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Tummy Struggles (Anonymous)

March 31, 2011

~Age: 27 years old
~Number of pregnancies and births: Two
~The age of your children, or how far postpartum you are: 3 and 2 years old, both born by c-section.

Every day I look in the mirror and feel a wee bit sad, I have a miss-shaped belly button, scaring in my belly button from any endometriosis surgeries.

My body tells a story. with all the paths leading different ways, spiralling all over my body.

Whilst I am grateful for my two beautiful children I feel sad about what it has done to my body, in fact so much I am putting off having another until my stomach is toned more.

I am not sure how toned I could make it though, there’s only so much going back right?

When I see other women’s bodies like my own I feel okay, but my own, I’m not so okay about.

I just wanted to share to show that no all bodies are made perfect, to those women out there struggling with it like I am!

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7 Responses to “Tummy Struggles (Anonymous)”

  1. amber Says:
    March 31st, 2011 at 8:04 am

    strength and cardio – you can do it. you have given life, a miracle of its own. you are amazing. i looked very similar about a year ago, check my post blessed and tortured

  2. Tummy Struggles (Anonymous) Says:
    March 31st, 2011 at 10:59 am

    Thanks Amber, I will do. Ive been doing a bit of cardio (hill climbing/running and walking) and its tighter then it was. Also planks etc to try and tighten the core. I just think it might take time, fertility is not on my side either, I have stage 5 endo, Ive been told to finish my family so I can get that sorted, so exercise and baby making it will have to be.

  3. shannon Says:
    March 31st, 2011 at 12:01 pm

    You sound like me! I am 24, have had 2 cesareans also (4.5 and 2)…I have endometriosis, I have actually had 3 laparoscopies. You look great…no worries!!!

  4. Jenny W Says:
    March 31st, 2011 at 12:15 pm

    I am in the same boat. I definitely am having tummy struggles, but my two amazing boys are so worth it. Maybe one day we will accept ourselves? Who knows. Good luck to you

  5. nausea during pregnancy Says:
    April 1st, 2011 at 10:22 am

    Perfection is wanted by all, attained by many and not remembered in eternity. Life is about so much more than physical beauty. You’ve brought forth life, and done the best you can. Love yourself…

  6. Rachael Says:
    August 3rd, 2011 at 9:51 am

    I just wanted to say thank you for posting your photos on here. I found this site on a blog this morning, and was so excited. Then I started clicking through the links, feeling very discouraged. Then I started looking specifically at C-section stories. The first 3 or 4 I saw have made me so sad and upset I feel like crying. I know I’m PMSing right now, but still… it is upsetting. All the women are now very thin and svelte with actual ABS.

    Your pictures are the only thing remotely close to what my ravaged stomach looks like now, 17 months post C-section. Thank you for sharing. I’m still pretty upset and teary-eyed, but this is making me feel at least a little better.

  7. Tummy Struggles Says:
    October 27th, 2011 at 2:51 pm

    Hello Rachael,
    I am glad you felt some relief in knowing your “normal”.

    I am now 22 weeks pregnant with my third. I have had to let go of he fact that my tummy is stretched and belly button mishaped. This is the way I will be unless I have surgery to fix it.
    This pregnancy I have put on 600grams so far, watching what I am eating (salads etc) so by far I feel that my body should jump back a little more heres hoping!!

    We bring miracles into this world, its a big job growing a baby, I think we are all so, so hard on ourselves. I sure am!!

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