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Trying to Accept My Body (Candy)

March 23, 2012

I am 20 years old, I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant.
I was really excited, and my baby is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
I am a single mom and it TERRIFIES me to look for a relationship because of the stretch marks the pregnancy left
on my breasts and buttocks.

I have no problem with staying single for the rest of my life, but I don’t think it’s right.

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22 Responses to “Trying to Accept My Body (Candy)”

  1. Jessica Says:
    March 23rd, 2012 at 7:31 am

    You look amazing! I don’t think a guy is going to notice a few lines when your body looks that smokin’!!

  2. mia Says:
    March 23rd, 2012 at 9:35 am

    i cam ehere expecting to see a wrectched body, umm i m not seeing one.stop bragging,lol

  3. Jen Says:
    March 23rd, 2012 at 10:06 am

    You’re kidding right? I know tons of women (myself included) that would kill to look like you do BEFORE we ever had kids. Mama, you look awesome, and any guy around would be lucky to have you.

  4. Lamina Says:
    March 23rd, 2012 at 10:09 am

    Ur breast are so perky full and sexy I wish mines look like urs. You have such a sexy body I don’t think a man would turn u down heck I wouldn’t turn u down and I’m straight be happy njoy your sexy post baby body!!!!!

  5. TC Says:
    March 23rd, 2012 at 1:26 pm

    I WISH my
    body looked like yours…

  6. DLH Says:
    March 23rd, 2012 at 4:40 pm

    Mia, your response isn’t particularly helpful. Candy wasn’t ‘bragging’, and she’s got every right to express worries about her body WHATEVER shape or size it is. I think this website stands testament to the fact that women can worry about their bodies whatever they look like, and that often the support of other women can help them to look past their self-perceptions of their own bodies. Telling someone that their body isn’t ‘wretched’ enough to deserve anything more from you than an admonition not to brag is quite unkind. Anyone can feel bad about their body, and they shouldn’t be made to feel guilty about those feelings because ‘it could be worse’! If Boticelli’s Venus came onto this site worrying about her body she ought to find as much acceptance and compassion as any other woman, large, small, stretch-marked or not.

    Candy – you’re beautiful! But don’t be afraid to express worries (I won’t say its natural, because it’s not, but in modern Western society body-worries seem to be sadly endemic). I hope you start to see your body in a more positive light – as something any man would be privileged to see. :)

  7. Keri Says:
    March 24th, 2012 at 1:35 am

    Your body looks fantastic!!! Trust me, you have nothing to worry about. I wish I had a body like yours. You have sexy breasts and a beautiful butt!

  8. Eric Says:
    March 24th, 2012 at 6:09 am

    Ahhhhhhhh! You have the PERFECT body!

  9. Sarah P. Says:
    March 24th, 2012 at 8:43 pm

    Can we please trade bodies?

  10. John Says:
    March 25th, 2012 at 3:33 pm

    I’m a 30+ man and I can’t see any reason whatsoever why you should be afraid of a new relationship. I believe most of us (men) couldn’t care less about strech marks or others signs of life. You look fantastic!

  11. mrspetunia Says:
    March 26th, 2012 at 8:38 pm

    I looked carefully and didn’t see any stretchmarks. Maybe the flash hid them? Anyway, no fears. In fact, your body is so flawless that I thought that perhaps this was a fake entry or an entry made to stir up controversy. At any rate, I think you can safely start dating again!

  12. Sam Says:
    March 26th, 2012 at 9:29 pm

    I am 20+ man too and I see that you have beautiful body. Keep your head up girl.

  13. Clint Says:
    March 30th, 2012 at 7:19 am

    Youre smoking hot! Any good guy can see that. If they don’t they aren’t worth your time anyway. You have a beautiful body.

  14. Jennifer Says:
    March 30th, 2012 at 11:47 am

    can i have your boobs..matter of fact just hand over your body lol.. no but seriousily yoou’re 20 times better than i looked after my first kid at 18 and i had some amzaing guys coming after me…

  15. Anonymous Says:
    April 3rd, 2012 at 1:45 pm

    Candy,

    I am a 26 year old male that is searching the net for websites like this one that help empower women, and educate them on what a normal female body looks like. I can honesty say, that your body is without a doubt, above normal. You are beyond gorgeous and you should be very proud. Stretch marks are natural and most women have them! I don’t know a single guy that will care that you have them. Your beauty is out of this world, so walk proudly!

  16. Confused Says:
    April 20th, 2012 at 4:00 pm

    I’m confused, what relevance do stretch marks have on starting a new relationship? Let me make a stretch for the “old school” theory here and suggest you know this man well enough and nurture your relationship to the point that, when he sees you naked- as we all now have- he will love your heart enough to not focus on a line or stripe or two on your skin.
    My biggest suggestion is for you to love YOURSELF enough before you venture into the possibilities of what this new man- whom you have not met yet- would think about you.
    I hope that the previous replies empower you to love yourself and your body enough to venture back into the dating world.

    When you are ready, consider abstinence but if that isn’t your choice (no judgement on you for that btw-) please use protection bc your baby needs a healthy mama. :)

  17. Amy Says:
    April 22nd, 2012 at 3:44 pm

    I got stretch marks on my breasts, lower back and buttocks during puberty. I have never nor will I ever worry that a man will not want me due to a few marks on my body. You are young so to you it is a huge deal, but believe me…if a man doesn’t want you because your body is not ‘ideal’ (aka photoshop perfect) especially after having a child, then he isn’t the man for you!

    P.S. Your body looks great!

  18. Kevin Says:
    April 26th, 2012 at 8:51 pm

    The pictures of the women that share are real. I am a male whom has undergone successfull weght reduction surgery and I have lost over 90 lbs…..I am proud and insecure at the time.

    any man that cannot recognize that is obviously one that would not be there for the right reasons.

    Having our three little precious gifts are amazing

  19. Mike Says:
    June 21st, 2012 at 8:34 pm

    You have a great body, if you could see it through a man’s point of view you would know you are still super attractive.

  20. Christine Says:
    October 16th, 2012 at 12:41 am

    k but seriously… you look better than I did before I ever got pregnant! I am in a bitchy pregnancy mood right now but I am kind of pissed off at how many male comments I am noticing under all the hot naked woman’s pictures! like I can understand a man supporting his wife through the shape of a mother…. obviously not by picking up girls though…. other than that I don’t understand why men would be creeping through this website? like there is tons of free porn out there! lol at least the comments are for the most part respectful… but I mean this is the world we live in, men for the most part are attracted to physical beauty and a beautiful body and these comments just go to show how very real that is!!! But this website is here to support woman in our very shallow materialistic world, so it would be nice if it stayed that way… and as for you men well I am sure there is another website out there where u can look at pretty naked ladies!

  21. Bonnie (SOAM) Says:
    October 16th, 2012 at 9:02 am

    Christine, I think men sometimes come here WITH their wives or girlfriends in the hopes of seeing reality. Just as we women suffer from the unrealistic idea of beauty the media pushes on us, so do men. I don’t think the men who comment here are doing so with anything less than respect for the women who post here. And many women like to hear a man’s perspective, since they often find that men DON’T actually want only magazine-perfection.

  22. Jo Jo Says:
    February 19th, 2014 at 2:47 pm

    Wow, accept it hun, it’s amazing. XX

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