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Who Am I?

July 6, 2006

Who is this person you’re sending your nude photos to? Well, my name is Bonnie. I have been married almost eight years and I am a homeschooling, stay-at-home mother of two young children who are, at the time of writing this, six and three years old. I am a dabbler, interested in learning more about photography, cooking, gardening, knitting and crafting in general. I feel passionately that I want my daughter to grow up with a balanced view of what women should look like. My son, too, for that matter. Anything else you would like to know? Leave a comment. :)

May 2008:
me n my kids
(Forgive his closed eyes – I’m sure you moms understand trying to get one good photo out of more than one kid – it’s impossible.)

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These photos below were taken on July 5, 2006 – the birth of SOAM.

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( I love how pissed off he looks in this picture.)

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72 Responses to “Who Am I?”

  1. Tara Says:
    July 9th, 2006 at 12:45 pm

    THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOUTHIS IS WHAT MY TUMMY LOOKS LIKE–EXACTLY AND I THOUGHT IT WAS JUST ME! You see all these other people who have NO stretch marks and can fit back into their skinny jeans and I sit there thinking……..what is wrong with me. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR BEING SO OPEN AND HONEST. THANK YOU.

  2. Anonymous Says:
    July 9th, 2006 at 12:51 pm

    OMG we could be twins….

  3. Eden Says:
    July 9th, 2006 at 1:38 pm

    I’d like to know more about that gorgeous necklace ;) Fantastic site idea btw.

  4. Anonymous Says:
    July 9th, 2006 at 3:55 pm

    Wonderful site! You are doing an awesome thing by exposing the real way we look.

  5. zebrabelly Says:
    July 9th, 2006 at 7:34 pm

    Eden – Actually I got that necklace for $2 at the county fair! I checked out your knitting blog, very cool! :)

  6. jenB Says:
    July 9th, 2006 at 10:21 pm

    Your site makes me cry. In a good way. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

  7. nessa Says:
    July 10th, 2006 at 5:50 am

    Wow, count me among your body twins… My belly looks EXACTLY like that. I lost all of my 55+lbs weight gain by 10wkspp, but now 14.5m pp I still have these lovely stretchmarks and belly wrinkles. Sometimes I get depressed about it, but then I realize that I’m actually happy & healthy and blessed with a magnificently (& maddening) precocious toddler, and it doesn’t seem so gross anymore.

  8. SpecialRed Says:
    July 10th, 2006 at 1:45 pm

    I had the SAME thing. My stretch marks finally faded to a quite lovely silver, save the still bright-red ones on my hips, 2 years after childbirth. Of course, I still have the wrinklies. I have a crease from my belly button to the top of my pubic area that nearly looks scar-ish, and nice depressed marks about my entire middle. I’m glad someone finally did this. This is what REAL people look like. This is what childbearing looks like. Yes, there are the few that escape sans-marks, but they are the minority. Women should not be made to feel as though that is the majority, or that it is what a post-pregnancy body is supposed to look like.For thousands of years stretch marks were celebrated as signs of fertility, and were accepted and embraced as “par for the course”. I refuse to be ashamed of my zebra belly, and I’m glad more women can see that they are not alone. GREAT job!

  9. Anonymous Says:
    July 10th, 2006 at 11:23 pm

    I came here hoping for comfort. Six children later, the wrinkles, sags, and lines are all too there! I am overweight yet and only expect it to be worse in some ways as I lose the extra weight! I have stretch marks on my breasts, too! I have been nursing for over 12 years now. Happy kiddos ;-) Thanks for the reality check. Now I know I am not alone!- Katherine

  10. Krissie Says:
    July 11th, 2006 at 8:59 am

    This site is great but i dont think i would fit in well. Im one of those who did lose all their baby weight and got no stretch marks.BUT on the other hand i have scars from many surguries and an outie belly button so i by no means have a perfect body. Im glad you are doing this though it has really been an eye opener.

