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A Male Perspective (Anonymous Dad)

I am a man, and I while I know this is a site for women, I have a story to share. Whether you chose to post it is at your discretion, but I am hopeful you will read what I have to say and perhaps offer some advice. My wife has given birth to two […]

Getting Better (Alice)

Age: 34 Pregnancies: 1 Births: 2 Age of children: 14 months I posted an entry five months ago when I was feeling pretty bad about my body and health post-partum. I gave birth to twins last summer and suffered a prolapse not long after, and was feeling despondent about that and about how much my […]

I Feel Like They Can’t Be Fixed (Adria)

20 (age) Pregnancies (1) 8 months post partum by cesarean. When i first became pregnant, during my first trimester i lost 20 pounds. Than the rest of my pregnancy i only gained 10 pounds. After i delivered i then lost 25 more. This is what alot of people would call “bouncing back” and yes in […]

Glee’s Rocky Horror Episode

Spoilers abound for this week’s episode, read on at your own risk! I just finished watching Glee’s Rocky Horror episode and beneath the incredible music (I am not always into Glee’s music, but this episode was possibly my favorite ever) they tackled not only the usual theme of misfits in society, but also body image […]

Behind Enemy Lines (SMS)

Age 30 1st pregnancy, 1 year postpartum My body has always been the enemy. This shape which outlines the whole of who I am, encapsulating the parts of me both seen and unseen. Somehow, with time and age, it had come to represent me, a personal definition of who I am, carefully crafted for the […]

Why Do We Treat Ourselves With Hate?

I’ve noticed a certain sort of recurring comment here at SOAM. It goes something like, “Wow, mama, you look GREAT! Your boobs/belly/bum looks way better than mine – I look like crap and I’m much farther postpartum/younger/had fewer kids than you did.” This comment starts off lovely and supportive but quickly turns dark and self-abusive. […]

When is Enough, Enough? (Anonymous)

Age: 37 Numbers of pregnancies and births: 3, births 1 Child’s Age: 4 I spent my youth and 20’s overweight and hating my body. I was a size 18. During a bad break up I gained an additional 15 pounds and for the first time it looked like size 18 would be too small. I […]

Second Update (Bryana)

Original entries here and here. Children: #1) Rayden Wolfgang: Dec 12, 2005 #2) Cairo Sofia: June 23, 2009 Age: 22 I guess this submission isn’t really about me. I have posted twice before because I think this website is nothing short of amazing. It has inspired me to love my body, it’s “flaws” and all. […]

Regarding Scars and Stretch Marks (Amanda)

Age:23 Pregnancies/Births: 2/1 (girl, 18 mos) I anguish over my loose skin and stretch marks. I have not gotten to a place of comfort or acceptance of my body, much less a place of pride over the story my ravaged body tells. I don’t understand how my husband can love such damaged goods, or how […]


I posted this over at Facebook the other night, but haven’t had the time to share it here yet. It is fabulous. I have long noticed that it is those interesting bits – what a person might refer to as his or her flaws – which I find the most beauty in. A large nose, […]

Beauty in a Magazine

Thank you, Glamour, for this! She is beautiful. Even more so that someone in corporate got a clue that THIS is what we want (need) to see. Despite the fact that it was such a small photo, I am glad it was printed at all. Next step: bigger photo. (It does make me want to […]

Featured Photo 7/3/09

It’s been a long time since I have done a featured photo here, but this one came through and I had to share it. Uplifting and beautiful – thank you, Christina!

Marks of Life (Shi)

~Your Age: 25 ~Number of pregnancies and births: 2 at time of writing this, currently now have three! ~The age of your children, or how far postpartum you are: at the time my boys were 2.5 and 1 month old. They are now almost 5, 2.5, and 7months I wrote this back when you had […]

A Stolen Photograph (I Refuse to be Ashamed)

I was alerted to a certain anti-stretch mark article tonight by reader Sara. The author of this article had the gall to break copyright laws and steal my photograph of myself and my baby son which has been featured on this website for nearly three years. I have politely asked her to remove it. I […]

Female Anatomy

While I’m posting links about our personal bits, I wanted to share a link discussing basic anatomy. I’ve wanted to do this for some time now, because from time to time women posting here, either in submissions, or in comments, get the names of their body parts wrong. I feel like it is very common […]

Diversity of Vulvas

This past Sunday, I was reading PostSecret and came across a secret about a woman’s feelings of shame over her hanging labia. It struck me as very similar to the feelings I had before I started this website. In response to the postcard, someone contributed a link to a post all about the diversity of […]

Happy Mother’s Day!

To all you who have participated. To all you who have read the site and passed it on. To all of you who have been empowered. To all of you who have been relieved. To those with stretch marks and those without. To those who no longer recognize their bodies, and those who bounced back. […]

Okay during pregnancy, self-conscious now (Karen)

I was 31 when my son was born. I had spent, easily, 25 years feeling fat, feeling overweight, feeling shy about my shape. As a teenager, I fluctuated between 15-30lbs more than was “recommended” by doctors at the time (5’4″-5’5″ and 130-145lbs). Then I met and married my husband, who is in no way shy […]

Mention in Brain, Child Magazine

Author Melissa Stanton recently wrote an article on the controversial “Mom Job” plastic surgery package in Brain, Child magazine. She mentions this website in the article. Overall, I think the article is mostly balanced, but I would like to take this opportunity to clear up one thing about this website. The Shape of a Mother […]

Doesn’t it Make You Wonder? (Alicia)

Reader Alicia commented on a recent post and I found her quote to be so relevant – such a simple and perfect way to sum up why we are all here at this site – that I wanted to share it with you, bolding the part that struck me as especially important. doesn’t it make […]

007, A New Blog

The wonderful Maria who runs the 007 Breasts website has started a blog all about breasts: breastfeeding, shapes and sizes of breasts, surgery and anything else that women should be aware of. I’m adding it to my blogroll right now!

Loving Curvy Women (On Etsy)

Oy with the technical difficulties already. For almost a month now, the planets will just NOT align for me. Either the server that hosts this site is having problems, or else my computer is. If both of those are working, then I can’t access my uploader (and thus any entries I might post). Life is […]

Articles on the Web

I was poking through some old (old!) issues of Mothering Magazine today when I found two articles you need to read. The first I will also link from Save Our Daughters because it fits right in over there and is all about how to teach your children to be tolerant of people of all shapes […]

Minnie Driver – “Podgy and fat” and completely awesome.

A reader sent me this article a few weeks ago now and I’ve only just now gotten to read it. How refreshing! Thank you, Minnie Driver! I think it must be very hard to be a celebrity mom these days. If we feel watched after our babies are born, I can only imagine how they […]

Thank you! (Anonymous)

I am so very thankful for your website. I have no pictures right now, just some thoughts to share. I stumbled upon your site today, 5 months after the birth of my beautiful, amazing daughter, Paige. I never thought of myself as a vain person, or as someone overly concerned with my looks. Recently, though, […]

Body Image, Bulimia, and a Beautiful Baby Boy (Katie)

I struggled with my weight all my life. I struggled with a viscous eating disorder that ruled my every moment, and nearly killed me. I was 106 pounds, and had no menstrual cycle to speak of, fainting spells, seizures, ulcers, and heart problems. Eventually I got more confident, thanks to my (now) husband, and started […]

A well rounded mother (Anonymous)

I am now over 40 with two teenage children. My few stretch marks are silvery line, my tummy is rounded and my breast sag from months of breastfeeding. I love the changes pregnancy has made to my body and am so happy I was lucky enough to experience the joy of motherhood. I loved being […]

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