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Trying to come to terms with my new body. (Vi’s Mama)

July 27, 2010

I had my daughter when i was sixteen. Before my pregnancy i was a mere 95 Ibs. I wore a size 32 B. I didn’t appreciate my body at all. During my pregnancy i used lotion, vitamin E oil, Shea Butter…I bought pretty much every “stretch mark” cream available, but none of it seemed to work. At one point during my pregnancy it literally looked like tigers had scratched my breasts to shreds. They were covered in thick angry red lines. I was so embarrassed by my body. I remember when i was eight months pregnant i was lifting my backpack up in the school hallway and a classmate happened to see the stretch marks surrounding my belly button. She looked at me in disgust and said “God, i hope that doesn’t happen to me if i get pregnant.” During my pregnancy with Vi i developed a herniated belly button. After she was born i had it corrected, but the surgery left a scar underneath my belly button. I breast fed Vi until she was eight months old and began biting. I absolutely loved the experience, but it’s been really hard for me to accept my saggy breasts. I am now eighteen and my daughter is 15 months, a lot of my stretch marks have faded, but i still feel too uncomfortable to wear a bathing suit in public. I hear my friends complain about their unscathed bodies and it drives me crazy. I am so grateful for this site. After reading some of the entries i have finally begun to feel pride about my scars. I gave birth naturally to a beautiful 6 Ib, 14 ounce baby. She is my world and i would give up a flat stomach and perky breasts for her any day!! Sincerely, Vi’s Mama.

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20 Responses to “Trying to come to terms with my new body. (Vi’s Mama)”

  1. bree Says:
    July 27th, 2010 at 9:37 am

    umm, you look great :)

    dont sweat it!

  2. bernice Says:
    July 27th, 2010 at 10:19 am

    you do look amazing! seriously, i always read the story and wonder how women can see one thing when the pics are so different. it’s the same with me though, i’d describe myself one way and probably someone else would think i looked fine. you are beautiful, live like you know that:)

  3. Ashley Says:
    July 27th, 2010 at 10:22 am

    I can’t see any stretch marks. You look great.

  4. Krissy Says:
    July 27th, 2010 at 10:33 am

    You have a wonderful grown ups body. You don’t look like a kid anymore, and that’s ok. The problem is that you are still hanging out with people who have kid bodies. Although you look substantially more fit than I did at 18. :)

  5. monika Says:
    July 27th, 2010 at 12:34 pm

    you can wear a bikini and feel sexy! there is NO REASON you shouldn’t feel like this. and i am pretty sure, if u’d do it, many men will look after you thinking how sexy u are! i mean it.

  6. megan Says:
    July 27th, 2010 at 1:48 pm

    you look great, and besides women arent supposed to weigh 95 lbs. I also developed a hernia during pregnancy, just had hernia surgery 7 weeks ago and my scar looks just like that. Just be glad you dont have permanent bruising like mine did.

  7. Bryana Says:
    July 27th, 2010 at 3:38 pm

    Being a young teen mom myself, I know what this feels like. I am now almost 23, but I have my son when I was 18. All my “friends” would look at me like I was disgusting and disfigured because I now had a body of a woman and a mother. I drifted away from those “friends” because I couldn’t take it any more. I began to find new friends, ones that actually understood and cared, and now I LOVE my body. I am now more mature and LOVE myself because I want to, not because I feel I need to, but because it is beautiful and it is mine and only I can judge it. :)
    Be proud! Your gorgeous and have an absolutely beautiful body! :)

  8. jessy Says:
    July 27th, 2010 at 11:07 pm

    you look really good, you’re naturally a petite woman so your lucky! and your breasts look way better than mine do.

  9. Amanda Says:
    July 28th, 2010 at 11:11 am

    I’m 22yrs old and have 2 kids and let me tell you…you look like a super model compared to me! You look great!!!

  10. mandy Says:
    July 28th, 2010 at 8:47 pm

    my boobs look exactly like yours

  11. mandy Says:
    July 28th, 2010 at 9:21 pm

    posts like yours make me want to share my story. I feel kind of cheated, you know. I didnt show most of my pregnancy and now that I have had my son to the outside world it would seem as if I had never been pregnant. I confided to a few close friends how I felt about my body’s changes they made really snide remarks about how I didnt look any different and almost belittling me for even thinking of addressing this subject to them of all people. But like you, when I am naked I do look different. My breasts are lower from breastfeeding and I have kind of a butt crack on the lower half of my abdomen ( dont know how else to word that.)and the veins on my legs are bright blue. Even my “lady parts” look different. I considered posting on here but I really dont want to hear from women who wish i had it worse. Just want to see all sides of the rainbow. And my body is no where near supermodel. Its def a mommy bod

  12. destiny Says:
    July 29th, 2010 at 12:19 am

    Your boobs look like mine only lighter :) Wear a bikini and be proud, you look gorgeous. I felt the same way after I had my first daughter at 16, but your boobs, they are amazingly gorgeous and your tummy gives you character. It’s just a battle wound :) Wear your skin and your scars proudly, confidence is what can make you feel the sexiest. ;)

  13. Melissa Says:
    July 29th, 2010 at 6:08 am

    My body looks similar to yours….let me tell you that you look great! After having a baby it’s unrealistic to compare yourself to non-mothers. As for the bathing suit with your body shape I found a Monokini works best! Good luck!!

  14. Sarah P. Says:
    July 29th, 2010 at 7:34 pm

    Wear that bikini, Mama! You look amazing!!! :D

  15. brittani Says:
    August 2nd, 2010 at 10:07 am

    you look beautiful! confidence is the sexiest thing of all. you should rock that bikini…and you should take your baby with you when you do and be like “ya, thats right…this is MY baby!”

  16. lilo Says:
    August 2nd, 2010 at 7:57 pm

    OMG, girl!! you look amazing!!! you are beautiful don’t forget that darling!

  17. MARTINARIEL Says:
    August 7th, 2010 at 9:09 am

    Hey!! you are beautiful,don’t worry about how it looks you will get back to where you want to be( body wise) it will take a little time but you will have to come to terms with your self first before you can trullt beggin to change your outward appearance…

  18. Mariah Says:
    August 12th, 2010 at 11:35 am

    You look simply amazing! I do not see any stretch marks or sagging skin anywhere!!! In fact I would not even guess you had ever had a baby without you saying so!!

  19. Kristine Says:
    August 12th, 2010 at 8:08 pm

    You go girl! You have a great body —> no saggy belly… unlike mine.

  20. alyssa Says:
    December 5th, 2010 at 4:45 pm

    wow, your breasts are beautiful!

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