  11. SpecialRed Says:
    July 11th, 2006 at 12:19 pm

    Krissie;I don’t think the point of this site is to make it one side vs the other (stretch marks vs. none, lost baby weight vs still carrying); It’s to show what real women look like after giving birth. You gave birth, you must be a real woman, therefore I would think you were perfectly welcome to post.I lost all my baby weight, and then some. I just am left with saggy, loose skin on my hips and stomach, and silvery tracks from rib to mid thigh. That was MY post-partum body. And it’s as unique and individual as a snowflake; just as yours is. Pregnancy affects us all differently, and I think it’s important to see ALL forms of post-partum bodies. There is one woman on here who looks as though she’s a fitness competitor!

  12. zebrabelly Says:
    July 11th, 2006 at 2:01 pm

    Krissie, I agree with Special Red wholeheartedly. This site is for all women, no matter how perfect their body. ;) Just leave the airbrushes at home. :)

  13. Anonymous Says:
    July 11th, 2006 at 5:20 pm

    Wonderful blog! You a very strong woman with lots to be proud about!

  14. Caiside Says:
    July 11th, 2006 at 7:07 pm

    I just wanted to say thank-you. I am 5 months pp, and while enjoying my beautiful little girl I have felt so embarrased of how my body looks like now. The stretchmarks all over, the wrinklies, excess skin, and the scar… Thank you for starting this and thank all the women for posting, it’s so nice to see what real mothers look like.

  15. Anonymous Says:
    July 11th, 2006 at 11:54 pm

    Wonderful idea! I used to think I was the only one and now I know I am completely normal. I read stretchmarks were really common, but we never see them! Thanks!

  16. eatcrayons Says:
    July 12th, 2006 at 6:03 pm

    Thank you! I used to be SO ashamed of my stretch marks, and loose skin after my two c-sections. I still panic if my shirt is lifted up and I look around to make sure no one has seen my stomach. So silly! It’s time to get over it. While I’m at a healthy weight, perhaps even underweight for my height, I have it all..the perfect example of a Mommy tummy. I want to be proud of it. ?

  17. Anonymous Says:
    July 12th, 2006 at 8:38 pm

    WONDERFUL Site! I am thrilled to have come upon it. I experienced a singleton and then a twin pregnancy. I birthed an 8lb 10oz baby and then 7lb 2oz & 7lb 13 oz twins. Big babies!! Lots of excess skin now. While at home, I lovingly refer to my tummy as my “baby belly” and while lounging around, my children affectionaly blow rasperrries on my flabby midriff. But outside the home, I find myself gaurding my belly, pulling my shirt down, making sure it stays hidden. I don’t know why. I guess I felt like no one else had ever seen a baby belly as extreme as mine, and I didn’t want to have to explain mine. Silly, isn’t it?Your site gives me a sense of relief– that there are people out there who have seen baby bellies (and have them of their own). And if they have not seen one yet, then maybe it would be an honor for them to see mine.If the twins give me a break, and I have a chance, I’ll snap a shot of my belly and post it. It would be an honor!

  18. Anonymous Says:
    July 14th, 2006 at 11:02 am

    The funny thing is that I know that I am not the only one to have a baby belly that looks like this. But to SEE others that have similar bellies makes it more real. I can tell myself all day long it is ok and normal but to look and go ok she has the same makes a BIG difference.Thanks!

  19. Stacey Says:
    July 14th, 2006 at 2:47 pm

    What a beautiful site! I feel normal again!

  20. Moon Rattled Says:
    July 15th, 2006 at 4:41 am

    I’ve never had a baby and am ashamed of my body and my tummy at times. It’s really empowering to come here and see REAL bodies and not airbrushed fantasy bodies. Thank you for this.

  21. Anonymous Says:
    July 15th, 2006 at 11:32 am

    I am so glad I discovered your site. I’ve always had body issues from college on, and at long last at my absolute thinnest in my mid to late 30s I finally loved the way I looked. When I got pregnant I was surprised it happened so easily, and was in no way mentally or physically prepared for the challenge ahead. I gained 12 lbs in one month and just refused to look at the scale from that point onward. Although I am about the same weight I was (118) when I was 6 weeks pregnant, my body is far from being the same. It was so disappointing to me, but looking at all these other women is very comforting. I’ve got very light stretch marks on my breast and hips, but my stomach (although looser skinned than before) is stretch mark free. I feel luckier than most, and am glad to see all these women coming to terms with their bodies now, it inspires me to do the same. And it felt so good to email the link to a single friend who asked me (when I told her I didn’t lose my weight immediately) how Heidi Klum could “walk the runway two months later.” I can’t wait for her to discover what the “Shape of a Mother” Is REALLY about! Also, I have found that Pilates has really helped me flatten my stomach. It’s amazing if you have the time and finances to try it.

