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Third Child, 3 Months PP (Anonymous)

April 7, 2010

I am 29 years old and had baby number three, three months ago. I gained 40-45 lbs. with each pregnancy, a lot of it going on my stomach. People always asked me if I was sure I wasn’t having twins. But I loved my big pregnant belly. I felt so full of life, even though it was exhausting and my back always hurt because it had to support my beautiful, full belly. I’m 5’7″ and started my motherhood journey weighing 135 lbs. and went to 180 lbs. I now weigh 150 lbs. With each birth, my skin has gotten more and more stretchy and wrinkly. I loved the way my boobs looked after the first two births–they filled up a lot. But this time, they are much more saggy (but they make plenty of milk!). And my right boob and aerola are bigger than the left. Sometimes I feel self-conscious, wondering if anyone else will notice that I am uneven. The skin on my legs, arms, and face have lost some elasticity, too. I guess that’s also a part of aging. With the stretchy skin, I thought that I had done something wrong or that something was wrong with my body. I’m glad to see it’s normal! I got red stretch marks on my butt and boobs during my first pregnancy, but they faded after a while and I don’t even notice them.

My body is beautiful to me and I now give loving thoughts to my imperfections because they are mine. I am feeling at peace with my body (especially after seeing this sight–it was so helpful in accepting myself). My opinion of myself is really the only one that matters, that is what affects how I feel. The days I have a harder time, that is when I know I need to do something nice for me. And I keep away from media that sends negative messages to me, especially when there is so much to enjoy in life. Thank you for this site!!!!!!!!!

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11 Responses to “Third Child, 3 Months PP (Anonymous)”

  1. Amy Says:
    April 7th, 2010 at 2:43 pm

    I can see what you mean about your breasts, but I think the difference is small. I really doubt that anyone would be able to notice any unevenness with your clothes on. My breasts are uneven too, and from what I’ve seen on this site, it’s very, very common! Please don’t worry about it. :-)

  2. tanya Says:
    April 7th, 2010 at 2:43 pm

    wow i love your attitude :) i stay away from tv from now on and now i love my body!! you look great you dont look as if you had kids even nevermind 3!!! :D

  3. Emma Says:
    April 8th, 2010 at 2:32 am

    Great to hear that you love your body, great attitude;-)

    I think your body looks great and I wouldn´t have thought about your uneven breasts unless you had mentioned it.

    Staying away from the TV makes your life richer

  4. marie Says:
    April 8th, 2010 at 6:55 am

    you look awesome! I honestly would not have noticed the difference in your breasts if you had not pointed it out…it is so subtle. I’m jealous of your butt… it’s fabulous!. p.s yay for pubic hair! seems like everyone is shaving it nowadays.

  5. mamaoffour Says:
    April 9th, 2010 at 1:54 pm

    Love the attitude! You should be proud of your body – it looks fabulous!

  6. Sarah Says:
    April 9th, 2010 at 9:56 pm

    I must say that you have a beautiful figure! So feminine! I’m jealous of your cute bootie, too!

  7. Sara Says:
    April 11th, 2010 at 10:35 am

    Wow, you look great! Wish I had your butt :-)

  8. Mariah Says:
    April 12th, 2010 at 8:30 pm

    I’m so impressed by your attitude of your body! You have amazing skin, and our breasts are very similar (though my skin, not so much). I have one size larger than the other, areola and all.

    Also; yay for pubic hair (too!)! It really does feel like the younger 20’s are moving down that proverbial lawn. I am the same age as you, and very similarly “scaped”, as it were. I love that there are women out there unafraid of all the parts that make us women!

  9. Ellen Says:
    April 16th, 2010 at 12:23 pm

    I too am 29 and just had my third. I WISH I looked as great as you do! But I am much more at peace with my body now then I was after my 1st. I guess it’s grown on me in the past 4 years. Ha.

  10. Greg Says:
    April 27th, 2010 at 12:18 pm

    You look great in these photos!

  11. Anonymous Says:
    April 30th, 2010 at 12:39 pm

    Do you know what might help your breasts? Those exercises you’re supposed to do during pregnancy to help develop muscles to support them. I have been doing them since ending breastfeeding and have noticed a little less sag.

    Or you can do arm circles: stick your arms straight out so you look like a ‘T’. Rotate your arms in small circles, varying speed. You’ll feel the burn where the muscles are that hold up your breasts.


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