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Birth Story: a Review

Almost twelve years ago (WHAT.) I got pregnant with my first child. At the time I was familiar with the idea of home birth since a number of my childhood friends had been born at home (I didn’t live on a commune, I swear!), but I didn’t begin planning immediately for a home birth. It […]

12 Steps of Letting Go of Perfectionism – Own Your Beauty

Brene Brown has shared her 12 steps to letting go of perfectionism with BlogHer’s Own Your Beauty. As usual, the woman is full of wisdom. Steps three and 12, particularly, spoke to me. Number three, because it’s something I’ve done myself over the years with incredible results, and number 12 because it is something that […]

The Authentic Woman’s Body – Own Your Beauty

My first OYB post is up this morning at BlogHer – go read it and share it with the women and mothers in your life!

Own Your Beauty

I’m so excited to be participating in this year-long initiative sponsored by BlogHer. Just launched yesterday, it features interviews and posts by Karen of Chookooloonks, Caitlin of Operation Beautiful and myself. Each month we’ll be discussing a different topic; this month’s is Authenticity. Go check it out, participate, and pass it on. I believe this […]

The Body Image Revolution Has Begun!

Sandy Kumskov of How To Love Your Body sent me an e-mail recently about a free teleseries online all about body image and everything that goes into it. It’s called The Body Image Revolution. Right now I am listening to Cyndi O’Meara talk about healthy foods from an anthropological perspective (not unlike Nourishing Traditions, from […]

A Beautiful Photography Series

Back in March, Amanda Dahlgren sent me this link to a photography project she’d done, called On Real Beauty. It perfectly reflects the intent of this website. It’s beautiful. In every possible sense of the word. Thank you, Amanda, for giving this to the world.

Births on Lost – Via Unnecesarean

My friend Jill, who is completely awesome in every way, put together a retrospective of the births portrayed on the TV show Lost. (*sniff* NOW what will I do with the next six years of my life???) I shared this on Facebook the other day, but wanted to share it here, too, just in case […]

The Stripped Project

Gabrielle Loisel sent me a link to her blog awhile back and I was intrigued at the concept, but have not had a chance to look at it until tonight. It definitely lived up to its expectations! She has a similar intent as SOAM does – bringing reality into view for all to see – […]

Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day

It’s a bit late for most of you by now, but I just came across this and wanted to share it anyway. This is a subject that comes up a lot here, and I wanted to share with all you mamas who’ve lost a child that I will be lighting a candle for you tonight […]

Featured in Parent Map

Not too long ago, I was interviewed by Tera Schreiber for an article on It was a pleasure to speak with her and the article is fantastic. Thanks, Tera! Read the article here.


Brigitte, a German magazine is banning all models and using women who represent a wider variety of body sizes and shapes! Dear, United States, please take note.

The BMI Project

I came across this a long time ago and was recently reminded of it – today’s entry inspired me to finally get around to sharing it with you all. We all know the scale lies – that’s why “They” created the BMI, to have a more accurate way of assessing weight and size. And it […]

Beauty in a Magazine

Thank you, Glamour, for this! She is beautiful. Even more so that someone in corporate got a clue that THIS is what we want (need) to see. Despite the fact that it was such a small photo, I am glad it was printed at all. Next step: bigger photo. (It does make me want to […]

The Unnecesarean Has a New URL – UPDATED

Unfortunate circumstances have forced Jill, the owner of The Unnecesarean, to change her url. It’s such a fantastic and important resource for women that I wanted to make sure to pass along the word. If you have it bookmarked or linked, please take a moment to make the correction. The new link is: UPDATE: […]

Toddler Plastic Surgery?

I caught a glimpse of this video on some show last night (honestly I don’t even know which one – the husband was flipping channels and I made him stop so I could see this) and went straight to to see the whole thing. It’s a commentary on plastic surgery and, perhaps, a plea […]

Just a Little Uterus Humor

One of the funniest blogs out there is, run by Jen. In honor of a surgery she is having today, yesterday she devoted her entry to cakes which celebrate our most special fetus-carrier. Check it out, but don’t blame me if you spit your coffee all over your screen. Good luck today, Jen!

A Story of “Pregorexia”

A big thanks to Kate who sent me this link this morning which led me to this article about a mom’s personal experience starving herself during her pregnancy. I have long thought that the focus on weight gain during pregnancy is too strong and even misguided. It is a good and important medical tool to […]

Female Anatomy

While I’m posting links about our personal bits, I wanted to share a link discussing basic anatomy. I’ve wanted to do this for some time now, because from time to time women posting here, either in submissions, or in comments, get the names of their body parts wrong. I feel like it is very common […]

Diversity of Vulvas

This past Sunday, I was reading PostSecret and came across a secret about a woman’s feelings of shame over her hanging labia. It struck me as very similar to the feelings I had before I started this website. In response to the postcard, someone contributed a link to a post all about the diversity of […]

When a Child Dies

I lived in a sweetly ignorant world before I opened this website – I never knew of a person who had lost a baby. Not here in the US! Not in this day and age of good medical care and awareness of baby safety! I knew it happened, but it was rare – so rare. […]

Taking Charge of Your Fertility

A recent comment made me realize that I have not linked to this book here before. I consider it essential reading for every woman. Taking Charge of Your Fertility is an easy-to-read comprehensive owner’s manual for your reproductive system which will help you get pregnant or avoid pregnancy, to understand anomalies in your cycle, or […]

Kate Winslet on Real Bodies

Reader Ashley sent me this link today. I knew I liked Kate Winslet, but man, what an awesome lady. Check it out, it’s everything this site is about and more!


Paula at Easy Baby Life interviewed me recently about this site. I have to say her questions were some of the most intriguing I’ve been asked – it’s a great interview! Go check it out! Thanks, Paula!

007, A New Blog

The wonderful Maria who runs the 007 Breasts website has started a blog all about breasts: breastfeeding, shapes and sizes of breasts, surgery and anything else that women should be aware of. I’m adding it to my blogroll right now!

Fifty Nude Women – showing in San Diego

Fifty Nude Women presented by Shape of a Mother and Java Mama **Please e-mail for details and to confirm your attendance as we will have limited room** A documentary about 50 real nude women of all ages and sizes and colors. No airbrushing or Hollywood sparkle mars their beautiful flaws and perfect imperfection. Come […]

Loving Curvy Women (On Etsy)

Oy with the technical difficulties already. For almost a month now, the planets will just NOT align for me. Either the server that hosts this site is having problems, or else my computer is. If both of those are working, then I can’t access my uploader (and thus any entries I might post). Life is […]

Articles on the Web

I was poking through some old (old!) issues of Mothering Magazine today when I found two articles you need to read. The first I will also link from Save Our Daughters because it fits right in over there and is all about how to teach your children to be tolerant of people of all shapes […]

Minnie Driver – “Podgy and fat” and completely awesome.

A reader sent me this article a few weeks ago now and I’ve only just now gotten to read it. How refreshing! Thank you, Minnie Driver! I think it must be very hard to be a celebrity mom these days. If we feel watched after our babies are born, I can only imagine how they […]

Soft Underbelly (Gawdess)

I am a lucky woman. I have four kids, two I gave birth too and two by the miracle of adoption. My body is strong and I can run long distances. Recently, inspired by this website I posted a picture of my stomach and how I feel about it to my blog.

Felted Wool Sculptures of Women

Fifty Nude Women

Word of Retouching (shared by a reader)

Beauty Vs. Industry

Mothering the Mother

The March of Dimes

9 Months of Gestation in 20 Seconds

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