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Disgusting Stomach, But I Was Blessed with a Beautiful Daughter (Jen)

March 25, 2011

I’m 27, 1 Pregnancy (so far) and 1 Birth, Daughter will be 3 in May

I am working on being happy with my body. It was extremely hard for me at first. Pre-pregnancy I was a bikini model and I never had to work on my stomach very hard and I could eat what I wanted. The last two weeks of my pregnancy I got stretch marks. After giving birth to my daughter, I was left with a very saggy, stretch mark covered stomach. For months, I covered up my stomach from my husband. I had gone from a bikini model body to a disgusting blob of fat that I called my stomach. I gained 45 lbs during my pregnancy but lucky enough I was able to lose all but 10 lbs pretty quick. However, the disgusting stretch marks never went away. They have lightened up some but I still can’t stand for my husband to see my stomach. He loves me no matter what and we are blessed with a beautiful daughter that made it all worth it. I’ve changed my swimsuit style and my clothing style a little but overall, I’ve learned to be happy with myself. We are working on baby #2 so I’m sure my struggles will start all over after the birth of our next one. All worth it though!

First picture is from about 2 1/2 yrs after my daughter’s birth and the second picture was about a month ago, almost 3 yrs after her birth.

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16 Responses to “Disgusting Stomach, But I Was Blessed with a Beautiful Daughter (Jen)”

  1. amber Says:
    March 25th, 2011 at 8:10 am

    you look great with some toning and exercise you could get that back, but with baby nmber 2 in the works no need…. congrats. you and i have the exact same shape silouhette wise, i have MUCH MORE saggy skin and stretch marks, check out my post – blessed and tortured. ide kill to have your belly!

  2. MJ Says:
    March 25th, 2011 at 11:39 am

    i will trade you in a heartbeat!! i think you look perfect i dont even see any SMs! i counted one day and think i came up with 300+ SMs that i have all over my body from my boobs down… chin up it could be so much worse im living proof lol!! good luck with #2 im just bout to have #3 and cant wait to be done!!

  3. Sandy Says:
    March 25th, 2011 at 12:13 pm

    i dont see a gross belly anywhere, you look better than me, i had a c section, it got infected, i was overweight to start with and now i have this gross fat flap of a belly that just hangs there,i look pregnant still! that was a year ago! lol be happy!

  4. Jenny W Says:
    March 25th, 2011 at 12:35 pm

    You look great, I would like to have your stomach as well. I know it is hard, I still can’t let my boyfriend see me naked, but our sweet babies are worth it!

  5. Colleen Says:
    March 25th, 2011 at 1:51 pm

    I’d rather see you in a bikini ad now than most of them women who are in that industry. You look fantastic and you look like a WOMAN, not a pre-pubescent girl. Good luck with with baby #2!

  6. gail Says:
    March 26th, 2011 at 6:21 am

    I think you are gorgeous and wish you best of luck with baby #2. Know that you are still a “model”…one for your little girl…for what a real woman looks like. She does not see your stomach as disgusting…rather a cozy place to sit and snuggle with you. Know that I am not being judgemental…I’ve seen what my body image did to my daughters and it breaks my heart. You are truly beautiful…

  7. Sarah Says:
    March 26th, 2011 at 12:57 pm

    Are we looking at the same picture? You look amazing. How sad that you don’t see what I see! You are a beautiful woman! :) You should let your husband see you. If he has eyeballs like I do, then he would see that you’re a really gorgeous, sexy woman!

  8. shannon Says:
    March 29th, 2011 at 6:20 am

    I don’t have much to say, except that you do not have a disgusting stomach what so ever. You look lovely. I am sure you are more healthy now than you were when you were a bikini model :) Congrats on your daughter…try to be confident, so that she will be a confident woman some day :)

  9. Kathy Says:
    March 31st, 2011 at 6:53 pm

    I completely understand where you are coming from…which is why I came to this website to get over it a little more. I gained 65lbs with my 1st, then got preg again when she was 6mo old and gained 45lb (on top of the 15lb I never lost). My stomach is shot. My youngest is 19mo old and I still have a gap between my stomach muscles that will never close. I have stretch marks. I have saggy skin esp on my lower stomach, and I can feel the “spare tire” bounce when I run bc of my hips, butt, everything having been stretched so far. Your profile pic reminds me of myself…hip bones showing, so shouldn’t the stomach be flat again? But it’s not. And it won’t ever be. Exercise won’t close the abdominal muscles nor get rid of the loose skin. Though I think I’ve got more loose skin than you. I wear a size 4, but am embarrassed to wear a bikini…or let my husband see me much either. I am getting over it though. It’s taking time. I’m confident in my relationship with my husband, and realize that he loves me regardless. I’ve always had self esteem issues so this is where the stomach hatred lies I believe. I just want you to know you are not alone. And I feel better knowing that I am not alone too…bc among my friends (who have their bodies back), I am.

  10. Lauren Says:
    March 31st, 2011 at 7:49 pm

    Amen to Colleen – I’d rather see your body now in a bikini ad than before! Which may be unfair to say, because like you mentioned, it was your natural shape before. So lets just say you were beautiful then, and are beautiful now!

  11. sophia Says:
    March 31st, 2011 at 10:33 pm

    when i read “disgusting” it made me feel like i HAD to see, and when i did see, it just made me unbelievably sad. “disgusting” is such a violent word. and you are no where near “disgusting”. your curves are sexy as hell. whatever hang ups you have about your body will be passed on to your daughter too… so please be kind to yourself, you are the only you both of you have.

  12. OhanaMama Says:
    April 1st, 2011 at 8:03 am

    I am sad that you referred to your stomach as “disgusting”!

    I know it must be tough when your pre-mama days were based on displaying your stomach.

    Please have compassion for yourself, so that your daughter can learn true beauty!

    Thanks for posting, you are very brave. I am happy that your body is so healthy to have created your daughter, and good luck with #2!

  13. Casey Says:
    April 28th, 2011 at 11:13 am

    I know exactly what you mean! I was 95lb before I had my daughter. I wasn’t athletic by any means, but was blessed with a high metabolism. During pregnancy I gained 50lbs. I got stretch marks everywhere and anywhere you could think of. Sometimes I also look at my stomach and feel a little sad. But then again I am thankful that I was able to get down to within 10lbs of my prepregnancy weight. I am also thankful for my beautiful daughter. She’s 2 now and people still gasp at her.

  14. becky Says:
    June 27th, 2011 at 7:25 am

    just like the first women commented your stomach does look very very good from reading your story. I was wondering do you at all do any workout for your stomach or any cardio. Im pregnant now 5 mts and am still skinny so far. i know Im going to pop soon. I am working out like I always have been cardio every day and I also do weights. I think you look perfectly fine!!!! Honestly! but if thats how you feel then maybe some good workouts to get your endorphines going. Good luck!!

  15. Amanda Says:
    February 1st, 2012 at 12:58 pm

    Oh my gosh, I wish I had your stomach! You could easily tone that up. Me, I have some work to do lol. Sexy mama!

  16. amanda Says:
    April 22nd, 2012 at 6:10 pm

    Your stomach is not disgusting, TRUST me lol.. i’d take your over mine anyday!!

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