I had my first child at 18, was pregnant at 17. Gained pretty much in my belly only and managed to go 8 mos without any stretch marks, so i thought i was in the clear! until one, then two, then…well you’ll see the pics. After having my son, I still had to go back to high school so what a self-esteem slap in the face then summer time! AH, no more bikinis for me. 1 1/2 years later I got prenant again, this time I gained EVERYWHERE, my butt, my hips, my thighs, my belly (thankfully already stretched lol) which cropped up new stretchmarks all over. In college with this baby, had to return to a younger kid based population and again feel like complete crap because I didnt have the flat tight tummy, never really did, but it was at least cute looking bare, now on the other hand. It is just plain disgusting, my husband says I am still the same size and everything as when I had our son (1st baby) only I have just a “pouch”. I call it my inner-tube. haha, I guess the only way to feel comfortable is to accept it and make fun of yourself if it helps, as it does for me. It is slowly, SLOWLY returning to something then gross when I wear tighter clothes, but I saw a girl my age, NO kids and she has the huge butt, fatty hips, etc. and NO cute babies at home to look at in exchange for the chubby body.