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Trying to Accept My Body Really Hard (Roxy)

February 23, 2009

will i ever look better??? thats all I keep asking myself im 21yrs old and i had my first baby girl on Nov 16 2008. I got married at 18 and we decide to try having a baby in 08 and in March I finally saw the two pink lines we were soooo exited I thought I was dreaming. So my pregnancy was great I didn’t gain any weight i was in my ideal 125 until my 8th month dam that month i started gaining 2 to 3lbs a week thats when I got my stretch marks as they appear I got more depressed my eating habits where the same, it was so sad seeing my body getting all these red lines that where so itchy. I had my baby girl two weeks early she was perfectly healthy thanks GOD, she weight 6 pounds and 13oz and measure 19inches. In my 38 weeks i weight 164 my entire body has stretch marks hips, breast, belly, legs. I also had back damage because my belly was so heavy and my breast have grown so huge its horrible. But now im just trying to loose all that weigh because my body I feel that is huge including my face, I want to do exercises but for some reason I just wont do them I feel like I don’t have self esteem. I cry every time I look at my naked body because I feel like its my fault I should take better care of my self and I feel too depressed because im so lonely, I have my husband and my baby but I have no friends and all my family member are in other country.
Im posting a pic of me 1month before my pregnancy, at my 7months, 38 weeks,1month pp and my daughter.



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7 Responses to “Trying to Accept My Body Really Hard (Roxy)”

  1. taiyo Says:
    February 23rd, 2009 at 9:57 pm

    I think you look beautiful. Your baby is only a few months old– give it some time! Are there any baby groups that you could join in your new city/town? I found that I made a lot of great new friends through these types of groups. Take is easy on yourself. You look great!

  2. Jen Says:
    February 23rd, 2009 at 10:44 pm

    Hi there,

    Congratulations on a beautiful baby girl. I want to assure you that you will look better, but you actually look pretty darn good for 4 weeks postpartum, girl. A few weeks postpartum is not how you are going to look a few years from now. Have patience and faith and you will be fine. It took me a couple of years to look almost okay again.

    If you feel lonely, you may want to talk to your doctor about possibly post-partum depression. The hormones can cause it and you need to be aware of it. Good Luck.

  3. Jill Says:
    February 23rd, 2009 at 11:09 pm

    yeah you’d be surprised how much time really can help. My stomach was (in my opinion) huge after I had Sebastian, within that next year it was insanely smaller and almost back to normal.. it just takes time for everything to shrink up. you’re gonna look even more great in no time! you’re beautiful!

  4. kitstwins Says:
    February 24th, 2009 at 5:05 am

    You look amazing for four weeks postpartum – TRUST ME on this. YOu really do.

    The stretchmarks are upsetting but don’t be hard on yourself about them – there is nothing you could have done to stop them coming (some people get them and some people don’t – it’s just down to genetics in the end). However, they do fade and although it takes time they will fade to very soft and slight silvery lines that you will barely be able to see. In the meantime, applying good body lotions and oils can really help and I really recommend something called ‘Bio Oil’ if you can get hold of it. It’s great for skin tone and elasticicity and really helps in fading stretch marks, etc. It worked wonders on my twin tummy, which a year on was pretty much back to normal (or as normal as it will ever be after carrying twins….).

    You’re really beautiful and you are in FANTASTIC shape for 4 weeks pp. Even if you were 4 months pp I’d still be saying wow as your stomach is tiny. It will all shrink. Walk lots with your baby (who is gorgeous) and slather yourself with oil and when the sun is shining make sure you put a bikini on with pride. You look wonderful, you’ve made an amazing baby and the sun is great for stretchmarks!

    You will get there. Four weeks in is no time at all and although it can be really difficult in the early days when the body looks so different, your body is still recovering, still coming back.

  5. eringremlin Says:
    February 24th, 2009 at 8:34 am

    Of course your body shows some signs of the amazing journey it has undertaken. It only makes you more beautiful and womanly. Don’t get down on yourself for not working out as much as you could. Instead, enjoy this time with your sweet girl. When she starts running around everywhere and you have to chase her and lift her, whatever weight might be left will fall right off. Your self esteem (or lack thereof) will rub off on her, so try hard to love yourself. You look fabulous!

  6. Stephanie Says:
    February 24th, 2009 at 8:35 pm

    Lots of similarities with my own birth! I was born two weeks early on 11/15/86 and weighed 6lb 13 oz. 19inches long!

  7. M3 Says:
    February 25th, 2009 at 9:37 am

    hi, thanks for taking from your time and read my story. I really appreciate it. well now its been 3months i’m a little bit better trying a few lotions for stretch marks to see if i’m lucky and one of them forks wonders for me. Ive gain confidence and now i’m about to start a studying professional fitness trainer that will help me on the way and I can help others that once felt like they cant look and feel better about themselves after a baby. thanks for your comments!!! have a good one!

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