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Struggling (Anonymous)

February 22, 2007

After giving birth to 2 wonderful children,I am in the midst of an eating disorder. I long to love and accept my feminine form. It’s difficult when we are constantly bombarded with media images of women with large perky breasts, tiny waists, and small hips. My goal is to learn to love my body, and I will give my children the tools they need to love themselves.

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18 Responses to “Struggling (Anonymous)”

  1. Kate Says:
    February 22nd, 2007 at 3:37 pm

    I hope you can learn to love yourself, because you are just beautiful, and your baby is too.

  2. Cristin2324 Says:
    February 22nd, 2007 at 4:17 pm

    You look so beautiful, so young and so contented standing there holding your gorgeous healthy baby. I love your picture!

    Just by posting your photo here and writing those words I think you’re on your way to loving and accepting yourself. Your kids are lucky to have you!

  3. Jill Says:
    February 22nd, 2007 at 4:57 pm

    You are gorgeous! You have such a cute body and your face is beautiful. Your little one looks so cozy in that wrap…lucky babe! :)

  4. eBirdie Says:
    February 22nd, 2007 at 6:51 pm

    My first thought upon seeing this image was that, wow, you look so familiar! This image is just like the Mona Lisa! Lovely! http://www.ibiblio.org/wm/paint/auth/vinci/joconde/joconde.jpg

  5. Kathy Says:
    February 22nd, 2007 at 11:07 pm

    I don’t get it. YOu look skinny. Is the eating disorder you’re suffering from anorexia?

  6. Sandy Says:
    February 23rd, 2007 at 4:29 am

    I have an eating disorder as well. It helps to look at this site each and every day and see all the different shapes and sizes of all these beautiful women. You are beautiful. Your face is very strikingly beautiful and I can tell you are very kind. Please, for your health and the sake of your children, get the counseling you need to overcome this. ((((hugs))))

  7. Elizabeth Says:
    February 23rd, 2007 at 5:14 am

    I hope that one day you can see your beauty as others see it. My SIL and best friend had eating disorders before pregnancy. It was particularly difficult to go through the “growing” changes of pregnancy. But, she made it through and has 2 beautiful boys. I wish the same for you. Thanks for sharing yourself with us.

  8. Victoria Says:
    February 23rd, 2007 at 9:31 am

    While I don’t have an eating disorder, I can totally relate to the feeling of utter inadequacey when shown what we’re supposed to beleive is normal. I used to be what people call normal now. Does that make me abnormal? I feel that way sometimes. I obsess about how I can be that way again, and I can barely have a good time if I have to be subjected to wearing a swimsuit. I swear sometimes it’s all I think of. It’s not easy when the biggest critic is living inside your mind, you know? I wish you luck in getting through this. *hugs*

  9. Lacey Says:
    February 23rd, 2007 at 10:49 am

    I know what it like to “know” what the world expects you to look like, but thats airbrush. You have to look deep inside and see the beauty, thats where it is. It took me years to realize that. look at what youre holding, seemly a healthy baby, be grateful. that body , that new body, you dont like, carried those children into this world. When your children are older and see their mother proudly looking in the mirror,LOVELY every inch, every mark, then they’ll have the tools needed to love themselves fully. When I had my first child I when from a size 2 to a size 7, maybe thats ok to some, wasnt to me. Then in one min flat, the dr. told me my 4 mos old child must undergo openheart surgery or live a very short life. I hated this body that had giving my baby life, how crazy, that couldve been the only thing linking me to her. thats a fight WE won! me proud, youre beautiful, you’ve gotta tell and teach youre self that! best of luck..Go win you fight!

  10. Drea Says:
    February 23rd, 2007 at 7:38 pm

    i know how hard it is .. i can relate 2 u a lot. btw i love your wrap :-) u look beautiful.

  11. Amber Says:
    February 23rd, 2007 at 9:40 pm

    ITA with the previous comments. Thanks for being brave enough to post this. (BTW, you’re beautiful!)

    ((((Hugs))))

  12. Bethie Says:
    February 25th, 2007 at 8:11 pm

    You look absolutely amazing!

  13. jessica Says:
    February 26th, 2007 at 1:17 pm

    what a stunningly beautiful picture.

  14. Dawnelle Says:
    February 26th, 2007 at 3:49 pm

    Anorexia took me down when I was a teenager (ages 12-19). I am thankful that I made a full recovery long before my boys were born.
    My first thought when I saw your pic was that you looked too thin, especially to have a newborn baby! When I read your post, my heart ached for you.
    I have no words of wisdom for you, but I know the hell that an eating disorder binds you in.
    And you are beautiful, and your beauty will not fade if you put on some weight. Your body knows the “right” weight for itself…and I know how hard it is to trust your body, but it does know.
    Hugs to you.

  15. Someone Who Knows Says:
    February 26th, 2007 at 7:27 pm

    As someone who has had one herself, I urge you to get help. Being thin will not solve your problems and I have a feeling that you, like many of us who have had these issues, might feel the need to want to “control” something.

    Do not look at those photos. Put down the magazines, turn off those shows and find someone who can help you get better.

    Life doesn’t have to be like that.

  16. Caitlin Says:
    December 7th, 2007 at 6:17 pm

    Beautiful.

  17. maggie Says:
    December 10th, 2007 at 10:03 am

    i have to agree with the other poster, put down those magazines and stop comparing yourself. you are a beautiful woman and if that means an extra 5-8-10 lbs so be it. i was anorexic/bulimic for longer than i can remember and after i had my son i realized i wasted so much of my life with that. mentally physically emotionally wasted away much like my body was wasting away.. i urge you to find someone a therapist a close friend or someone to help you heal. you will see your life in a whole new wonderful exciting light! good luck

  18. Natasha Says:
    May 23rd, 2008 at 6:07 pm

    When I saw this picture I thought I was looking at my long lost twin! By the way, I can tell from your hands that you have always been slender. I’m guessing you will remain that way even if you trust your body and eat till you feel full rather than worrying worrying worrying…During puberty I became terrified of gaining weight and developed anorexia. After about five years of constant anxiety about weight gain I finally recovered and just ate whatever. Well, I did gain about fifteen lbs as my body readjusted to normal intake. However, after a few months or maybe a year that weight came off and I remained at a healthy weight with slender build. My recommendation is to find some help and TRUST YOUR BODY

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