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After 10 Years I’m Still Not Comfortable (Kay)

March 27, 2009

I’m 30 years old and had my son when I was 20. I was tiny before I was pregnant (5’2″ and 105lbs) and my belly was pretty small up until I was 7 months pregnant, then I don’t know what happened…maybe the baby turned? My belly POPPED out and I developed horrible stretch marks on the stomach and breasts. I absolutely hated my body and went to a plastic surgeon to see about getting a tummy tuck and breast lift but both he and my family encouraged me to wait because I was so young and will get marks again if I got pregnant…well, 10 years later and still no husband or baby! I feel like I missed out on my 20′s because I never got to wear a bikini or a cute belly baring top or to pierce my navel. I am glad I found this site though, it’s comforting to find others in similar situations. I only started being more confident the past year or so and actually wore a bikini on vacation in Miami last year. I almost cried whilst running full speed into the water before too many people saw me, but the water felt sooooo good on my skin! I’m trying to be more confident and not so concerned with how I look or what others will think, but it’s still very hard…

I spent the last 10 years hiding from the world, but here we go…this is me under all the clothes. . .

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8 Responses to “After 10 Years I’m Still Not Comfortable (Kay)”

  1. marnelle Says:
    March 27th, 2009 at 10:14 am

    honestly, you look fine. your breasts are small and lovely, the strech marks can improve with using organic natural oils. you are perfectly deserving of the love of a man, and he will manifest when you truly accept all of yourself. imagine how many single guys would love to go out with you, loads, i’m sure. human beings are not made of flesh alone, but soul and heart and unique emotional aspects.
    think of all the beautiful things you can offer, concentrate on your best.

  2. Jilly Says:
    March 27th, 2009 at 10:18 am

    Oh mama… I’m 27, never wear a bikini and don’t have my belly button pierced (and I doubt I’ll start anytime soon!)

    Don’t forget what you DID do during your 20s — you raised a wonderful, smart, beautiful little boy! What a great way to spend 10 years! I’m very proud of you for wearing your bikini in FL — good job!

    There are many years of bikinis and beaches and wonderful moments with your little man ahead. You don’t look bad, you look healthy and normal! Please try not to be so hard on yourself. You really don’t deserve it!

    lots of hugs to you!

  3. taiyo Says:
    March 27th, 2009 at 8:33 pm

    Your gorgeous!

  4. chris Says:
    March 31st, 2009 at 8:59 am

    Kay, please listen to the ladys above. You do look great! To know that you are attractive (and you ARE!!) is important to you AND your son. If you feel uncomfortable with yourself your son will pick up on that and then feel uncomfortable with himself. Our children think that we are the greatest people in the world. Know what? Our children are right!

    My wife & I visit this site. We admire the beauty and strength of the moms on the pages. Thank you for sharing your beauty and strength with us. Now share it with yourself, let others know that you are strong and beautiful, especially your son. Sexy also comes from confidence. You showed your confidence last summer in Maimi. This Summer is coming… got that bikini ready?…

  5. Britney Says:
    April 1st, 2009 at 9:47 am

    I applaud you for your courage!!!! I swear when a man has stretch marks may he be skinny or fat no one gawks and points or anything. But women who have a reason which in most some cases are uncontrollable as to why they have stretch marks.People want to say side comments, when truly they should turn their fingers right around because they probably have “badges of honor” while they are judging. I say if you take care of your body and your healthy do what you feel!

  6. Sarah Says:
    April 6th, 2009 at 12:43 pm

    Kay you look beautiful, you should be proud! You say you missed out being in your 20′s not wearing a bikini or wearing cute clothes but having and raising your child is more fulfilling and provides you with more happiness and joy then any piece of clothing would ever give you. In my opinion you look great enough to wear a bikini anyway, i understand that it really doesn’t matter what other people think and it is just your personal opinion and view of yourself, but i hope you begin to love yourself as it would be a shame to feel you missed out on your 30′s as well..try not to be too hard on yourself you look fantastic, your still a lot slimmer than me and i haven’t had children yet! Get out there this summer chick..!

  7. kay Says:
    April 10th, 2009 at 7:35 pm

    thanks you guys!! u have no idea how ur comments have helped me!

  8. Katelyn Says:
    July 9th, 2009 at 9:35 pm

    inredible : ) you look just like me! body, hair, & all. your body is beautiful in itself and in that it created life, dear : )

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