  22. 2bellymama Says:
    July 15th, 2006 at 4:42 pm

    Thank you so much for creating this blog~ I have had 2 beautiful healthy daughters… my last pregnancy resulted in 60lbs of weight gain and unsightly stretch marks…Now 9 months PP, I have saggy belly skin, droopy breats and stretch marks up the wazoo…It is wonderful to see women that are similar and you know what~ I didnt see their pics as ugly~ I see is as beauty~ hence I started to look at my own body differently~Thank you so much ~xoxAngele

  23. Anonymous Says:
    July 15th, 2006 at 5:27 pm

    I also wanted to say “Thank you”.I am a mother of one and am 36 weeks pregnant with my second. I have been so worried about what I will look like after I have this baby. With all the media attention on these actresses who bounce back into shape (and are never seen with a single stretch mark) it’s hard not feel “different”. Now I see that not only am I not “different” for having stretch marks and saggy skin- I am lucky to be part of a beautiful group of women. Thank you again!!!

  24. Kim Says:
    July 15th, 2006 at 9:52 pm

    Just like the others have said – thank you.I’m sharing this link with my mom’s group, the women’s group I meet up with and my granola baby-lovin’ mamas. :)

  25. glenda Says:
    July 16th, 2006 at 4:00 pm

    I love, love, love this site. I was never a small woman to begin with and then two pregnancies/c-sections later I’m still big and now I’m striped too. It is great to see what real women look like. They are powerful and strong.These pictures should be compiled into a book!Glenda

  26. sunShine Says:
    July 17th, 2006 at 12:24 pm

    This is awesome. Thank you so much for doing this. I will send my story and pics soon. Our bodies are beautiful after we carry our children for 9 months! Thank you!

  27. mommy of two Says:
    July 17th, 2006 at 12:57 pm

    What a beautiful, empowering site. Thank you so much for taking the time to do this. I have been way too critical of my post baby body and I really needed this. We have GOT to fight back against the body image that our little girls are being taught by the media to view as “normal”. Seeing these beautiful, real bodies brings tears to my eyes. Thank you!!!!!

  28. Anonymous Says:
    July 17th, 2006 at 6:08 pm

    Wow.This is a powerful site. Have to say it is difficult for me to look at the pictures. And that has NOTHING to do with judging the bodies I am seeing and has EVERYTHING to do with my own distorted body image. (I was bulemic for years in my early 20′s) I hope to look through these pictures and stories to help me with my own issues and move into a more compassionate view of a post partum body. In terms of conventional beauty, I look “back to normal” and am spending an inordinate amount of time worrying about the dimension of my waistline which is 3″ more than it used to be.So absurd, but the truth.Thanks for sharing

  29. Camille Says:
    July 17th, 2006 at 7:15 pm

    I cannot thank you enough for this site. A friend directed me to it and it made me cry. Absolutely beautiful!! As much as I love my little one, I have had a hard time accepting what it has done to me. I was relatively small during the first 5 months of pregnancy and literally exploded in my 5 month. Needless to say, many stretch marks and because of losing 20 lbs immediately following the birth, I have a hanging belly. My husband absolutely loves my body and thinks I am always beautiful, but only today after seeing this website am I now believing, I am beautiful, look what my body has done!! Sagging boobs, butt and all!! I have to dig up my pics and as soon as I do, I will post as well!! Thanks again, Bonnie!!

  30. Special Red Says:
    July 17th, 2006 at 11:00 pm

    I’m with Glenda on the book deal. As a huge supporter of this site (my husband, SIL, and mother look at it DAILY because of me!), I would really suggest getting a book deal before anyone steals the idea….

