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Want Another Baby, But Worried About Body Image After (Laura)

June 13, 2011

Age 28
Pregnancies: 2
Births: 2 ages 8 and 6

I had both my kids by the time i was 21 years old. My son is 8 and my daughter is 6. After having my daughter I was so worried about getting pregnant again and I hated the way my body looked with all my stretch marks. They are all the way down to the back of my legs and haven’t faded much even after all these years. I only gained 30 pounds with each pregnancy. I decided at age 21 to have my tubes tied. I’m 28 now and I really regret having the surgery done. I am seriously considering having a tubal reversal done so maybe I can have another child by the time i am 30. I am just really worried about what I will look like after a 3rd pregnancy and if I will have a harder time getting my body back being older now. Right now I am not happy with my body and my goal would be to lose another 20 pounds before having another baby. I don’t know if I think I look worse than I really do. It’s the stretch marks that really kill me!

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9 Responses to “Want Another Baby, But Worried About Body Image After (Laura)”

  1. Sarah P. Says:
    June 13th, 2011 at 8:24 am

    I think you look amazing, personally. You have a fantastic figure, tiny tummy, nice breasts and everything is proportional. You’re really sexy!!! :D
    If you want another child, have another child. Things such as worries over stretch marks are really ephemeral. One day, you’ll be sixty or seventy, not give a crap about bikinis or whatever, and you’ll hold your newest grandbaby – the baby of your youngest and you’ll realize that these things really don’t matter, what matters is love and family. If you want a third baby, have a third baby by all means! Don’t let your worries stop your dreams of growing your family. Best of luck and thank you for posting. :)

  2. Dee Says:
    June 13th, 2011 at 9:56 am

    Your body looks great. I can’t even tell you’ve had kids. I had my first 7 months ago and I know I definitely want more kids, but I’m also worried about how much my body will change afterwards again. That won’t stop me from having them though.

    Stretch marks are not a big deal. Plenty of people, men and women, have stretch marks. After my pregnancy I felt so embarrassed about the marks on my tummy, but then I had a guy friend show me his on his thighs from gaining weight, another guy friend showed me his on his back from a growth spurt, and a girl friend got hers on her breasts from puberty.

    We got our marks from creating and carrying a new life. Lots of other people just get them from life, so we should be grateful that our marks have more meaning.

    No body is perfect and that makes it beautiful! Good luck growing your family.

  3. Ranna Says:
    June 13th, 2011 at 2:59 pm

    You look awesome! I say if you want another child, go for it! I too, have a crazy amount of stretch marks, in fact, although I’m 5’5 and 100lbs, I had a tummy tuck last year, but seriously considering having another child in two years. (I’m “2 boys and an apron)
    I have stretch marks from my calves upwards. I wanted to wear a short dress the other night, and bought “Airbrush Legs”, it worked like magic! (I swear I’m not a rep or anything!) My friend asked if I was wearing nylons because they were barely there.
    Again, you really do look awesome!

  4. Lindsay Says:
    June 13th, 2011 at 9:13 pm

    I am in the same exact boat! I have two already, and I want at least one more, but I am really worried about how my body will look. I’m about 15 – 20 lbs heavier than I ought to be right now too.

    I think it is a really good idea to lose the weight you want before you get pregnant. That way, you can go into the pregnancy feeling happy and confidant. It is important to eat enough healthy food during pregnancy, and you don’t want your body worried holding you back. I’m planning on doing the same thing!

    Good luck!

  5. Nicole Says:
    June 13th, 2011 at 10:32 pm

    You look great! Seriously, if my stretch marks end up looking like yours in a few years I will be lucky. Mine are HORRIBLE! I got them EVERYWHERE! My stomach (they look hideous) back of my knees, my sides, my butt, the front of my thighs. EVERYWHERE! I am going to try that airbrush legs. Honestly, you look great and I’m not just saying that either.

  6. Mary V Says:
    June 14th, 2011 at 6:35 am

    You look fantastic! And I just want to say thank you for your posting, I am 24 with a 2 and 4 year old, and I have thought about having my tubes tied. But I know I need to wait until Im at least 30 to make that decision. I hope if you decide to have the reversal it all goes well, and I wouldnt worry about your body, you look awesome! Good luck mama!

  7. Laura Says:
    June 17th, 2011 at 12:48 pm

    Wow! Thanks for the positive comments. I will have to look into that airbrush thing. The only thing i have tried was tanning and it seems to hide the stretch marks a bit, but I would rather not do that because of the risks. I would strongly suggest trying another form of long term birth control instead of a tubal. I can’t even name all the issues i have had since having it done. It affects your body in ways that doctors don’t tell you. I have the money for a reversal now that I have saved up and am hoping to do it next summer. I have lost 10 pounds in the last month :) I am eating healthier and using my eliptical machine and pilates gym at home.

  8. Laura Says:
    June 17th, 2011 at 9:12 pm

    Wow! Thanks for the positive comments. I have lost 10 pounds in the last month. I’ve been eating heathier and working out at home. I should be able to get a reversal possibly next summer.

  9. Tori Says:
    June 19th, 2011 at 8:34 pm

    WOW. You look pretty much exactly the same as me! Even down to the blonde hair :S How scary, it’s like looking in a mirror! Also, I had both my children before 21. I too am in the same boat as you, pondering whether or not to have another child… could I stand the saggier breasts and stomach? I don’t know. Sorry I can’t be much help to you but I just want to let you know you’re not alone!

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