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Your Body

June 7, 2010

You’ve found your Fairy Godmother and she wants to know how you would change your body if you could. Would it be your belly? Something unrelated to childbirth – like your nose? Would you change nothing? Share your wishes in the comments below.

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74 Responses to “Your Body”

  1. Amy Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 9:40 am

    I want my booty back! I just lost a bunch of weight, and my butt went with it :( I have never had a flat butt until now (even when I was thin previously), and I do not like it!

  2. Nichol (@faedemere) Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 9:41 am

    What a good question! I am changing the one thing that I disliked most about my body. I have gotten braces. Straight teeth here I come!
    As for anything else, I think I’d ask for a personal trainer to help me meet my exercise/health goals since I can’t seem to motivate myself. Otherwise, I’m happy with who I am.

  3. tiffanized Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 9:41 am

    Stretch marks would disappear. I can handle saggy, I can handle jiggly, but those shiny white and pink marks make me feel terrible. I’ve tried to see them as battle scars, badges earned by life, but they just look like my failure to take care of my body.

  4. Becky Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 9:41 am

    I could make my cesarean scar darker. It’s been 5 1/2 years now and it’s mostly faded. I don’t want to forget. It was a dark, dark time in my life and if I forget I’m afraid I won’t fight hard enough to keep it from happening again.

  5. Rae Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 9:43 am

    My belly, for sure. I have diastasis recti that has gotten worse with each pregnancy (I’m on #3 right now and pretty sure it will be pretty bad this time).

  6. Adrienne Descloux Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 9:44 am

    I want to know why she’s only interested in my body. I she a man in disguise?

    If I had a fairy godmother what I’d *really* want her to change is my yard to being self maintained, more time to play crafts with the kids indoors. ;-)

  7. Karla Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 9:44 am

    I guess I would just fix a little bit of the extra skin in my belly…not all…I would like to keep some to remind me of what my body did…but just enough around my belly button.

  8. heather Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 9:45 am

    my stretch marks!

  9. Nicole Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 9:46 am

    I have many imperfections, but the one that makes me the most self conscious is my chest. My breasts are uneven, and I am always paranoid that it’s noticeable. They’re at least a cup size different, if not more, and it’s gotten worse after pregnancy and breastfeeding. There are plenty of tops that I can’t wear, and I have to be very careful about choosing bras. I’ve been tempted to look into reductions (maybe when I’m done with breastfeeding for good). It doesn’t help that my mom sometimes teases me about it– she made me cry a couple months ago when I was in a dressing room trying on a dress.

  10. Jami Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 9:46 am

    I would change my whole body, remove the fat, lift and tuck it back where it belongs. Not all of it is related to childbirth, most is more related to thyroid issues and my own lazy streak, but dang, I’d love to take off about 130 lbs…(and have all the extra skin disappear and be something worth looking at again!)

  11. Olga Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 9:47 am

    Overall weight loss…. 30-40 pounds would be ideal.

  12. Keri Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 9:49 am

    I’m in my 2nd trimester of pregnancy, and I’d love to just have a big belly from baby, not from the weight/fat I never lost from the other two babies (and before). I feel like I’m missing out on the full experience because I am feeling the baby kick through so much extra padding. I don’t remember feeling this way with the other two.

  13. Hilary Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 9:51 am

    I’d just like my old, perky 34D’s back instead of the saggy 80 yr old saggy 34 DD’s I have now.

  14. Shelly Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 9:52 am

    What would I change, it would be hair….

    It all started when I was on the pill, a stray chin hair here a shadow on my upper lip. Then the “treasure trail” as someone once put it. Hair between my breasts all the way down to my pubic hair. Now this would not bother me so much if it was not dark and some of it coarse. I’ve plucked and waxed and shaved and added chemicals that dissolve it. It won’t go away. For that reason I will never be able to wear a crop top or bikini. I will never feel feminine or like a lady. This is a shadow on my self esteem. I’m all woman, I’ve birthed and fed two children, but am I?

  15. kalindi Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 9:54 am

    oh i love nice legs! mine are a bit chunky so some thin shaply legs would be great! i mean stretch marks…who walks around in a bikini year round? i can hide them but legs….

  16. Mitzi Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:00 am

    i really dont care about my stretch marks..they are bad but they are one thing my children gave me to remind me of my wonderful pregnancies….i would want to lose about 50lbs and the flabby part of my stomach and back…but really that is my only problem with my body!!!