  31. Katharine Says:
    July 18th, 2006 at 2:35 pm

    Wow, Bonnie! Thanks so much for creating this blog. I just found it courtesy of another blogger. I so wish it had been available (and that the technology for it had been available, too) after my first pregnancy in ’83. That little girl is now my 23-year-old daughter who’s about to be married. My ’94 and ’01 pregnancies gave me two wonderful boys … and lots more stretch marks and wobbly sections of belly. By the time I finished breastfeeding the last one, I’d been breastfeeding someone or other off and on for more than 20 years!

  32. Katharine Says:
    July 18th, 2006 at 2:37 pm

    P.S. Bonnie, if you do a book, I’m a freelance copyeditor with 22 years’ experience. I’d love a chance to edit a manuscript on such a wonderful subject!

  33. javamama Says:
    July 18th, 2006 at 2:53 pm

    I have shame about my belly (and then shame because I’m ashamed!) My youngest of three LARGE babies loves to stroke my belly and stretchmarks ands calls them my “tiger stripes”. That small act of love has turned my head around about my puffy/wrinkled/lined belly. This is a healing and powerful site. Thank you.

  34. gkgirl Says:
    July 18th, 2006 at 4:58 pm

    i was directed hereby stuntmotherand i have to saywow!and thanks!and awesome!and i so see myself in alot of these photosand many of these stories…it is liberating to know thatyou are not alone.good idea.:)

  35. Laura Says:
    July 19th, 2006 at 4:50 am

    Thank you for this site. Four kids, lots of stretch marks and very sensitive about them…sigh. I have very few pics of myself pregnant and absolutely none of my bare preggo belly and I do now regret it. I feel my heart wrench when I see other Moms’ perfect preggo bellies with nary a mark in site. It’s just so nice to know I’m not alone and how I admire the courage of the women who have posted their stories and photos, well done!! Laura :o )

  36. Aurora Says:
    July 19th, 2006 at 12:56 pm

    This is a wonderful thing you’re doing for all women. These mothers are real women…and beautiful. And for the first time since having my daughter I can say that I am beautiful too, not in spite of my stretch marks and cottage cheese belly… but because of them. I am blessed to be marked by love. Thank you for helping me see that. You have inspired me to add my pictures to your ground breaking collection. I’m going to enlist my husband as my photographer tonight! Hopefully this site will encourage the world to embrace TRUE beauty, because nothing in this world is more beautiful than love. ~Aurora

  37. Anonymous Says:
    July 19th, 2006 at 12:59 pm

    As a mother to one child, I cannot say that I cherish my body. I believe society and fashion have put forth unrealistic portrayals of beautiful women and we have bought those images mind, body and soul. However, as a woman that faced infertility for three years, I look at the face of my little one and thank God for the pregnancy experience and the healthy birth of my child. No matter how sleep deprived and mentally spent I am, I’m grateful for my baby boy.Thank you for this site — to give us realistic images of women that were fortunate to endure pregnancies and births. Our amazing children are our blessings. Our bodies are only vessels, temporary and dynamic.

  38. nosuchluck Says:
    July 20th, 2006 at 6:12 pm

    i actually almost cried when i looked through some of these posts. not tears of sadness but tears of happiness. lately, i’ve been stressing out about my postpartum weight and extra “flab” but i have truly been missing the beauty of where my 9 month old baby daughter spent the first months of her life. my chubby tummy protected her and nurtured her. i think i’ll be looking at myself in the mirror in a truly different light now.thank you to all of you beautiful women. i love this club!

  39. Dominique Says:
    July 20th, 2006 at 9:20 pm

    I love this photo of you and your baby. You both look sassy.

  40. Drea Says:
    July 21st, 2006 at 1:43 am

    Love your blog its very inspiring.. after I have my 2nd child (due on Christmas this year) I might mail you some photos. Your son looks ticked off in that photo as well. He gets my attention more so than the belly lol. So funny the hard looks babies can give some times :-)

  41. Katie Says:
    July 21st, 2006 at 4:55 am

    This is the most fantastic site EVER. I must get to work on my own submission.

