≡ Menu



My Own Ramblings

Just checking in

Hello to you, my readers. I apologize for the lack of attention that I have been able to give to SOAM for a very long time now. In truth, it sits like a brick in my stomach and I try to avoid noticing because, frankly, there is nothing I can do about it right now. [...]

Categories: My Own Ramblings, News

Happy Thanksgiving (and a message)

Dear readers, I am thankful for you. I am thankful for this space we have here where we can come to see that we are far from alone both in the way our bodies look and in the way we struggle to find love for ourselves and our bodies. Do you ever wonder how SOAM [...]

Categories: My Own Ramblings, News

In my Cyberfeminism class this semester we are reading an old hypertext fiction from the 90's about the female "monster" that Frankenstein began. In this hypertext, Mary Shelley finishes the creation and this is the story of Her, the Patchwork Girl. It's amazing. Has a lot to do with learning to piece yourself together and [...]

Categories: My Own Ramblings

A brief update and something EXCITING!

I exist. I maybe ceased existing for a little while there dealing with heavy anxiety and a little depression on the side. But I exist again. I hope. School has started so I am ultra busy now but I will do my best to stay up to date here and with our various places on [...]

Categories: In the Media, My Own Ramblings, News

I stumbled across this picture the other day on Facebook and shared it there, but I wanted to share it here, too. SOAM is inherently a feminist website, which makes it a political website, but I sometimes hesitate to get too overtly political here because so many of the women here hold such varying views [...]

Categories: Activism, My Own Ramblings, News

Keep Supporting SOAM

Over the years here at SOAM we have had more then 2,500 entries. I've heard feedback from many women about how the site has helped them either through sharing their own story, or just by browsing the diverse stories we already have here. Right now submissions are low and I'm asking for your help to [...]

Categories: My Own Ramblings, News

Well, I did not actually go to the Con itself because passes are expensive and next to impossible to get even if I could afford it. But as the Con overflows the convention center more and more each year, all of Downtown San Diego winds up hosting a ton of free events so I went [...]

Categories: My Own Ramblings, News

5 Lessons I’ve Learned from SOAM

This post originally appeared on Surrender Dorothy. When my daughter was born fifteen years ago, I was utterly unprepared for the extent of physical changes that would come along with the pregnancy. Afterwards, I felt torn between the awe and pride I should have been feeling for what my body did, and the shame I [...]

Categories: My Own Ramblings, News

A couple of weeks ago, SOAM had our #redefiningsupermom gathering here in San Diego. My friend Heidi came and took some awesome photos of us, showing our bellies, wearing our capes, being just generally super. (By, the way, PLEASE take a look at Heidi's incredible Homeless Humans of San Diego Facebook page, she does a [...]

Categories: Belly, Mom over 30, My Own Ramblings, News, Redefining Supermom

Moms have so much pressure on them to be perfect all the time and I'm so done with that. I'm done trying to meet these unspoken standards. I'm done trying to fight the double standards. I'm just done. I'm taking back imperfect. Imperfect bodies, imperfect parenting, imperfect lives. That's what we need to strive for. [...]

Categories: Activism, My Own Ramblings, News, Redefining Supermom