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My Twin Skin (Anonymous)

June 20, 2011

I’m trying to come to terms with my twin skin.

Before I got pregnant I was a little over my prefered weight at about 125 lbs. I gained almost 70 lbs during the pregancy, but most of it was swelling and of course two babies weight a lot too. After my boys were born I lost most of the weight in a couple of weeks, but after that I’ve been stuck at around 140 lbs. I don’t think my weight is so much of an issue, but I wish I could lose a few pounds.

What really bothers me is the way that the pregnancy has treated my body – I had small boobs before, and now after the breastfeeding they are a whole cup size smaller – and one sags and the other one doesn’t! My already big thighs and butt got even bigger (I think that is actually where most of the extra pounds are sitting) and of course my stomach, well it’s just not to describe!

I think I look absolutely terrible. But I feel like I also have to mention: I love my little boys to pieces and I don’t want to remember what it was like without them – and I know I could have gotten a lot more of stretchmarks and a bigger twin skin – but I wish I could have my old body back! Some days (most days) I am okay with it and just try to wear clothing that hides it, but some days (like today) I go on a bummer about it and want to feel sexy again.

~Age: 21
~Number of pregnancies and births: 1 nearly full term twin pregnancy, 2 births
~The age of your children, or how far postpartum you are: 2 boys, 12 months old.

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13 Responses to “My Twin Skin (Anonymous)”

  1. Stacy Says:
    June 20th, 2011 at 10:48 am

    You are beautiful! I think your perspective on your body is challenging because we all tend to hold on to how we used to look. When I look at your body, and I imagined seeing you on a beach or something, I would see a fit mama with her babies. Be easy on yourself and realize that your eyes do not always tell you the truth.

  2. Kayla Says:
    June 20th, 2011 at 2:19 pm

    Wow! You have such a beautiful shape to your body. I think the bigger butt and thighs were a good thing your you! lol I am very impressed too about how your tummy looks after carrying 2 babies! Mine kinda looks like that just after one.

    Love your twin skin. It is beautiful. That is amazing that you were able to keep your beautiful body. I see nothing on you to feel bad about. You are your own worst critic mama!

  3. lizz Says:
    June 20th, 2011 at 8:06 pm

    oh hon you are beautiful! i am incredibly jealous of your arms and and bum and legs! its hard coming to terms with the way things change and is always a battle but try to be happy in yourself you are a strong mother and a beautiful person :)

  4. Marz Says:
    June 20th, 2011 at 10:36 pm

    WOW. Kudos, kiddo. You def don’t look like you have the “twin skin.” You’re much smaller than me (even before I was pregnant and in the best shape of my life), and I’m not trying to down myself because I’m pretty happy with how it handled pregnany/birth/postpartum, but you ahve a beautiful shape. Go out and get some clothes that make you feel sexy! (tha always helps me, lol) Sometimes being in the house most of the day with no adults to talk to, chillin’ in PJs just makes you feel dumpy, even though you’re anything but that :)

  5. Dee Says:
    June 20th, 2011 at 11:07 pm

    My breasts also went down a cup size after pregnancy. I feel so flat-chested sometimes. One sags more than the other, too, but it’s not super noticeable. So you are not alone. :)

    I think your body is very sexy. Your man is definitely a lucky fella. I swear, our breasts look completely identical. Lol.

  6. Erica Says:
    June 21st, 2011 at 8:01 pm

    I wish that after one child my body looked that good! You look great. I understand what you are saying about weight not being the issue, but the shape of your body has changed a lot. I gained 75 lbs with my daughter, and lost 65 of it. My body is proportioned much different now than before. I gained weight in my thighs, belly and hips. I feel like having a child just made me more of a woman, if that makes sense. Now I have my beautiful child to care for, and it takes my mind off my body. Sometimes I feel insecure with my fiance because my body has changed, but he always reassures me that I am still just as sexy as ever.. if not more so since my body changed to bring our child into this world.

  7. Lauren Says:
    June 22nd, 2011 at 6:56 pm

    I think you look fantastic!

  8. MJ Says:
    June 24th, 2011 at 2:09 pm

    im 24 n just had my third baby in 4 yrs and it wasnt till this pg that i liked my body again.. ive lost all my baby weight from this last pg but still have 30 from second pg to lose lol!! i think u look wonderful u will lose it just give ur self time :)

  9. Tessa Says:
    June 24th, 2011 at 4:36 pm

    I had only one baby, and you look better than me! I have more fat AND more loose skin than you do! You look good!

  10. Adrian Says:
    June 26th, 2011 at 2:21 am

    I appreciate it’s a challenge adapting to change but to be honest you look great! I suspect that even if I had seen your old figure, I’d say your new one has the edge!

  11. Amy Says:
    July 25th, 2011 at 12:07 pm

    You look great! I had twin girls a little over 2 years ago and I feel/felt the same way. I have been working out and toning and it has helped my self image a lot. BUT I still struggle with the shape of my body. I have a motivational/support group on facebook that I started to just help me and not feel alone. Feel free to friend me and leave a comment if you want to join the group. I think we can all use some motivation. (PS-this website goes to my “business” but the group is not affiliated with the business end. Its just a way for you to find me since I’m not sure how else to do that on fb.) Our group is doing a challenge every month and we’d love to have more people!

  12. Nina Says:
    August 23rd, 2011 at 2:34 pm

    I have got to say I have days where I feel like complete crap about how I feel after having my twin girls, I think almost all moms go through this at one point.

    First off you look great! Confidence might be hard to come by but you truly look good. What helps me feel a little better is wearing clothes that make me look like I don’t have the belly I have. At Wal Mart they have these spaghetti strap shirts that have some sort of elastic in it that you can wear under almost any shirt, it sucks all the tummy in and makes it look as if nothing is there. I think they are like five bucks in the underwear/bra section in many different colors. The tummy probably won’t ever go away and I have come to terms with it but feeling good in clothes makes it a little better. Also, get lingerie that covers your tummy but is still sexy, there are tons to choose from at Victoria Secret. Hope it helps..it’s just some things that I do to make me feel better about myself. Hang in there! : )

  13. Na'imah Says:
    September 17th, 2013 at 7:02 pm

    You do look great and it will keep getting better…I looked exactly like your pictures at a year after 38 weeks with twins, we are built the same…I’m a professional bellydancer and my biggest issue was the skin! I tried ever cream imaginable and nothing worked permanently..I have recently started using a microderm needle roller…not a bad as a tatoo but not comfortable…and have seen amazing results and am back in my costumes an performing on a regular basis. I do have a pretty bad diastasis but you can only tell if you are looking now that the skin doesn’t jump out at you first…Good luck Momma…Keep loving those babies and loving yourself…and maybe think about taking up bellydancin’

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