Pregnancies: 6
Births: 3
Children: Twins 3 & a baby 2 months
I know there are many women on here. You come from all walks of life. However there are two things we have in common… we are unhappy or saddened by our bodies and we love our children.
Being a mother at a young age (20) I gave birth to twins a boy and girl (Johnathan & Allison.) After trying for so long to have a baby god blessed us with two. Now going on 4 yrs. this Christmas they have been my life. After having the twins I was very insecure with my body and didn’t’ find myself attractive… sound familiar ladies? So what I did was have my hubby take pictures of me, to see what I look like threw his eyes. It worked. I felt amazing after I saw the pictures and I realized that I wasn’t suppose to be ashamed of my body, but embrace it. It was after all what I prayed to god for. He gave me what I dreamed of. I know that it’s difficult to look in the mirror and think to yourself, “Wow I have a kick ass body.” Let’s face it ladies, there are very few of us who can do that.
After just having my second son, (Zach) on Aug. 2-10, I have been working my butt off to lose weight. I only gained 10 pounds with him and I gained 8 with the twins. After I had my twins I thought to myself that I missed my smooth skin, the non Freddy Couger look that I carry around my stomach now. But I was so thankful to have them, it no longer mattered. That is until my clothes were off. Here I am three kids later and I know that my tummy will always look like a nightmare. However there are things we can do about the looks. For many of us we cannot afford tummy tucks or breast lifts…. but here are a few helpful hints to get that new mama body back into shape. For those of us who are blessed with the breastfeeding boobies, I have found that push ups work wonders for giving our girls a lift. The tummy, well that’s a little harder. I’m still working on that one myself, but I have found that running, biking and a combo of other exercises do help decrease the flabbiness of the tummy and underarms, (batwings.)
Our children are what drives us to be better, what not let our husbands, boyfriends be the reason to get back into shape? That is what is driving me. I want to look better and feel sexy in my own skin. It’s time we got used to our new bodies and embrace them. I’m a bigger lady and I wear my skin with pride… on most days… think of stretch marks as battle scares of motherhood. The belly bulge as a reminder that you carried a human being for months and you brought him/her/them into this world healthy. You did that. Be proud mama, you deserve a little happiness. Next time you go into a public place, take a look around you. Look at the women. Today’s world is changing. There are many of us out there who are feeling the same way, but if you look closely you can see that we are the real women… not the women the public wants us to be. We are mothers and as such, we should embrace it. Be proud to be a mama and our bodies that our little ones gave us. I truly hope this post helps some of you, that this gives you ambition, hope and inspiration. I’m attaching some pictures of pre-pregnancy and post par tum along with my three children.
push ups don’t do a thing for me. where are you guys buying them? victoria’s secret? my boobs are so empty they just get held up a little and then back settle down in the cups. there’s no “up” going on here! :) nice post and congrats on your new baby!!
b’smama: Hey girl, I’m sorry to hear that you’re having a hard time with the boobies not wanting to do what they are suppose to. Have you tried buying a bra size smaller? The more tight the cups are the more your girls will push up and out. You could also try a padded bra to help support them. Hope this helps.
After I weaned my daughter a few months ago, I thought “you know, my boobs don’t really sag all that much more”. They were never perky (I was a 32F before I got pregnant and there was just too much weight for them to stay “up”) so it didn’t really bother me. Then I was comparing pre-pregnancy and 1-year-postpartum pictures one night and I realized the girls have gone quite a ways south! Oops! When I finally switched back to my non-nursing bras I also discovered I now have to pull them up and tuck them into the bra.
Sorry, that was a long story. But the point is, they look the same under a shirt as they used to. And my husband loves them anyway! Plus they did something awesome and provided 100% of my daughter’s nutrition for the first six months of her life. I’ll be damned if I let anybody make me feel bad because I don’t have the breasts of a teenager.
Your children are beautiful and your waist is so tiny! You have a great hourglass figure.
I think she meant push ups the exercise, not the bra :) Thanks for the tip… I don’t think my boobs will ever pass the pencil test, but I’m willing to give it a try. I think you look beautiful. Very womanly. I also love the idea of letting your husband take sensual poses of you to see yourself through his eyes and the parts he loves best.
* sensual photos :)
I have to agree with Sheila, having hubby take your photos was a great idea.
Thank you ladies. I agree with the having to pull and tuck the boobies into the bra. That part sucks but it doesn’t bother me anymore. My belly bothers me the most, but like everything else, it’s just something we have to get used to. It’s not going to change anytime soon.
Your hudsband was right you have a great body.
You look great! Thanks for sharing.