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Why Can’t I Love My Body? (Ileana)

September 8, 2010

I am a 21 year old mother of 3. I got pregnant at the age of 15 and had a wonderful little boy when i turned 19 i had my second little boy and at the age of 21 I had my little girl. Last year i met the love of my life it was love at first sight, he is a wonderful man, he is my hero. My husband is in the United States Navy, he is 23 years old. He is such a wonderful man, he accepted my two boys into his life like if they where a piece missing from a puzzle and he has loved us unconditionaly.But now I feel that he deserves much Better than me even though he tells me im beautiful and just perfect the way I am, I just don’t feel the same way he does. My whole life I have had body issues even when i was younger and now that I had my little girl I look at pictures of when i was younger and i think to myself how dumb I was for not liking what i saw! Now that i see myself I just see imperfections everywhere I am 8 weeks post partum and i hate what i see in the mirror. My stomach is full of stretch marks and my belly is just so big I try to stay positive but I just look big all around. I love my children and i would not change any of the decisions that i have made. And even though each pregnacy has changed my body I would have them all over again. But I just wish I could love myself (my body) as much as i love them. Everyone tells me i look great for 8 weeks post partum but I just don’t see what they see. How could I love myself more?

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6 Responses to “Why Can’t I Love My Body? (Ileana)”

  1. momof3boys Says:
    September 8th, 2010 at 10:15 am

    wow. you look great! 8 weeks??!! You have an amazing hour glass figure!

  2. Shannon Says:
    September 8th, 2010 at 11:48 am

    Wow! You have 3 children, one of which is only 8 weeks old! You look beautiful! I wish I looked that good after my 2 kids, and I am 17 months pp. You should be proud…keep in mind that your uterus JUST went down to its normal size. Give your body more time to heal…you would look great the way you are if you were 12 months pp!!!!

  3. Lauren Says:
    September 8th, 2010 at 12:43 pm

    Hon you look great!!! You are way way way too hard on yourself. Just give it time, go for walks, and try to eat as healhy as possible. You will notice more changes in the next few months. I found at home workout dvds worked good for me after having my son. Your husband chose you because he loves you, so remember that not only does he deserve you, but you deserve him too.

    Take Care!!
    xo

  4. Tiphanie Says:
    September 8th, 2010 at 3:30 pm

    I know its harder for ‘us’ to see, we are always our own worst critics,,, but you do look great! THREE kids AND just 8 wks pp?!! doing awesome,, believe your man,, i’ve learned to believe mine :) and its so worth it to do just that! Best of luck to you.

  5. Marz Says:
    September 8th, 2010 at 9:12 pm

    I know I’m gonna feel the same way at 8wks PP (i’m currently 29wks pregnant), but when you think about it… how much weight did you gain by the time you were 8 wks pregnant, yknow? I’m trying to mentally prepare myself for postpartum and the physical side effects becase my husband won’t be there to assure me that I’m beautiful (he’s in the Navy too).
    Give yourself a few more weeks– you look great for being 2months PP!

  6. Bree Says:
    September 12th, 2010 at 10:23 pm

    I’ll tell you what, I’m in the same boat as you are Hun. I’m 23 with 3 children. My twins are 3 and I have a 6 Wk old. My body is almost mirror like to yours. So I understand where your coming from. I have been physically active for 5 weeks pp running, biking. Yesterday I rode for 16.3 miles… And I’m not losing a dam thing other than my mind. I cried over the way my body looks and actually looked up cosmetic surgery cost. Knowing that I cannot afford it like many of us moms the only thing left two do are one of two things, possibly both. One; start working oh take photos week by week of your progress (by the way is a great way to actually see results you normally wouldn’t) or two; know that what your looking at in the mirror, although you may not see beauty, know that you are a woman who bares the battle scares (stretch marks) of motherhood. And there are many women who will never know the joy of holding a child within their womb. Will never have a child naturally theirs. This body that has been given to each of us women is truly a gift and we should count the blessings that are our children and the bodies that gave them life. Best of luck to you and I hope this kept it real and helped you.
    Bree

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