  42. Michelle Says:
    July 21st, 2006 at 4:30 pm

    This is an amazing site. I want my daughter to have a positive self image too. Thank you for showing the world what real moms look like. =)

  43. CJ Says:
    July 22nd, 2006 at 3:28 am

    This is one of the best sites on the web, hands down, and every woman on earth (or at least in the Western World) should see it.I’ve never had a ‘perfect’ (re: blank and plastic-looking) body, and I’ve always hurt or been made to hurt because of it. After pregnancy and childbirth that hurt intensified.But no more, and it’s thanks to you for showing me what popular culture has censored for it’s own commercial and patriarchal benefit: reality. Of course, there are women who come out of childbearing/rearing unmarked. But so what? Variations of normal they are. Some are marked alot, some a little, some none. All normal, all beautiful. None better than the other.Our bodies and nature have their own versions of beauty, one it’s high time Western Culture bowed to with respect and awe. Because it’s that beauty and only that beauty that’s real and matters.Thank you a trillion times over. You’re my hero (and I *will* be sending a submission!). Sincerely,CJ.

  44. Anonymous Says:
    July 22nd, 2006 at 9:57 am

    The impact that this site is making to my everyday life is amazing! I look at it everyday and just am in awe every time.Thank you to everyone. I will continue to read and watch in amazement and celebrate our bodies. I now strut around the pool with pride! :>)

  45. grumpygirl Says:
    July 24th, 2006 at 8:23 pm

    thank you for this site. i am 40, not a mother, won’t be one except to my cats. which is fine with me, but that’s not really the point. for whatever reason i’ve never seen any bellies like this. my mom’s isn’t, and i don’t go around looking at my friend’s naked bodies. the only time i caught a glimpse was of our 95 pound religious neighbor who’d had 4 kids… i just figured the little i saw was normal for someone so tiny. thank you for showing me what real women look like. how could i have gone to this age and not known?

  46. Amber aka PinkRaider Says:
    July 26th, 2006 at 4:02 pm

    Bonnie you are awesome! I was looking through this and dind’t even realize YOU started this! How Cool! And COngrats on the Dooce recognition. I will have to take a few pics and post a little story soon.

  47. The Shape of a Mother Says:
    July 26th, 2006 at 4:27 pm

    Hi, Amber!! :)

  48. SGirl Says:
    July 26th, 2006 at 6:10 pm

    At 34, I just found out yesterday that I’m five weeks pregnant. While I know my body will change (and probably won’t bounce back as easily if I had been 24), seeing photos of other women who have been willing to share their bellies is so wonderful to help me know what to expect. I think I would have been severely disappointed with my own recovery, but now I have a greater range of knowing my possible belly outcomes. There is such comfort in knowledge and in sharing. Thank you so much! You’ve just made my future postpartum time so much happier/easier/more understandable. :)

  49. Pony Says:
    July 27th, 2006 at 11:50 am

    This site is terrific. I’ve never seen another normal woman’s body. There are parts of mine I’ve never seen either!I’ve been pregnant three times and had one child, now 40. I had no stretch marks on my stomach or thighs at all, but have long whitish stretch marks still on my breasts which are so huge, and which I wish I’d had reduced long ago. They are so big I couldn’t breast feed properly and nearly starved my daughter. It wasn’t until many years later I learned from other large breasted women this is common. I lived alone with my husband on the shores of an Arctic lake and was totally clueless about mothering. All I was ever told about it was to rinse the diapers twice. That I did, in water melted in a big tub and then heated with an immersion heater. No-one gonna say I was a bad mother. :P So…thanks to all you brilliant young women for putting your pictures in here and sharing with everyone, even those of us who are way past childbearing age, but still dumb as a sack of nails about our bodies and what is normal. Somehow I knew Demi Moore wasn’t quite it, but still thought I was wrong wrong wrong. BestPony

  50. Anonymous Says:
    July 27th, 2006 at 2:56 pm

    I’ll add one more thank you to the list for this site. I’ve never been pregnant but I think of all the times in my life I have simply wanted to be able to see something like this and feel normal.Thank you!

  51. Marnina Says:
    July 27th, 2006 at 5:53 pm

    We are all beautiful. Thank you for this site. I look forward to experiencing and sharing what all of you have gone through already.

