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Getting Back (Selena)

August 4, 2010

Age: 24
Number of pregnancies and births: 1
Age of children and how far postpartum: 9 month old daughter and 9 months postpartum

When the thought came into my head that I wanted to start a family I, like many women, did not think about what my body would look like afterwards. I had not met mothers who openly discussed what changes happen to your body during and after pregnancy. Needless to say, I was quite shocked. I was motivated to stay in shape during my pregnancy, working out 45 minutes a day and eating well. During my pregnancy I was consider the ideal. I had a quick delivery and my daughter was 7 pounds 10 ounces. I was praised in the delivery room by my obstetrician for losing my tummy instantly. The first few weeks after delivery I was ecstatic with my new family and how I looked. Then the little voice popped into my head a few months into motherhood that I was not thin/fit enough. This is the same little voice that was in my head for most of my adolescence and young adulthood. The only time I did not let my obsessive thoughts bother me was when I was pregnant because my unborn child was more important than my perfect figure. I began to workout whenever I had the time (usually when my daughter was sleeping). It did not take long for me to become severely exhausted. Between being the primary caregiver for my daughter (no grandparents and very little assistance from my partner) and being a perfectionist around my house (baking, cleaning, entertaining guests) I was burnt out. I have learned now that I have to be a bit kinder to myself and relax a little about my wrinkly, giggly tummy. I was blessed enough to have a healthy, beautiful baby and I wouldn’t trade her for my former hot bod any day.

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8 Responses to “Getting Back (Selena)”

  1. Lauren Says:
    August 4th, 2010 at 9:46 am

    You still have a hot bod that’s forsure! I am glad to hear you are aware that you need to slow down a bit. Take Care! :)

  2. Tiffany Says:
    August 4th, 2010 at 2:04 pm

    I think you look amazing!

  3. jean Says:
    August 4th, 2010 at 4:02 pm

    wow. except for the mama-line, that’s almost gone, i can’t tell you’ve carried a baby in there. amazing skin tone!!

  4. tall mama Says:
    August 5th, 2010 at 1:25 am

    I find this sentance ‘I was praised in the delivery room by my obstetrician for losing my tummy instantly’ rather upsetting – again huge pressure on women, this time put on by the medical professionals.

  5. Stephanie Says:
    August 5th, 2010 at 9:53 am

    I agree with tall mama. I’m surprised a doctor would even say something like that.

  6. Lindsey Says:
    August 5th, 2010 at 12:43 pm

    You look amazing! You shouldn’t feel badly about your body at all. Hold your head up high, because you look great! :)

  7. Sarah P. Says:
    August 5th, 2010 at 2:51 pm

    You look UNBELIEVABLE! Lucky thing! Can we trade? :)

  8. Kady Says:
    August 29th, 2010 at 6:57 pm

    thank you for posting this. i am the primary caregiver to my daughter, my husband does very very little, and i want a clean house and hot meals, and a perfect body so i exercise 1-2 times a day. i thought i was alone in this tho. i want to relax in these things and enjoy my daughter.


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