  17. Anon Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:00 am

    Maybe skin that never breaks out, never needs make-up. Or a very slightly larger head…sometimes I feel like I look pin-headed in pictures. LOL. But, honestly? I actually feel more comfortable with my self and in my skin now than I did ten years ago when I was smaller, tighter, etc. So, I guess I’ll join Adrienne and wish for something better, like opportunities to travel with my children, to show them the wide, wonderful world.

  18. Toni Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:00 am

    I would have the fairy godmother fix my teeth. My family is blessed with bad enamel, and my teeth need a major overhaul. :P

  19. christine Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:04 am

    @nicole- I have the same problem! My breasts are drastically different, and the smaller breast doesn’t make much milk, so when I’m breastfeeding it’s a real obvious difference. I just buy those push up pads and stuff one side. Reduction surgery scares me, but that would be the one thing my fairy godmother could fix.
    I can’t blame any of my body woes on childbirth, I messed my self up long before I had any kids! I think the only other thing I’d change is my stinking facial hair! I’ve tried, waxing, chemicals,lasers, nothing works. So every day I pluck, and pluck. My skin suffers, but that can be covered up with concealer. I just wish I could go a day without having a beard to deal with. No wonder I stopped shaving my legs, I figure if I’m going to have a goatee like a man I may as well let the legs go too!

  20. Samantha Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:08 am

    I wish she would change my mind, to give me the ability to love my body/myself as it is/as I am. Seriously. My biggest most hideous flaw is how much I hate my appearance.

  21. Suzanne Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:09 am

    bigger, firmer breasts definitely. Nothing else, weight gain and general toning etc are things i could achieve myself with some effort.. my boobs however are stuck like this now.

  22. Michelle Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:09 am

    I have scoliosis. I want my back fixed.

  23. Rikki Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:16 am

    I’d want my double chin gone the most. I can hide the saggy belly easily enough and the extra weight isn’t a huge deal, but everytime I look down I can feel that extra fat on my face and I hate it. I think I have a pretty face and it detracts from that.
    I suppose if I could have more done I’d probably ask to get ride of that saggy belly too, but I know I can live with it.

  24. Gamermomma Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:18 am

    it would be my belly. The stretch marks don’t bother me as much as how much it hangs over my underwear. If I wear low rise jeans or shorts that is just uncomfortable and sometimes painful since they would it right on my c-section scar. Everything else I can deal with, but that bothers me the most.

  25. Kerry Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:20 am

    After thinking and thinking I don’t think I’d change anything about my body. There are little things that I notice here and there but nothing I don’t appreciate for some reason or another. I have deep stretchmarks in my thighs, some extra sag around the tummy, and droopy empty breasts but honestly I really really like my body! I even went and got my belly button pierced to celebrate my new found love for myself! :)

  26. Mina Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:21 am

    Definitely my belly….although if I’m completely honest, I hated my belly before babies too. It’s my “trouble spot”…I’m one of those apple shaped women with strong limbs and too much torso…I can’t necessarily blame it all on pregnancies. I’d like a chiseled waist and a flat belly.

  27. Sara Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:29 am

    I’d ask her to get rid of the “old lady” hairs on my chin and ask her to fix my torn ACL so I could run without a knee brace and not be in pain.

    Other than that, I can honestly say – nothing. My body is not young, thin or perfect. But it’s healthy and strong (and getting stronger) and it’s MINE. It gave me three healthy children and the gift of being healthy enough myself to enjoy being their mother. I’ve been doing Weight Watchers and I run and go to the gym regularly. I am working to improve my body, but I sincerely love it the way it is right now, too. I have learned and grown SO MUCH in the process over the last year. If someone were to come and give me an instant fix, what future lessons about life and myself would I miss out on?

  28. Desiree Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:30 am

    One thing? My boobs! I would make them perkier and bigger. I’ve always been self conscious about my relatively small chest and when not pg, it’s deflated and not as firm as it once was. A big, perky pair of twins would be much appreciated. lol

  29. Kate Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:31 am

    I wouldn’t change a thing.

  30. Amanda Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:32 am

    I feel like my body can be fixed through exercise. I’ve always had saggy boobs, so those aren’t a big deal to me anymore. The stretch marks don’t bother me either, but mine fade pretty well. I would ask to be stronger so I could go running without getting so tired. Or maybe the ability exercise really hard without affecting my milk supply.

