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Learning to Love My New Body (Anonymous)

March 17, 2010

I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant and had my first baby. I wasn’t too happy when I found out because it was unplanned. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and he is a great father. I have such a hard time accepting my new body. It is basically one giant stretch mark. I have tried everything so far. I’ve had 2 laser treatments, nothing, cocoa butter, nothing. I would do anything to get them away! I hate my saggy skin. I just wish I could have my old body back. 4 close friends of mine that have babies all have no stretch marks! it makes me blame myself for not getting top of the line cocoa butter or oils. I love my son more then anything! I really hope they go away. As far as the excess fat I know I can for the most part control by exercising. I gained 65 pounds and have lost 45 so far and am 16 weeks post pardum. It is my first baby and because of how much damage this has done to my body it has questioned me if i want to have another baby. If you have any advice for the stretch marks, please help! I would do anything to make them go away! I love this website and almost every post has brought a tear to my eye! please help me, I really need the support!

1st picture-7 months pregnant
2nd picture-8 months pregnant
3rd picture- day i went to deliver
4th picture- 3 weeks post pardum
5th picture- now (16 weeks pp)
6th picture- now
7th picture- now
8th picture- now
9th picture- now
10th picture- now
11th picture- now
12th picture- now
13th picture- now
14th picture- my son
15th picture-me before

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9 Responses to “Learning to Love My New Body (Anonymous)”

  1. kat Says:
    March 17th, 2010 at 11:24 am

    Ok. First of all, you look awesome!! I cant believe you’re less than 4 months pp! Second, with exercise and a healthy diet the skin will tighten up and your stomach will be completely flat in no time. The stretchmarks are permanent but will fade significantly. With my first baby (a 10 pounder and 65 pound gain) I got marks just like yours. I am on baby #3 (27 weeks) and no new stretchmarks. My advice is keep the weight gain to a minimum on all future pregnancies and you will get no further damage. Good luck and just know that your body is beautiful!

  2. Amy Says:
    March 17th, 2010 at 4:03 pm

    Ummm…one giant stretchmark?? You’ve got to be kidding!!! trust me, when you get to one year pp you will have whole new attitude, just keep doing daily moderate exercise. i know it’s big change, it just takes time. bio-oil and rosehip oil are both decent products, but they will only reduce the marks appearance, not make them go away.

  3. Judith Says:
    March 17th, 2010 at 5:49 pm

    Firstly, it’s ONLY 16 weeks and it took 9 months to get to that stage. Secondly you have a great figure – AND you have a waist and good breasts. I did not have strech marks so don’t know how you feel but I do know they fade to silver. I have seen enough older mums in the swimming pool to see that they just fade out and are barely noticable unless you bend and your body creases. So many women (and men) and fast developing teenagers too, have them that no one takes any notice. Just enjoy being a mum, eat healthily, exercise,walk lots with your baby and don’t let it stop you having a sibling for your baby.

  4. Nina Says:
    March 17th, 2010 at 7:44 pm

    my tummy looked like yours a year after i had my baby. now it’s been 3 years and i still have a little saggy skin but it’s practically nothing. it really does take time to heal. i mean, you grew something in your belly for 9 months, and it needs time to get back to normal!

    the other girls are right, exercise, drink tons of water, plenty of fruits and vegetables.

    Actually i recommend a shake i make every morning. It’s helped me lose weight and my skin is better (it’s also been known to help cure cancer, google it):

    Green Smoothie
    *1 large ripe banana
    *1 peeled and chopped apple
    *Nice handful of fresh spinach (i know this sounds weird)
    *Dollop of honey

    Put all the ingredients in a blender, add 1.5 cups cold water. Blend until smooth (it’s going to be bright green!) Stop the blender and add in 6-7 icecubes, blend again. Then drink! My 3 year old loves it and it’s full of vitamins, antioxidants and fiber. It should make enough for 2 full glasses. All my family loves it!

    Good luck to you!

  5. kat Says:
    March 18th, 2010 at 7:43 am

    That sounds awesome!! I am writing down the recipe right now lol!

  6. Jane Says:
    March 18th, 2010 at 12:37 pm

    WOW I cant totally relate to you!! there really isnt anything you can do, its just time. Oils and creams may help the disappearance but stretchmarks are tears deep within the dermal layer. Exercise a lot and tone down and if you still have a little pooch you could have a tummy tuck to fix it…thats what I’m looking into

    Good luck!!

  7. Mary Says:
    March 19th, 2010 at 8:13 pm

    I understand how you feel. I have 2 babies and with my first pregnancy I got stretch marks from 6 months on. I spent thousands of dollars on treatments (that NEVER worked) and compared my body to all my girlfriends (who also never got any stretch marks). Your beating yourself up, you have to just let it be and they will fade. Just work on being the best you… I joined a gym and have worked a little mani/pedi into my life weekly and I feel great. I doubt I look any different but my husband says Im back to the old, confident me! Feeling good on the inside will really shine through, keep you head up… and stop looking at your friends stretch free bodies, it will only give you a complex!

  8. Rachel Says:
    March 20th, 2010 at 5:58 pm

    Check out the Green Monster Movement website for more variations of the Green Smoothie drink Nina suggested.

    http://greenmonstermovement.com/

    The Green Monster (smoothie) is delicious… you might like spinach, but this is definitely a different way to enjoy spinach! lol
    Bon appetit!

  9. Amanda Says:
    March 21st, 2010 at 6:02 pm

    wow…your pictures are like looking at my own body. I was 18 when I got pregnant with my first…I am now 23 and pregnant with my fourth. I know how you feel…i can’t count the times i have called myself “a giant stretchmark” to my husband or wished i could wake up one morning and have the body i used to. There is only one thing i can say to you…you are BEAUTIFUL! Do not spend another moment thinking negatively about yourself…you are what you are, we all are. There is only so much any of us can to to be “better”. There will always be criticism for women like us…but we are REAL women. Keep your body in shape-and by shape i mean healthy. Don’t focus on the things you cannot change, just the things you can. And so much more importantly, be happy. I have spent 4 yrs hating myself…I just hate the thought of anyone else doing so. You are a gorgeous warrior (let a man try handling any of this!:) Love yourself. Love that amzing body you have. It has carried, birthed, and nurtured your child. What’s to hate?

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