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Uphill Battle (Jade)

June 14, 2012

-Age- 18
-Pregnancy’s- 1 and -Birth’s- 1
-Children Age- almost 2yrs

I was only 15 when i concieved my little boy, zander. I had him June 1st of 2010 at 12.51pm. he weighed 8lb 14 oz and 21 1/2inches long. I have had a hard time dealing with the way i look. i know it could be alot worse but from where i was before having my son to now is a big change. at 15 pre-pregnancy i was 5’5″ 95lbs and a 34DD. my body was so perfect in my mind. my boobs where so perfect and perky, my nipples where the right size and shape. my tummy was supper flat, i was a dancer and had a dancer belly. now my sides have strectch marks, which u cannot really see in the picture, and truely they arent to bad compared to others but for me i worry so much about them. I hate almost everything about me and i know i shouldnt but i do. my fiance is kind of supportive. i know he thinks he loves me but i know i love him more than he loves me. but last october he did cheat on me. so i worry about his mind set it also made me feel so ugly and not good enough. we have been togethere for 4years now hes 4years older than me making him 22yrs old. sometimes i feel stuck because i want my son to have a daddy in his life but i dont know if me and him are right for each other. i have a fear of being alone and i dont know if someone is going to want me for the fact of the way i look and i have a child. now im rambeling haha. but thankyou for reading this and i love this site it has made me feel better and less alone

well the one picture is of my son Zander
my belly as of today 2years after birth(weighing 105lbs and a 34D)
me at 9 months pregnant

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22 Responses to “Uphill Battle (Jade)”

  1. Anonymous Says:
    June 14th, 2012 at 10:02 am

    I am one year older than you, and only 6 weeks post-partum at the moment. I know exactly all of your emotions! BUT GIRL!!! YOU’RE BODY IS FABULOUS! I can only hope mine will recover as nicely as yours. I didn’t gain all that much weight with my son, only 27 lbs. [My story is on here too. "Not Even Half Way (Anonymous)"] I have lost all my baby weight and still feel ugly. You also should remember your body was going to change whether you had a child so young anyway. I know that it’s hard when you look around you and see all your friends and kids our age and how they look. But remember they don’t have what we have. They don’t have a little human who has unconditional love for us. Remembering that makes all of these body issues seem a little easier. My life has changed completely but honestly it was for the better. I don’t have much advice about your fiance but I do know that it’s very scary to stay someone if they have cheated on you, because usually if they have done it once, they’ll do it again. I’m not telling you what to do, but if I were you I would figure it out before the marriage. I wish you all the luck in the world, us young moms need it.

    Stay strong, and good luck sweetheart.

  2. Jan Says:
    June 14th, 2012 at 12:37 pm

    Are you kidding? You look amazing! I’m not looking at the stretchmarks because I can’t stop seeing your perfect boobs and belly!

  3. muzicbox9 Says:
    June 14th, 2012 at 1:59 pm

    I had those stretchmarks at your age- same place, same size, and I didn’t even get pregnant for the first time until I was 33! I also had them on the back of my legs, all over my butt, front of my thighs too – all at the age of 14. I wasn’t even overweight – never have been, but I got them anyway, from growing I guess.

    You’d be surprised how many people your age have stretchmarks caused by growth spurts – you’re not alone.

    Now at 37, and 3 children later, I have them on my stomach too! Pretty big ones. So, you don’t have any on your stomach. Even if you did, you have a great looking body. You’ll be just fine.

    You have every reason to have every confidence in yourself; when you have that, you’ll find that all other things (relationships included) usually fall into place a lot easier. You can get there, you just have to believe it and try not to sweat the small stuff. :)

  4. amber H Says:
    June 14th, 2012 at 5:18 pm

    your gorgeous!! ide die to have that tummy ;)

  5. boomboom Says:
    June 16th, 2012 at 4:25 am

    u cant even tell uv had a baby lmao. u r amazing.wen u have a body or belly like mine then id understand lol

  6. Chris Says:
    June 16th, 2012 at 9:54 am

    As a 27 year old guy in my prime i will tell you that you are FINE! and SEXY! no guy in his right mind would even consider passing you up for any physical reason, you should wear a string bikini all summer!

  7. L Says:
    June 16th, 2012 at 8:00 pm

    You look fabulous! !! Stunning. If he isnt the one you will find the one. Nobody deserves cheating. You and you sin are beautiful!

  8. L Says:
    June 16th, 2012 at 8:02 pm

    I meant son .. sorry dumb phone!

  9. Mya Maternity Says:
    June 16th, 2012 at 8:14 pm

    You must be kidding. You look amazing and I would have killed for that tummy before I had two kids. You look great and should not even worry about anything. I did want to comment about you saying you were scared to be alone. You are a very young girl and have the opportunity to turn your future into whatever you want to. I was a single mom before meeting my wonderful husband and he loved me for my post baby body and he loved my son as well. Your main priority is to take care of your son and be confident in yourself as a woman. When you are confident everything else will fall into place.