  31. Sarah Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:40 am

    I’d want my butt to be nice and smooth again. ;) No more cellulite.

  32. Amelia Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:42 am

    I’d like to be able to gain about 10lb so my bones aren’t sticking out all over. And for my belly button to go back in…it looks like a nose on my tummy lol

  33. graymama Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:47 am

    I would fix my tilted hip and injured back. It would be nice to bellydance without any aches from them.

  34. Hilary Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:50 am

    Like a few others here, I’d change my breasts. Before I had my daughter, they were nonexistent. Now, I have breasts, but one is an A cup and the other is easily a C. The larger breast is the bigger milk producer, so of course my daughter favors it, and only increases the size difference. We’re weaning now, (she’s 13 mos) so I’m holding out hope that the monster breast will get smaller. Other than that, I’m really happy with my body, surprisingly more happy than I thought I would be after having a baby. Any stretch marks are just reminders of my beautiful baby girl :)

  35. Janae Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:52 am

    I’d like my butt back. After my son was born, as I lost my baby weight I also lost my pre-baby butt. That’s not a surprise in itself but I literally lost it – I am now just about butt free. If there isn’t elastic in the waist of my pants, they just fall off. Belts work fine but are uncomfortable, and I’d rather just have my butt back.

  36. Sarah W. Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:53 am

    I’d ask for a bigger chin. My chin was practically non-existent before baby and even worse now that I am carrying around 30 extra pounds of post baby weight.

  37. Morgan Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 10:57 am

    I’d ask her to remove her judgemental backside from my and your company!
    I’d demand she casts a spell on every magazine and photographers touch up programmes so we could see that all women, fat, thin, short, tall are beautifully different and not meant to be manufactured into sex dolls.
    I’d finally demand that every barbie, bratz, and dolly that is that super skinny, giant titted is safely detonated into the sun!

  38. Stacy Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 11:04 am

    I’d want my flat (almost concave) belly back for sure! Second? My teeth. lol!

  39. Alannah Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 11:09 am

    I’d change my metabolism. I’m always so tired, so very, very tired – and I just can’t find the energy to excercise as I should. I’m about 100 lbs overweight, and between keeping the house manageably clean and looking after my 13-month-old, I have no energy left to devote to my own health.

    Also, fix my insomnia – I haven’t slept more than 3 consecutive hours in over a year, and it’s not just because of my night-nurser; I wake up after 2-2.5 hours whether he does or not!

  40. Dana Baze Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 11:10 am

    I would like a flatter tummy. It doesn’t have to be perfectly flat just flatter. Less sag and flab. It has gotten worse with my pregnancy, but I’ve had it most of my life since I had surgery when I was in 6th grade and left a scar right about where a cesarean scar would be, always wished for less pooch. I can live with my stretch marks.

  41. Sarah EP Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 11:11 am

    Not a damn thing. Proud of who I am and how motherhood has shaped my body. :)

  42. anna m Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 11:13 am

    Wish I could say that I’m content, but I would lie. I’d like my belly to be a bit smaller and my breast to fit eachother ;)

  43. tara Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 11:18 am

    I was really hard on my body until I had my son and then I realized I had no reason to be hard on my body before. My body is shaped a little differently now and I would like to have my “old” body back.

  44. Christie Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 11:26 am

    I would want some elasticity back in my belly. I’m not worried about the stretch marks, since I don’t care to wear a bikini or any type of shirt that exposes my mid section. I just want it to have the ability to be worked back into the shape it was before I had my daughter. I have worked hard the past few months to exercise and lose weight, but I see that the one thing I dislike is staying put.

  45. Bryana Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 11:28 am

    If I could have anything it would be a butt! I’ve never really had a booty and I always wanted one! :)

  46. britt Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 11:34 am

    just one thing?! i guess saying i’d like to fix my skin covers most of it in one fell swoop. then the stretch marks that are so embarrassing and the sagging that makes me look so much older than i am would go away. I’ve lost the weight and then some but i still don’t like or recognize this saggy, stretched, and drooping body.

