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Thanks SOAM – 6 Months PP (Anonymous)

July 7, 2009

My Age: 31
Number of Pregnancies and Births: 1
Age of child: 6 months

Pics I attached: The henna belly picture is at 38 weeks, the two naked ones and one of my daughter are 6 months post-partum.

I started lurking here before my husband and I were even trying to have kids. I have to admit; at first some of the photos were a bit shocking. I’m a victim of this culture just like anyone else, and it was sometimes uncomfortable to see exactly what women look like through pregnancy and motherhood. I started checking for new posts daily, and it didn’t take long for me to find the beauty in every single photograph. It’s amazing how social norms work – for or against us sometimes – and it took some exposure and familiarity – and soon I realized how inspiring each mother really is. Thank you for teaching me what it looks like to become a mother. It changes each of us inside and out – and there is something stunning about the power and strength of what our bodies can do. For me, visiting this site helped me prepare just as much as any book I was told to read when I got pregnant. I am in awe of every woman who posts here. We all go through pregnancy and birth on our own journey, and each of us struggles in some way or another with whatever changes come with that path. My husband, bless his heart, said he thought I would make people jealous if I posted on SOAM. (God, I love that man!) I had to explain to him that I struggle with the changes in my body just like all the other women who post here, and he really missed the point of what it means to share images here. I am part of this club, even if I didn’t get stretch marks. We are all “normal” – whatever that word means – with whatever degree of change or level of comfort we have in our own skin. The point is to do our damn best to celebrate each other as women and shed light on the beauty that comes with so many shapes and sizes of motherhood. My body is just a vessel for what is really inside of me, and I’m proud it served me well to grow and nourish a healthy little girl. I’m still working on truly accepting some of the changes, but I wouldn’t trade being a mama for anything – and it’s so worth it.

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8 Responses to “Thanks SOAM – 6 Months PP (Anonymous)”

  1. madelain Says:
    July 8th, 2009 at 2:12 am

    For a post preggie ladie, you still look good. I’m 24 and i look a lot worse than that! tyou look like you havn’t even had a child.

    I am now 11 months post partum and i still cant shake the mushroom effect that hangs over my jeans!
    I’m furiously angry about it still… There are many reasons i hate this post body! I loved and appreciated my old self before having a baba! I can’t shake the way I feel about it…

    I love my baby so much. Wouldn’t give him up. I just have to put my shoulder to the wheel and work a little harder for the body i want.

    thanks for sharing with us

    madelain

    Thanks for sharing with us.

  2. Lauren Says:
    July 8th, 2009 at 11:01 am

    Well put..You look great and have an aweosme attitude. :)

  3. mrs. petunia Says:
    July 8th, 2009 at 4:06 pm

    thank you for your inspiring words. You are beautiful.

  4. Shawna Says:
    July 19th, 2009 at 3:28 pm

    Hi, I look at your pictures and I think to myself why are you having issues with your body. You have no stretchmarks, no loose skin, perky boobs why are you having body issues. But then I remembered before I was pregnant I had a firm toned body and I still had BODY ISSUES. So I get where your coming from although you have no visible signs of having children I understand that it has affected you and that we all have our insecurities weather their visible to some of us or not. Thanks for your post it really opened my eyes and helped me understand.

  5. Randi Says:
    July 22nd, 2009 at 7:30 am

    I am 17, no where close to having a baby and I’m already lurking on this site :) Your body is beautiful and so is your baby!

  6. Greg Says:
    August 18th, 2009 at 1:57 pm

    You look really beautiful in these pictures. I wish you and your family all the very best for the future.

  7. Bhutanim Says:
    August 26th, 2009 at 10:06 am

    I must appreciate the shape of breast and body, my compliments . your baby is very sweet

  8. arun Says:
    September 9th, 2009 at 5:11 pm

    Yes SOAM is a fantastic endeavour. Each n every photograph i have seen so far has enriched my sense of beauty. I am glad to have stumbled upon this site. It was one of those lucky days i guess when u r handsomely rewarded by the internet search engine. A big thanks to bonnie for this fabulous site and lady Anonymous, u r one more esteemed part of this beautiful collage here.

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