.
    sending love & more strength

  24. Melissa Says:
    June 23rd, 2007 at 12:22 am

    I am so sorry for your loss. I have many different emotions going right now, with tears in my eyes. My family endured a similar loss 6/05. May your family find peace. Birdie is flying in the heavens. Your family is beautiful.

  25. Kendra Says:
    June 25th, 2007 at 7:43 pm

    “An angel in the Book of Life wrote down your Birdie’s birth. Then whispered as she closed the book, “Too beautiful for earth.”

    Such beautiful pictures – I’m so sorry for your loss.

  26. Beck Says:
    June 28th, 2007 at 7:43 am

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Birdie is beautiful

  27. April Says:
    June 29th, 2007 at 10:37 pm

    I am so very sorry for your loss. Birdie was a beautiful little angel.

  28. kim Says:
    July 14th, 2007 at 7:14 pm

    I am so sorry…:(

  29. Charlotte Says:
    July 24th, 2007 at 12:50 pm

    I am so so sorry for your loss. Many thanks for posting your story and pictures they are truley beautiful! xxx

  30. Laura Says:
    August 1st, 2007 at 11:29 am

    I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I will pray for you that you will find comfort and strength. We don’t know why things like this happen, and it probably won’t ever make sense to you this side of heaven. But please know that God is in control even when life feels so sad and out of control. He will help you through this.
    Bless you and your partner for sharing your story. I am so sorry for your loss.

  31. Wendy Says:
    August 24th, 2007 at 1:16 pm

    I came to this site a few months ago, while pregnant with my first child, and remember feeling so sad over your loss. I just lost that child – my darling boy, Soren, after 30 weeks, 5 days, and now I realize that any sadness I felt was nothing compared to what you went through, and what I am going through now. Your Birdie is beautiful, and the love you both have for her is so beautifully plain across your faces. Take care…

  32. Sasha Says:
    August 29th, 2007 at 6:32 am

    I started crying as soon as I saw the picture of you holding her. I can’t imagine the pain you must have felt. I am so sorry, I hope you have found comfort and peace.

  33. lisa Says:
    September 29th, 2007 at 10:57 am

    your baby is beatiful and makes me cry to think of your heartache, i am so deeply sorry….a x&o from me

  34. Maroline Says:
    October 22nd, 2007 at 8:37 am

    I am so sorry for your loss and your heartache. Thank you for sharing your story.

  35. ozan Says:
    November 14th, 2007 at 8:46 am

    i am so sorry! i lost my baby in january of this year as well after 41 weeks and a failed homebirth. i too have a scar and nothing to show for it. please know you are not alone.

  36. Heather Says:
    January 18th, 2008 at 2:04 am

    Just wanted to say how beautiful little Birdie is, I had tears in my eyes reading your post and viewing your photos. I am honoured that you allowed us into your special time with your little girl

  37. Tanya Says:
    January 19th, 2008 at 10:47 pm

    What beautiful pictures. Your Birdie is beautiful. I’m sure her flight to Heaven was easier with your love under her wings.

  38. Kenia Santos Says:
    February 28th, 2008 at 1:21 pm

    So sorry for your loss. Having had a stillbirth myself i know its hard (i lost my son a couple of weeks b4 he was to be born) at times it feels like u cant go on. But our motherly instinct kicks in and we know that our babies are happy in heaven….Ur pics are beautiful. Im sure she is in heaven lookn out for both of you, takin care of you and loving u every second that goes by.
    God Bless

  39. kasey Says:
    February 29th, 2008 at 2:54 am

    Oh mama & papa,

    My heart breaks for you both. O wonder if you are still reading these comments, if you keep coming back to fill your hearts up a little more when they are empty. I showed my husband your post and photos and our hearts break , our love and empathy goes out to you both. We had an unnassisted home birth as we are over an hour from the hospital, well, i was scared of what could go wrong. Thankfully nothing did but my little one was very slow to get going. Those moments take an eternity are completely surreal and stay in your heart and memory forever. Hold onto the beautiful memories of your beautiful little Birdie in your belly and heart, know that she touched you both so deeply that you have explored every depth of emotion and have grown and eveloved in your souls. Your little Angel was a magical little spirit that came to you to teach you about love….. I hope you have loving understanding family and friends to help you both
    xx Love to you both and your beutiful perfect little spirit girl xx

  40. Jewels Says:
    April 11th, 2008 at 5:44 am

    I just wanted to say how beautiful your photos are. My heart was breaking for you both in the photo of you with your precious daughter Birdie. xx


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