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Embracing My Stretch Marks (Amber)

July 9, 2010

Age: 21
Number of pregnancies and births: 3 pregnancies, 1 birth
Age of children: 2, 31 weeks Pregnant

here i am at 31 weeks with our second girl, contemplating my body. i had our first at 18. i was young and fit. no stretchmarks on my belly. after i had her, i got them on my breasts and hips. but i could handle that. eventually they faded to white. i struggled with weight- at my heaviest i was 180 at 5’7. barely overweight but enough to squander any confidence. after jade turned 2 years old, i start losing weight. not lbs, but inches. i felt comfortable in my body. attractive. confident.

just as i whittle my size down to a size 9 pant size, im pregnant again. it was unexpected, but nothing we couldnt handle. my first thought was “oh great. im going to get fat again.”

right now im 204, my heaviest ive ever been. i also got my first stretchmarks on my belly. they’re small and just pink. so im hoping that they’re going to heal quickly. before i got them, i had intentions of going out to the public pool and flaunt my beautiful pregnant body. this is a time where i dont have to suck in my gut or hide behind layers of clothes bc of cellulite. but when i got the marks, all of that was lost. i now swim with a tank top on.

the first time my fiance saw the stretchmarks, he asked me what they were. did i get them from laying on the couch? i was ashamed and embarrassed. i started sobbing and acting like a fool. he of course was confused. i explained to him that they were indeed stretchmarks. he hugged me and told me that i was still beautiful.

i dont feel beautiful. i have horrible acne on my face from the hormones. and im huge. everyone thinks im due next week bc of how big i am. i have the weird hanging fat under my belly. and then the stretchmarks.

i hope before the baby gets here, i can learn to embrace my stretchmarks. that i can learn to love my womanly body. the body i am meant to have. but i cant help but see and envy these celebrities who look like they’ve been pregnant.

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9 Responses to “Embracing My Stretch Marks (Amber)”

  1. Kerry Says:
    July 9th, 2010 at 9:55 am

    Look at that belly! :) My stretchmarks looked just like that, and they do heal fast, mine stayed thin and light pink and were clearish before I was 2 months pp. Your fiance sounds likes a sweety, and he is right you ARE beautiful! I covered up when I was pregnant too even before I had a single mark, I wish I hadn’t been so ashamed of my blooming tummy. Embrace it! Pregnancy suits you :) Hope you have a fast and easy labor!

  2. skye Says:
    July 9th, 2010 at 10:10 am

    Your belly is so perfectly beautiful: )
    I have always looked at pregnant women in awe, they were so gorgeous and it all seemed so mysterious, I envied them…
    but when I was pregnant I forgot all that and just felt bulbous, like a bunch of bubbles, butt.belly.boobs.hips.thighs all popping out!
    I forgot that it was those things which made pregnant women so BEAUTIFUL!
    So, just try to relax and enjoy this most special time in your life.

  3. Sarah Says:
    July 9th, 2010 at 11:55 am

    Oh sweetie! Stop looking at the scale and stop looking at celebrities! Look at the photos you posted! Look at your perfect pregnant belly! You are incredibly gorgeous!!!

  4. Apryl Says:
    July 9th, 2010 at 1:33 pm

    You look incredible. I think you could totally rock a bikini with the pregnant belly. To me, you don’t look 31 weeks. More like 25. You look beautiful.

  5. dee Says:
    July 9th, 2010 at 2:40 pm

    your belly looks like an eye of a tornado, kinda cool looking. :)

  6. Susan Applegate Says:
    July 14th, 2010 at 7:36 pm

    I’ve had stretch marks for years, and only recently did I finally take action and get rid of them using a lot of the tips in this article. Thanks!
    - Susan

  7. Marz Says:
    July 16th, 2010 at 10:51 am

    HAHA!! sorry, I can just see your man asking and you bursting into tears and then what must be going on in his head: “OH CRAP!! what did I do??”
    lol… men are so cute when they’re clueless…
    At my heaviest weight ever I was 175 @ 5′ 7″ but I’ve had stretch marks on my hips since I was ten, so I’m prepared for more. I’m currently 22 weeks @165lbs.
    But almost all the pregnant pics I’ve seen have stretch marks on them, and a lot have some you can’t pick up with a camera— I don’t think you have to wear a tank top, your belly rocks! I’m looking forward to mine looking like that (although when it does, I’m sure I’ll be pissed off all the time cuz it’s in my way, lol)
    And something to think about is that pretty much all celebrities are underweight/close to being underweight. It’s a fact of the Skinny Hollywood trend. So a lot of them are supposed to gain a BUNCH (not all of them do), and then once hey have the kid they go back to all the diet pils, harcore training sessions, and the prescription ADD meds they abuse to lose weight.
    If you’re going to look at preggo/ex-preggo celebrities, try to focus on the ones who physically looked close to your body type. Take it from me, looking up the VS models won’t do anything but– at best– make you feel fat and ugly. At worst, it could encourage you to do things that would hurt your pregnancy.
    So live it up! That’s a kickass baby bump!

  8. Rio Says:
    October 1st, 2012 at 2:46 pm

    I’m thin and yet I already have stretchmarks at 31 weeks below my navel. I even have kelloid since I had cystectomy at 14 weeks. My baby is a lil big for me, tho, but as long as he is healthy and I am able to carry him to full term I’m happy. God will see us through. :)

  9. lisha Says:
    July 10th, 2013 at 3:11 pm

    I think all women are beautiful when they are pregnant and if u get stretch marks then you should be proud of them. I have mine on my rear end. and my son was born in my 28th week of pregnancy! I would rather have a healthy child then a perfect body!

    But you all that are pregnant you are ALL beautiful! Being a mother is a gift to the world!

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