  10. Tracy Says:
    June 17th, 2012 at 2:22 pm

    Your son is gorgous and so are you. I would love to have your body. You need to be happy for you and your son :)

  11. Brett Says:
    June 19th, 2012 at 7:50 am

    Im so sorry to hear that and I cannot imagine how or why anyone would think to cheat on you knowing what they had at home…You look absolutely incredible and even better than many of whom havent had kids honestly! Your breasts and nipples are STILL very perky..they look as firm as fake ones! Thats a compliment)! and there is nothing that should hold you back from being confident with your body, wear your bikini…show some skin, you can definately turn heads still..!

  12. kenya Says:
    June 20th, 2012 at 12:23 am

    Hello jade :) your body is awsome and im so jelly jeloues lol i just had my baby may 22 2012 i pushed for two hours and had problems my pelvis was too small and baby heart beat was getting stressed and we both had a fever so i ended up haveing a c section my body before my pregancy was like yours i was 99 pounds tho and big boobies too :) i was also a dance and had a amazing flat tummy now its all saggy and my boobs too i feel sad and gross sometimes when i see my body bc my preprgancy body looked like a bikkni model and i wish i had my perky boobs and flat tummy back i was wondering what did you have to do to get your falt tummy back or did it all come back how long does the sagging go away and for ur body to turn back to itslef ?

  13. brooke Says:
    June 21st, 2012 at 2:33 pm

    Point blank: If he cheats on you again, he’s NOT GOOD FOR YOU AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL SON. You can find a good daddy for him, but your cheating him out of one if you stay with a guy who does that to you. YOUR. BEAUTIFUL. YOU. CAN. EASILY. GET. A. MAN. Don’t stay with a loser, even if he’s your baby’s daddy. He may not be what’s best.

  14. Sarah P. Says:
    June 21st, 2012 at 7:10 pm

    You may not look like your old self, but your NEW SELF is GORGEOUS! Come to terms with the beauty of you now. The old you is gone forever and the new you is a mother… a mother who is dang lucky to have such an amazing body!!!

  15. Lama Says:
    June 21st, 2012 at 8:23 pm

    What can be perkier than these boobs and flatter than that stomach?!

  16. Corinne Says:
    June 28th, 2012 at 6:10 am

    Wow! You look like you never had a baby. I’m jealous!! The stretch marks fade to white. I actually kind of like mine.

  17. Allyshia Says:
    July 15th, 2012 at 11:01 pm

    If anything, you have more of a woman shape now! But you are still so tiny and little! I wish I looked that good after my two baby girls. They both stretched me far. 24 weeks and I look 9 months! Your boobs look incredible. just saying! And your stretch marks will go away after a while :)

  18. Rozanne Says:
    July 23rd, 2012 at 2:33 pm

    I’ve never been pregnant and you’ve got a better figure than me.

  19. Robert B Wier Says:
    July 30th, 2012 at 2:04 pm

    Make sure that you have access to social support structures outside of your husband. Unfortunately, young guys who impregnate girls are usually NOT ready to handle that responsibility. ESPECIALLY if he is cheating on you: try to make the relationship work, but be prepared to go-it alone. Stay on good terms with your family. Make contact with older women through websites like this. Get a part-time job. Stay in school. And also, stop thinking about your body. Beautiful or not, sexy or not: that only leads to limitation which will compromise your relationship with yourself and your future relationship with your children. How can your daughter trust her mother if you are willing to abuse yourself in your mind??

  20. Christine Says:
    October 16th, 2012 at 12:18 am

    Your body is supposed to look different after having a child! I hope to get a few stretch marks on my sides, but I know I will get a lot worse than that seeing as I already have lots of my boobs and I am only 3 and half months. It’s kind of funny/ annoying how many men posted under your pictures. It just goes to show how shallow they really are! I blame them for making us feel this way. Imagine if the rolls were reversed it would be soo different! I bet men would show off how and boast about having bigger stretch marks! hey look at that guys stretch marks and saggy skin! I bet he had a big healthy baby!! and I bet there would be a lot more skin shown off at the beach… it would be like hey that dude obviously had a kid, cool good for him! Instead u rarely see a girl with a good in shape body but saggy skin/ lots of stretch marks at the beach showing off her body! No offense but it’s usually the lucky girls that woman love to hate like you! who have no stretch marks and leave the rest of us feeling like we r so alone and unlucky in this world of materialistic beauty!

  21. Kristin Says:
    November 28th, 2012 at 12:16 pm

    Your body is perfect! Your son is beautiful btw!

  22. Michelle Says:
    February 13th, 2013 at 4:20 pm

    Since watching this site, I have not seen a mother looking better than you do! You have great abs and boobs.
    Take care of those stretch marks and use good quality creams; since they are still red, they become much less visible.Moreover, you can improve their appearance with laser therapy.

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