  47. Erin Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 11:45 am

    I wish I didn’t have such a long list of things I want to change about my body. Physically there is a lot I would LOVE to change: brow lift, flat tummy, smaller arms, smaller nose, bigger booty, tan, no acne/scars, better toe nails, etc… But I think deep down, most of all I would ask to learn how to love myself just as I am. Also how to be loved by others. I think if I had that then the rest wouldn’t be as important.

  48. Georgia Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 11:53 am

    I love my body after baby for the most part, even my stretch marks. I earned them! I’ve lost the baby weight I just wanna lose 9 more pounds and tone up. And by dieting and working out I’m getting there.

  49. Tabi Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 12:00 pm

    I want my pre-baby boobs back! I used to think they were so beautiful. I miss being able to wrap a towel around myself and have it stay put. I miss being able to feel totally sexy going bra-less in a t-shirt. I miss how pretty they used to look when I was on top of my boyfriend making love to him. Yes, I would definitely wish to have my boobs back!

  50. Shana Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 12:00 pm

    Losing the extra 20 lbs. that I have put on after three kids and not having my physical job anymore. I need motivation!!

  51. Ashley Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 12:01 pm

    They don’t bother me all that much anymore but I could do without the stretchmarks! I also never minded having small breasts but after having my daughter they are even smaller and kinda deflated looking, so I guess I would like to have some nice smaller c cups lol.

  52. Ashley Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 12:02 pm

    Oh, and I’d like bigger muscles… but I can do that on my own without a fairy :)

  53. eilsel Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 12:29 pm

    i’ve never had “perky” breast, and although i’m happy with the set I have, i’ve always wondered what it would be like to look in the mirror and see them saluting me =).

  54. Melissa Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 12:48 pm

    I would love for the fairy godmother to fix my diastasis and take away the 2feet or so of extra skin hanging on my on my stomach. It makes me feel like I have no core energy,even though I am very active and otherwise fit. It really bothers me..So what do I do? Clap my hands 3 times and turn around and she will grant me my wish? Come on fairy godmother…I don’t ask for much:) <3

  55. Bree Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 1:21 pm

    My Skin! I have eczema and no matter how skinny or shapely my legs are there are scars and sometime still a rash and people do look (or maybe I just think they do :). The rest I’m getting used to! (thankfully my little girl is so far eczema free!)

  56. Colleen Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 1:55 pm

    I would change my legs. I have two sisters who are both thin, small-breasted and have legs that go forever. I got the odd genes (from my mother’s side) and I’m curvy, very busty, and mostly torso with little short legs (even though I’m the same height as both of them). I did ballet for 12 years and always regretted that my legs are so short.

    Other than that I can’t really complain. I wish I were not so out of shape but I can fix that on my own…

  57. Adrienne Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 2:24 pm

    I don’t mind so much the stretch marks my babies have left me with, they are proof of the hard mothering work we started as mothers. Those who don’t have them though are still lucky. I would change the sag around my belly and the excess weight around my belly. All that only goes with exercise though I suppose.. my boobs sag a bit and one is bigger then the other but they did before pregnancy..doesn’t worry me too much and they for my bubs so as long as my boobs make them happy :)

  58. Kerri Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 2:54 pm

    Until I read Becky’s comment I was going to write that I would erase my caesarean scar, but for me also it is a powerful reminder of a how such a special mooment in your life can be linked to such a dark one. In lieu of the scar, I would one day like a breast reduction and lift!

  59. Jessica Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 3:30 pm

    My saggy tummy skin. Luckily, I am thin enough that I can “tuck it in” to my jeans, and If I wear a bikini I can hide the sag pretty well with good posture. My breasts are no longer full and supple due to four years of breastfeeding (2 kids) but they are old friends, so I’ll keep them. If you spend enough time around other women in swimming suits, you start to realize that everyone has flaws, even women who have never had children. At age 32, I have pretty much made peace with my body and am grateful for what I do have. Now Fairy God Mother, about those new clothes I’ve been needing…

  60. Kristina Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 3:49 pm

    For a long time, I would have said that I would change my nose. But over the years, I have become attached to my royal appendage. Now, the only thing I would change/get rid of is the hair on my legs/bikini area. Really, if she could just do away with the hair on my bikini line, I would be happy. ;-)

  61. Tracy Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 3:50 pm

    my list is a long one……. the stretch marks from my armpits to below my knees, extra skin, 70 pounds (from 2 pregnancys and depression), ingrown hairs on my bikini line and legs and armpits, acne, by boobs to bounce back to where they belong, and cellulite. I would really like to be happy with me and not compare myself to the girls in the magazines.