  52. Anonymous Says:
    July 28th, 2006 at 6:30 pm

    A friend sent this site to me today. I am not a mother and I don’t think that I want to be one. I now realize that some portion of my reservation has to do with my own body image issues. It has taken me 34 years to barely come to terms with my existing body, and after looking at this site, I can’t imagine having the psychological strength to go through, and accept, the physical changes that come with pregnancy and afterward. That being said, thank you for creating this site. It’s valuable for women to see real women’s bodies, of all shapes, sizes, and conditions.

  53. Anonymous Says:
    July 31st, 2006 at 12:41 pm

    My friend just sent me your site’s URL today, and I got teary-eyed reading all the lovely stories from all these moms. Thank you for doing this, it’s really wonderful.

  54. Arilyn Says:
    August 1st, 2006 at 9:14 am

    I have a journal on Live Journal where I have been sharing my pregnancy experience. I have had ups and downs and to read about other women and knowing my concerns are not uncommon has been such a blessing. I will be having a c section on August 8th. I finally got up the nerve to have a few belly pics taken yesterday. I plan to send in some before and after shots in a couple of months. Thank you again for the reminder that while society may make me feel self conscious of my belly, at least my son will appreciate it in the end.

  55. tits mcgee Says:
    August 2nd, 2006 at 10:50 am

    You are performing an amazing public service here.Thank you, thank you, thank you.

  56. Anonymous Says:
    August 2nd, 2006 at 11:39 pm

    Thank you, thank you. It sounds downright silly, but I really felt like I was the “only one.” My body remained hideous to me, despite losing all the pregnancy weight and then some (nursing twins plus not having time to eat really takes it off). My next door neighbor, a man, has even made complimentary-borderline-lewd comments about how I completely bounced back. Women have made jealous comments. But it just made me feel even worse. Inside I would be crying, “If only you could see what I look like under these clothes…” But of course, then I feel guilty about feeling that way! (how typical of me…) What kind of shallow, ungrateful, silly person mourns her figure when she has two beautiful children! I never thought I would be that woman. (aside: does this mean I’ll also be “that woman” I’ve always despised who refuses to accept wrinkles and other natural effects of aging?)Thank you again for this site.

  57. Anonymous Says:
    August 4th, 2006 at 4:59 am

    I think this site is an amazing ideafor women to feel more comfortable about themselves.However, I do feel compelled to point out that the photographs have confirmed to me that I NEVER want children. Ever. Probably not the effect you intended!28 year old, London UK

  58. Popcorn Says:
    August 8th, 2006 at 9:48 am

    Everything I read, and every pregnancy class I attended only prepared me for the birth. Everything was geared towards getting through labour. Very little prepared me for life after birth. Some days I look at my body and I despair. Some days I look at my body and I am amazed at the miracle of life it has given. Thank you for such an enlightening, inspirational and empowering and site.

  59. veronica Says:
    August 14th, 2006 at 2:46 am

    i am a 20 year old women who is 29 weeks pregnant with my first child. and at this age every other girl i know has their body as their main concern. this site is really helping me cope with the weight that i am gaining during my pregnancy and i am not so self conscious anymore. THANK YOU!

  60. kila Says:
    August 14th, 2006 at 7:45 pm

    I’m two months PP, and have lost 55 lbs of my 78 lb weight gain, I’m 20 years old, and I was DEVESTATED to see my body clearly for the first time after my son’s birth… My once trim, flat tummy and flawless skin looked like it had gotten stuck in a taffy pull and then raveged by a tiger. I’m still not quite comfortable with my new body… But I feel with time, and keeping my expectations realistic I can re-gain my selfconfidance bck. I’ll submit some pre and post baby pics soon.

  61. Socaerri Says:
    August 19th, 2006 at 9:15 pm

    I am now, absolutely amazed.I was given a link to this site, and I think that it will changes the lives of so many people.I have been struggleing with body issues since the birth of my son. A tiny size 1 at 3 months pregnant, then gaining 50 lbs in the next 6 months left my body in ruins. I have been learning to love my body. To me now, I look like a woman. I have curves I know I wouldnt have had if it werent for my son. All though Im a little droopy in places and zebra-like in others, I have now realized that my body is wonderful and almost magical.I grew a human!He grew inside my body and he came out perfect and beautiful and pink, and it was my now “ruined” body that did it.So, after reading all the comments and postings, I realized, that others may not think I am beautiful, but I do, and my son loves me and thats all that matters in the whole world.Thank you. This is really beautiful

  62. Anonymous Says:
    August 21st, 2006 at 8:06 am

    This is such a wonderful concept for a site. We live in a world full of images of women but I have never seen photos of real women like these.

