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After Second Baby (Anonymous)

March 17, 2008

I had my first child at 18, was pregnant at 17. Gained pretty much in my belly only and managed to go 8 mos without any stretch marks, so i thought i was in the clear! until one, then two, then…well you’ll see the pics. After having my son, I still had to go back to high school so what a self-esteem slap in the face :( then summer time! AH, no more bikinis for me. 1 1/2 years later I got prenant again, this time I gained EVERYWHERE, my butt, my hips, my thighs, my belly (thankfully already stretched lol) which cropped up new stretchmarks all over. In college with this baby, had to return to a younger kid based population and again feel like complete crap because I didnt have the flat tight tummy, never really did, but it was at least cute looking bare, now on the other hand. It is just plain disgusting, my husband says I am still the same size and everything as when I had our son (1st baby) only I have just a “pouch”. I call it my inner-tube. haha, I guess the only way to feel comfortable is to accept it and make fun of yourself if it helps, as it does for me. It is slowly, SLOWLY returning to something then gross when I wear tighter clothes, but I saw a girl my age, NO kids and she has the huge butt, fatty hips, etc. and NO cute babies at home to look at in exchange for the chubby body. :)








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2 Responses to “After Second Baby (Anonymous)”

  1. Sarah Says:
    March 17th, 2008 at 2:44 pm

    I’m sorry to hear that you feel so negatively toward your beautiful body that carried two healthy beautiful children into the world! You look great! And your husband is telling the truth!!! I’ve noticed this phenomenon from my husband and my sister’s husband as well. She was 98 pounds when they started dating and is now around 135 and I was around 106 when my hubby and I started dating and am now 128. We both have chub and flab and stretchmarks we didn’t have before, but both our hubbies swear we look the exact same. They seriously do. In their minds, if they truly love us (as your hubby loves you!), you never change in their sight. They think you look beautiful and perfect and the same as when they met you the first time! So stop feeling ashamed and enjoy it!!!! :D

  2. HMY Says:
    November 25th, 2010 at 12:33 pm

    I just stumbled across this website and wanted to say that YOU LOOK AMAZINGLY BEAUTIFUL!

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