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Slowly Gaining Self-Acceptance (Becc)

June 29, 2009

I am 23 and have 2 beautiful boys. My eldest is 6 and my youngest is 10 months. I have always been a larger shaped women and with a husband my height, my body issues have been hard to deal with, knowing we are around the same weight. After having my youngest, I feel as if I have turned into a blob. My belly looks like a jellyfish has begun to house on it and I have the biggest apron. I had a c-section with my youngest which I wasn’t expecting. I know I need to exercise more but I don’t feel up to it when I have body issues. When I feel great and sexy, for some reason, I want to exercise and feel even better. When I am having a fat day, i just want to wallow. I feel better after finding this website and finding out that women feel the same way as me. I just want to accept me and feel great to be me. I have the 2 healthiest boys in the world, why can that not be enough??? I feel selfish and harsh for wanting more. Here is a photo of me taken today.

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5 Responses to “Slowly Gaining Self-Acceptance (Becc)”

  1. TracyKM Says:
    June 29th, 2009 at 3:52 pm

    A great way to ‘exercise’ even when you don’t want to, is to babywear. Put your youngest on your back, in a mei tai, or wrap, and just go about doing what you normally do. His added weight surprises your body; you’ll burn extra calories, build muscles, and get stuff done at the same time.
    We all have fat days :) You feel selfish wanting more because you deserve more. What you focus on, will expand. Focus on loving yourself and your family you created, and you’ll naturally start thinking better about yourself and that leads to doing better with/for yourself :)

  2. Healthnut mama Says:
    June 29th, 2009 at 4:21 pm

    As grateful as I am for having 2 healthy babies like you , I get resentful towards those people who have healthy babies AND a “perfect” body. Why do they get to have it all? But at the same time you gotta think to yourself, you are the luckiest for having a man you love and they may have the “perfect” body but only you have those beautiful boys of yours. Eating right and exercising will come in time. Just make it a priority in your life and soon you will be rockin a bikini on the beach and being so proud of yourself for accomplishing that goal. And in the end, you will appreciate your body so much more than those who have a “perfect” body naturally. Note that I put “perfect” in quotes as it is in the eye of the beholder. Best of luck. PS: It is possible to rock the bikini pp AND get hit on. I put on 65 lbs, had 2 kiddos including a 10 pounder, got stretchmarks from boobs to ankles. I worked my ass off, lost the weight and got hit on several times in a bikini on a beach in LA of all places! It is possible!

  3. Jenny B Says:
    July 20th, 2009 at 1:43 pm

    Even those of us who lost all the weight have days where we HATE our postpartum bodies. Or maybe thats just me. I hate my scar more than any of the stretchmarks or the saggyness

  4. Just Me Says:
    August 14th, 2009 at 1:00 pm

    “I just want to accept me”

    That’s what I’m dealing with!

    Your belly looks VERY similar to mine. I have 4 children, first was a c-section, other 3 were born vaginally.

    Kudos to you for being brave enough to post on this site!

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