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3 Children in 3 years (twins) Coming to terms with the change (Anonymous)

April 25, 2009

I found out that i was expecting twins at 19 years old and was then a very slim toned girl, the pregnancy was difficult throughout and i was not lucky when it came to stretch marks. They covered my whole stomach, way up past my bellybutton. They were Very thick, severe purple looking marks and it looked like i had flames tatoo’d up my stomach! I cried, my boobs were hanging low with thick deep marks also. I considered surgery, wouldn’t allow anyone to see me naked and felt the constant worry of my top coming up in public. I then went on to have my third child, my son. My son is now 2 and a half and my girls are almost 5. Im a 25 year old woman and i am starting to appreciate my body. I love my curves and my body shape but i still have strong issues with my war wounds. I compare myself to others my age who have no kids and feel sad that i will never look that way again. I wanted to post here though mainly to show that scars do fade, my stretch marks are hardly visible now and i wish i had a photo of how viscious they were initially. Anybody with new stretch marks that is upset by them, you will feel better about them one day. I never thought i would wear a bikini again yet last year i decided that i am going to embrace what i have and be thankfull for the beautiful kids that i have. If stretch marks were money then i paid alot, but my kids were worth every one.

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13 Responses to “3 Children in 3 years (twins) Coming to terms with the change (Anonymous)”

  1. Heather Says:
    April 26th, 2009 at 1:41 am

    I think you look great. Your breasts are awesome!Your stetch marks have faded really well too! Plus, you have a very pretty face! Your little ones are beautiful too.

  2. Scarlett Says:
    April 27th, 2009 at 5:43 am

    You look incredible! I think I may wear a bikini now too. I was 21 when I had my son and although I lost all the weight and got my prepregnancy shape back I have stretch marks all over my stomach. I have been so sad about them thinking I can never wear a bikini again. But seeing how sexy you look in one I will wear one too :)
    Your kids are beautiful!

  3. Mary Says:
    April 27th, 2009 at 6:17 am

    You look so amazing! And your little ones are beautiful!

  4. kellie Says:
    April 27th, 2009 at 11:43 am

    This is my post and i just wanted to say thankyou so much for you kind comments :) Scarlett i was almost in tears reading what you wrote, im so happy with what you said and i am confident that if you take the plunge and strut your stuff in your bikini you will feel liberated and sexy!!I hid my body away for years ashamed of what i thought was a terrible, embarrassing stomach. But now, especially after wearing my bikini in public i feel happy and confident. Hope that you can too hunni!!

  5. kay Says:
    April 27th, 2009 at 3:38 pm

    u look great! ur boobs are AMAZING! your stomach kinda looks like mine – but I think my stretch marks may be a bit worse…I’m so glad you wore ur bikini and in so doing gave others confidence to follow suit! good job! :)

  6. Kim Says:
    April 27th, 2009 at 8:21 pm

    Oh my gosh! You give me such inspiration! I am a mother of 3 1/2 month old twins. I have stretch marks on my stomach similar to yours. My husband always says I will be in a bikini soon but I’ve never believed him. Now, after seeing you and how AMAZING you look, I know I can do it! Maybe not this year beacause my linea nigra is still there but soon!!! Can you tell us how you were able to get in such great shape after twins???

  7. Chelsey Says:
    April 27th, 2009 at 8:42 pm

    My gosh you are gorgeous…stunning really!
    And you have beautiful children, you must be one proud mama!

  8. kellie Says:
    April 28th, 2009 at 1:41 am

    Im so happy with all your responses to this, i would love for everybody to find the confidence to be happy with the change in their own bodies although i know this is never easy to achieve. To be fair i was quite ill when having all of my children and didnt gain too much weight, the belly is still flabby but i dont really have a problem with it. I dont know what caused the change in my perception of my body but wearing the bikini def made me realise that i see my body much worse than other people do. Thanks again ladies, really made me smile to read your comments :) X

  9. sarah Says:
    April 30th, 2009 at 1:24 am

    you are such an amazing inspiration! i have absolutely FEARED wearing a bikini and just pretty much accepted the idea that I NEVER would again! After reading your story though and seeing that in the first pic there’s a guy behind you in the water TOTALLy checking you out, :) I have decided that maybe, just maybe I will brave a bikini one day. Thanks for your post and you and your kiddos are absolutely GORGEOUS!

  10. 18struggler Says:
    May 8th, 2009 at 11:34 pm

    I am 19. I got stretch marks when I was in 10th grade..shocking I know. I was a competitive swimmer since I was in the 5th grade, but grew tired of the demandingness of it. So in 10th grade I quit, and packed on 40 pounds in one year. With those 40 pounds came stretch marks on my hips, inner thighs, and breast. I still have them, but have learned to go on with life. I have lost all the weight, but still have them. I see them fading, but wonder wil they ever go away? I hate not being able to be confident in a swim suit like I used to be. Or when Im sleeping with my boyfriend let him see me naked. Its those little things that I miss about my old self. So girl you are a testimate to us all to hold your head high and be thankful for all that you have.

  11. shannon Says:
    May 22nd, 2009 at 11:10 am

    You look awesome! I am now 6 weeks pp with my second child…both cesarean. How did you do it? What was your exercise routine? Oh, your children are beautiful!

  12. Idoia Says:
    May 23rd, 2009 at 6:02 pm

    I had twins in November of ’08 and also have the saggy skin and stretch marks like you have….and I think you may have given me the courage to toss out the ugly tankini I bought and put on a bikini again! (Well, maybe next summer ;) ) Thanks for sharing pics. You have beautiful kids.

  13. mee. =) Says:
    May 26th, 2009 at 9:45 pm

    hey.

    you are a very beautiful person.

    i really apprieciate the comment
    you left on my post.

    i hope one day i can feel confident
    enough to wear a bikini again.. im
    workin on it! i was 269 when i delivered.
    and im at 205 now! 30 or 30 more pounds..
    and im def wearing a bikini!!

    thanks again.

    oh && your kids are gorgeous!

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