I’ve been struggling this week with negativity and feeling like people in general are forgetting to listen to others and care about how they feel. I think it’s so important to remember to have empathy for others – I would argue that it might even be the ultimate purpose of our lives here on earth, if there is a purpose. And when I hear one person after another judging the people around them, it wears me down.
And I thought, god, I wish people would just be loving to one another.
And then I thought. Hey. I can do that.
So here I am sharing some love. Mamas, you are perfect just as you are. If you have stretch marks, I want you to remember that they are a normal part of having a human body and are therefore beautiful. If you have loose skin, I want you to remember that that is also a part of the experience of motherhood. Time, if not pregnancy and nursing, pull our breasts lower as a normal part of life. Some of us breastfeed and some of us do not for a variety of reasons. Some of us practice attachment parenting and others do not. Some of us act as surrogate moms and others adopt their babies. There is no right or wrong way to be a human, to be a mother. All paths in life have beauty and you are beautiful in those paths. Thank you for being you.
Go share some love with the people around you, okay? Bring some positivity to today.
And don’t forget to check out the post from earlier today. There’s some exciting stuff happening!
A few months ago I was contacted by a woman named Angie Sonrode about a documentary she is working to create all about body image after motherhood. I was thrilled to be asked to join them in whatever small capacity I can. After talking with Angie on the phone I was not only excited to discover that she and I seem to share a lot of thoughts about this whole aspect of womanhood, but I was also so inspired by the actions she is taking to make this happen. I can’t wait to see this whole journey play out. Stay tuned for the trailer launching later this month!
My name is Katrina, I am a 27 year old mother of two beautiful boys; ages 1 and 4. I have always struggled with body image, weight, what others think of me, and anxiety. I was considered “obese” before and after my first pregnancy. I was so embaressed to leave my house ( silly I know to care so much what others think). I started to exercise and eat healthier in an attempt to lose this “baby weight”. The scale was not changing at first but the funny thing was just knowing I was trying gave me more confidence. I accepted that I may not lose the weight, just knowing I was making healthy choices made me feel good, confident, sexy, and like I was setting a good example for my little guy. Within a year post cesarean I was still exercising daily and the weight was coming off slowly. 2 years later I hit my goal! I was soo excited and felt better than ever! Then I find out im pregnant with baby #2. I wanted more kids I really did, but my self consciousness came out again… “More stretch marks, more loose skin, more weight to lose” I am ashamed to admit these are worries that weighed on me way too heavily. One year after cesarean number 2 I am a bit heavier than I was, I have lots more stretch marks, loose skin, saggy breasts, etc… But you know what I am so full of love I don’t care. I still exercise regularly and eat healthy. In fact I am a fitness instructor for a stroller exercise group of moms. I am so proud of the women in my class and watching their confidence go up. You can feel good about yourself at any size, any shape, and any weight. The key to confidence is you. Mothers are beautiful ! Thank you for reading my story.