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Young and Feeling Hopeless (Amelia)

March 28, 2012

Hi there, first off I would like to start by saying that when I found this website I was so happy to be able to relate to other real woman who feel the same way that I do. A lot of stories on here have helped me to begin to accept my new body, but I still have the days where I feel so sad about my body I dont even want to go out in public. When I had my daughter I was 17 years old, very young yes I know, but I adjusted to motherhood completely and I wouldn’t change it for the world. I am now 18 and 1 year postpartum. Before I got pregnant, I was comfortable in my own skin, and now I look at other women and just wish I had their stomach lol I used to take mine for granted, and
I never realized how important it was before this. I just wanted to share the way I feel and a little bit about my story because I hope that atleast one woman out there will feel better about themselves after reading this or even be able to relate to me and know that there is someone else out there who knows what you are going through. The hardest part about it is that I can’t even look in the mirror anymore without feeling sadness and getting this horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach because I am so unhappy with my body. I look at celebrities who have just had babies and they look amazing! And I know I know they get things done and have a lot of money to be able to fix the scars and stretch marks and all the other fun stuff that comes along with being pregnant, but I can’t help but feel worse about my body after seeing them. I love my daughter with all my heart and soul and I would go through it all over again if I had to because even though I can’t stand to look at my body, it was all worth it in the end, and to be able to be part of making a human being who is part of you, and have their little fingers, and toes, and heart, and lungs grow inside of you is an amazing thing and thats what makes us woman so special. So even though we may not like these stretch marks or c-section scars, or the saggy mummy tummys, they’re badges of what we went through and what an amazing thing we did by being pregnant and giving birth and we shouldn’t be embarrassed by them or ashamed by them because it brought us beautiful miracles from God. Anyways I hope that this makes someone feel beautiful and brings them more confidence and acceptance of their body.

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15 Responses to “Young and Feeling Hopeless (Amelia)”

  1. anonymous Says:
    March 28th, 2012 at 8:50 am

    you have such an amazing body…it is curvy and shapely and I think you look amazing. I mean sure you have stretch marks but they’re not bad at all and you also know that any woman who has ever had a baby has gone through the exact same thing. Good luck in feeling better about yourself:)

  2. Sarah Says:
    March 28th, 2012 at 1:18 pm

    I would die to have your shape and curves! You are a gorgeous woman! I have a tummy like yours… minus the breasts (I’m naturally 34AA).

  3. mrspetunia Says:
    March 28th, 2012 at 5:52 pm

    You truly have a very nice shape. What a gorgeous hour glass figure! Yeah, the tummy may have a few stretchies but it’s nice and flat and your waist is so cinched. Your booty also looks cute, the perfect “bubble butt” :) I hope you can learn to see the beauty in yourself that we all see!

  4. anon. Says:
    March 28th, 2012 at 8:36 pm

    you have an awesome shape…….love your butt :)

  5. Gem Says:
    March 29th, 2012 at 2:08 pm

    Woah mama!!! Look at those AMAZING curves!!! You are beautiful! You are lucky to have such a beautiful hourglass shape! There’s nothing wrong with how you look, not at all. I’m envious of those killer curves, you look womanly and healthy and beautiful – how a woman SHOULD look :)

  6. Kaitlyn Says:
    March 29th, 2012 at 5:20 pm

    Wow! You look fabulous!!!

  7. Maria Says:
    March 29th, 2012 at 7:02 pm

    We could be tummy twins! :D I used to feel the exact same way about my stomach too, but I have learned to truly love it, and one of the things I love the most about it is how soft it is now :-) Trust me, you are beautiful and don’t ever feel down about your body :-)

  8. Lauren Says:
    March 30th, 2012 at 5:09 am

    You have a gorgeous, sexy figure! You have great proportions.
    I think the best way to start to accept your body is just to look at it all the time. Be naked in front of the mirror, look at pictures, look down in the shower. It can be hard at first but once your brain understands that this is what your body looks like, you won’t pass so much judgement on yourself when you see yourself. It sounds more like you’re just not used to your body, not that you hate it.

  9. Nikkei Says:
    March 30th, 2012 at 9:05 am

    Mine is exactly the same! We could be belly twins haha I’m only 24 and have felt my body was ruined but am finally starting to accept it. My daughter is 4 and it has taken that long….. I think your beautiful:)

  10. Patricia Says:
    March 30th, 2012 at 9:20 am

    I am 20 and I have stretch marks and I am totally unhappy with them however, your shape and proportions are wonderful! I’m 9 months post-baby and I’m no where near your shape! You go girl!

  11. Kate Says:
    April 1st, 2012 at 6:12 pm

    I also had a baby at seventeen. I’m 23 now and had my second baby 1 year ago. It took my about three years after the birth of my son to truly feel good in my body again, but it did happen and I’ve honestly never loved myself more. I’m smushy and soft and very very stretchmarked, but I know that I’m beautiful and people can feel that confidence in me. You are so beautiful and there is nothing wrong with showing off a wrinkly tummy! I know it’s very hard to do, but be proud of that tummy that held your angel. I performed a miracle and that’s nothing to be ashamed of. That’s something to be CELEBRATED!

  12. Emily Says:
    April 3rd, 2012 at 1:45 pm

    You have very nice curves, the way your natural waist pinches in and your hips curve out. Killer! And I’d kill for that butt! When I was 18, I had no curves: no hips, no butt, no boobs! You look like a woman. Put on a dress that ties at the natural waist and you’ll turn some heads! Your tummy is like mine. Its not perfect, but its still good even with the streatch marks. Its nothing to worry about. You could totally rock a bikini, or at least a tankini if your shy.

  13. Amelia Says:
    April 21st, 2012 at 6:13 pm

    From one Amelia to another honey you are sexy! Those stretch marks will fade over time and will always be a reminder of the wonderful 9 months your precious baby was with you entirely. My kids are grown and my sister and I were looking at our stretch marks and becoming SAD for the days ours were still babies. I would have killed for a sexy body and curvy waist that you have now, I didn’t even have that BEFORE my kids, I was pencil thin,no curves.

  14. Aleks Says:
    April 24th, 2012 at 4:41 pm

    You look great! I would love to look like you do. The few stretch marks that you have will fade some over time, but you should be proud of your body, it looks beutiful.

  15. Chell Says:
    August 5th, 2013 at 8:23 pm

    Oh we have the same body almost!

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