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An Update (Dolly)

December 8, 2009

A while ago I sent this submission.

I want to thank you for allowing me to share, and for all the comments.
This site was just what I needed…
At that time I wanted nothing more than to talk- but t was so awkward. People seem to avoid talking to me about Chelsea. I now (nearly 3 years later) still like to talk of her. She was real to me and to my husband and other two children. She will always be with us and I include her when people ask how many children I have. I usually say two at home and one in Heaven. I encourage Moms to talk or not- do what you NEED. Your baby happened- it was real embrace your own heart and do’ let others tell you how to grieve or how to recover .
Here is her web page.
I update it yearly.

Thanks again- No longer anonymous

Updated here and here.

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12 Responses to “An Update (Dolly)”

  1. Sierra Says:
    December 8th, 2009 at 3:13 pm

    This is beautiful. I’m so sorry for your loss. I just clicked on your previous entry and read it. It truly brought tears to my eyes. I cannot possibly conceive or imagine how hard that must’ve been for you. You are a very strong woman and my heart truly goes out to you. And for the record i’m glad you include her when you mention your kids, bc she is real, she did happen, and she’s there with you every single day!! My best friend’s son was born at 20 wks with anecepholy (sp) and she grieved for the longest and had every right to. I stuck by her side through it all and could not ever imagine her pain. This past year she got a tattoo with his little footprints on her back, she named him Angel, and he was perfect. Every year she celebrates his birthday. So i think it is wonderful that you acknowledge her. She was beautiful! God Bless you and your family and your angel baby. She’s in God’s arms now keep a close eye on her family!

  2. Sarah Says:
    December 8th, 2009 at 6:36 pm

    Thank you so much for updating us. I am glad you have Faith to bring you strength in your times of need. Nobody goes without pain in this world. Faith keeps us going when the bad times DO come.

    Blessings

  3. Shannon Says:
    December 9th, 2009 at 12:39 am

    Wow x…I have no doubt whatsoever that Chelsea is heaven and is looking down and is so proud of her Mumma…..you are totally amazing and your beautiful story makes my obsessiveness over my stupid stretchmarks and loose ski seem pathetic. Which I am. I need to put it all in perspective and think about you, your family, Chelsea and all the other Mum’s that have experienced such sadness. Thank you so much for sharing. Peace & Love x

  4. shannon Says:
    December 9th, 2009 at 6:51 am

    I lost my baby boy when he was 19 months old. I still talk to him too! I talk about him, to him, we made an email account for Connor and when we are thinking of him we write him an email! When people ask how many kids I have I always say 2 (sometimes I tell them that Connor passed away…other times I just tell them he is the age that he would have been…either way, he will always be my baby boy). Your daughter is so beautiful by the way. This is definitely the hardest thing anyone could ever go through…but, God had bigger plans for our PERFECT babies :) I am under “Child Loss” I have a few entries, the most recent it “2.5 months pp, 2nd cesarean in 2.5 years”

  5. n Says:
    December 9th, 2009 at 11:32 am

    i remember your original entry and it brought tears to my eyes. your angel was so sweet looking, serene almost. god bless her.

  6. New Mommy Says:
    December 9th, 2009 at 11:28 pm

    So very sorry for your loss. You are a strong Woman. Continue to be brave and live your best life possible. ((big hug))

  7. nicole Says:
    December 11th, 2009 at 4:42 pm

    I cried reading your posting. My heart goes out to your family.

    God Bless

  8. Bettina Says:
    December 30th, 2009 at 9:44 am

    I couldn’t stop crying while reading your posting and looking at Chelsea’s website. I don’t think I could ever have your strength if anything like this would happen to me. My 15-months-old son is taking his nap right now, but when he wakes up, I will squeeze him so hard and tell him I love him very much. I get sick just thinking of something happening to him. You are so brave. My heart goes out to you and all parents who have lost a child. Next time my son tests my limits and acts all crazy, I’ll just think about how lucky I am to have him, instead of getting mad at him. Thanks.

  9. Tara Says:
    January 3rd, 2010 at 11:01 pm

    I can’t relate to your situation directly, but I am a mother. It hurt my heart to read your story. I commend you so much for being this strong. Your little girl is definitely looking down on all of you. Everyone loves their children but when you hear of someone else’s loss and the grief they went through, it really puts how blessed you are into prospective. Chelsea is beautiful. Never stop talking or remembering her!

  10. Mary Says:
    January 23rd, 2010 at 5:12 pm

    Dolly, You are a very strong woman and one of the best mothers I know. Chelsea was a beautiful baby and now she is a beautiful angel.God had His own plan for Chelsea the day she was born. Sarah and Jacob are blessed that God chose you for their mommy. You and your family have gone through so much in loosing Chelsea. I am very honored to have you as my little sister. You make me very proud of you. Keep up the good work of encouraging other parents in your similar situations.

  11. Ewa Says:
    February 20th, 2010 at 3:16 pm

    I’m on this website after one of our newspaper wrote about it. I didn’t want to read about the losses, but found your story. I’m a mother of two, I’m still studying, working and having a normal family life. I’m getting tired and mad sometimes (not proud of it). My second baby was born one month before the due date, which would’n be a threat, but got the lungs infection. I truly was praying to save her. I asked God to give me a chance to love her. I’m so happy to get that chance. In the moments of anger I try not to forget what a precious gifts I got: a chance to be a better person. The children are the best teatchers. Thank you for reminding me what is of the most importance.

  12. mother of 2 Says:
    August 17th, 2010 at 2:22 pm

    i cried readin ur post, u have so much strength its unbelivable xxx

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