  63. mardi Says:
    August 22nd, 2006 at 6:58 am

    Thank you so much for this photo, I have 4 kis and my stomache looked like yours after the 1st, for the last 12 years I have been embarrassed by it and tried to hide it from others. Now I have number 4 and still not seen anyone witha belly like mine( till now) I have finally admitted to myself that this is me. If my top creeps up now I just pull it down NOT cringe with embarrassment and leave a shop. I now proudly tell my kids that they grew in there and my skin stretched so that they could fit and be warm and safe.Thank you Mardi

  64. Anonymous Says:
    August 28th, 2006 at 9:29 am

    I’m only 18 and have already gotten stretch marks (not too noticable), through puberty. At such an early age, you can tell how this affected me. At first I felt really ashamed to expose myself to my boyfriend because I didn’t know what his reaction would be like. However, he was really sweet by exclaiming, “I love your stretch marks!” What’s really important is that he loves me just the way I am. That has made me in turn, feel wonderful about myself.

  65. Lei Says:
    August 31st, 2006 at 11:12 pm

    I am so relieved to see that I’m not the only one. I’m passing this on to every woman I know! Thank you for this!

  66. Anonymous Says:
    September 14th, 2006 at 10:50 pm

    I am very happy to know that I am not the only one to have the postpartum saggy tummy like the above… Can anybody tell me some exercises? Anybody, Please tell me whether postpartum abdominal support belt helps to decrease the tummy size…Thanks in advance.

  67. Lauren Prairie Says:
    September 16th, 2006 at 7:59 pm

    I don’t have a baby yet but I have gained weight recently and I worry about my body after I give birth. I love women’s bodies but have a hard time loving mine. I work as a doula and a teacher. Thanks for this site. I will share it share it share it.

  68. Anonymous Says:
    October 12th, 2006 at 12:28 pm

    Thank you so much for this site. I always tell my daughter and son that my stretch marks are so special because they always remind me that I grew the two most precious babies ever. And my daughter is also learning to absolutely love her body.Thank you again for showing how all our bodies are beautiful!

  69. Barbie Says:
    December 27th, 2006 at 1:43 am

    Im almost 21, Ive only had one baby so far, shes almost 2 and I want more, I cant complain much about the way I look, the boobs are goin south a little and I could lose a little weight and theres a few stretch marks, but like all parents say, I would never take it back. the children make it worth it. and it wont stop me from having another one. I love my daughter more then anything. And to tell you the truth I think that this website was VERY HELPFUL! honestly I thought I was the only one in the world worried about the way I look, and now I dont really care. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I think you should make a myspace with this kind of info, theres a lot of girls and women who need this info. and myspace is def a way to get it out there. thank you so much for this info!

  70. Brittany Says:
    April 1st, 2007 at 8:16 pm

    You are gorgeous! :) Thanks for making this site and allowing all of us to be a part of it. Your amazing!

  71. Deirdra Hall Says:
    August 3rd, 2007 at 2:27 pm

    Seeing these pictures make me feel as though i fit right in with all mothers out there. I have very few friends who have babies, so i compare my pp body to their flat tummies perky boobs and stretch mark free skin. I feel as though when my fiends do see my stomach they get grossed out. I just want to see them after they have their kids and see what they end up looking like. I did however have a 10lbs baby. I am a size 5 waist. so i was HUGE!
    Seeing all these pics of real women and what they look like after babies does not make me feel ashamed of what i look like. I want to thank you for boosting my self esteem back to what it was prior to having my son.

  72. Carrie Says:
    March 30th, 2008 at 3:26 pm

    my sister, mother of 3 & prego again, told me about this site. i myself am 36 y/o and have a 2y/o and a 6mo old. this site is so important and beautiful–i’m talking about TRUE beauty–love, caring, kindness and LIFE. what a wonderful “thing” you’ve started. here’s to you, to motherhood, and to the female body!

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