  62. Kiara Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 4:00 pm

    My Weight, at least 20 kilos. I wouldn’t mind it so much if it weren’t for my daughter, i can’t keep up with her she is sooo energetic. There’s also the pain that comes with carrying it all and the low self image that i don’t want her to pick up.

  63. Tina Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 5:16 pm

    I have a few things I would like to change. Like many of these women they wanted to have the ability to love their bodies and I would love that. I’m soo sick and tired of being insecure about my stomach that has a bit of extra skin, my boobs that have lost fullness and are small, my butt that I feel is to small, my legs that I feel are too skinny and white :|| I just want the fairy to grant me the feeling of loving my body for what is it is :)N being confident..oh how much i’d love to be confident :)

  64. Sharna Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 5:19 pm

    I would ask for a few things. Mainly… my teeth to be in good condition again. Visually, they are straight enough, a little stained, but fine. I have cavities and a fear of the dentist. Would be brilliant if they would be fixed. The cavities got so much worse during the pregnancy.
    I would also like to lose weight and have my skin tighten. I am ‘obese’ so there is definitly a need.
    And scars, Im more self concious about my scars from scab picking then my scars from selfharming years ago.

  65. Amy Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 5:43 pm

    I wish I had nice slender ankles and more muscle on my calves. I have never been able to wear a pretty little dress and heels. They are always hidden under tights or boots. I am a slender person who eats right and exercises but no matter what I do these things never seem to change.

  66. Autumn Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 6:36 pm

    i would change my boobs, i would like them to be smaller im a DD and Before i had my children i was a B i would like to be a B cup agian and Get a lift job they went down hill

  67. Lauren Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 6:43 pm

    I would want her to get rid of the dark circles under my eyes. I am young and they make me look older and very tired. I won’t go out anywhere without putting concealer on them!

  68. Apryl Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 6:46 pm

    Honestly? I would just want my pre-Depo Provera (which I was on between my first 2 kids) metabolism back. I would love the extra energy and before that, I had to eat like a horse to not be severely underweight.

    I am very overweight now. I don’t like that, but I have accepted it. I wouldn’t want a magical fix to get rid of all the weight. Just to have back the ability to do it myself.

  69. Roxy Coble Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 7:01 pm

    I would ask to get rid of my saddle bags! I have had them all my life, and after I have baby girl #2 I am getting them sucked off of me!!!

  70. Amber Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 8:02 pm

    I’ve always said I’m happy with the way I look, I bounced back very quickly after giving birth, no stretchmarks on my belly(a few on my butt but I kinda like them)boobs are still perky and my skin is still tight. Then I went to the beach this past weekend and all of a sudden I felt ashamed of my looks. I’m not tan, my back has acne scars, my freshly shaved armpits still look hairy…blah blah blah. Please fairy godmother help me to look past these little things and be happy for the way I am, my daughter and husband love me no matter what. Use your magic on someone who has real problems.

  71. Christina Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 8:41 pm

    Just tighten up my tummy skin a little…

  72. Brittany Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 9:34 pm

    I would just want the stretch marks on the backs of my calves to magically disappear. Oh, and the scar on the back of my thigh that I got when I was 9. Then I could wear short and skirts and not feel terribly self-conscious. I love my stretched out belly and breasts because my gave them to me. I gave myself my calf stretch marks because I ate too much and didn’t exercise when I was pregnant with my first. That is all!

  73. Maria Says:
    June 8th, 2010 at 4:25 am

    I want to be thin, really thin, and be able to eat wahtever I want wothout worrying about weight.

  74. krystine Says:
    June 8th, 2010 at 5:08 am

    I have roughly 140pounds left to lose until Im at the mid point of a “healthy BMI”. Thats how overweight I am. I dont want to lose that much though, and I would never ask for it to just happen, because unless I was given the ability to never gain weight again, having that amount of weight dissapear while Im sleeping wouldnt teach me how to get there or keep it that way. I would ask the ferry god mother for the ability to smile. Something so simple that I struggle with every day, that my oldest (nearly 4) is starting to notice that mummy is sad alot.
    But cosmetically, I would want her to give me the ability to say no to the food. And a good metabolism!

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