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Tif’s Story (Tif)

November 3, 2009

im 21
Second child
19 months PP

i had just gotten into college and was ready to have the time of my life. however i met this wonderful guy and it was love at first sight. i got pregnant soon after. i was scared. i knew that my parents would never accept it and i also knew that they would dis own me as well. well i guess the stress of it all cause me to lose my first baby. however i got pregnant again a few months later. as i predicted i was kicked out of my house and my entire family dis owned me, i had no contact with them. i suffered a nervous brake down and stopped attending my classes, so guess what , i was kicked out of school as well and lost all my scholarships. my BF, god bless him, decided that we should move in together. which we did. i must admit i had a very easy pregnancy, no morning sickness, nothing at all. all through the pregnancy i was like no strech marks, it wasnt until the last two weeks of pregnancy when they just appered all over my stomach. i was crushed. however i gave birth to a beautiful baby daughter no complications, in fact i was laughing throughout the labor and delivery, no lie. i was very happy to be a mother, but when i went home and saw the deflated thing that used to be my stomach and all the lines, i literally wanted to jump off a bridge, i am only 21, how can i go through the rest of my life looking like this? i can never wear a short shirt every again!!!! my BF is the one that kept me sane, in fact he tells me every day how sexy i am and that my marks are the marks of a REAL woman. i stll hate them no matter what he says. i stumbled across this site and saw that i am NOT alone. so i decided to share my story with you guys. this is what i look like now after 19 months, with out really working out.

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8 Responses to “Tif’s Story (Tif)”

  1. B.C. Says:
    November 3rd, 2009 at 12:28 pm

    Your belly is beautiful! I am so glad your boyfriend is loving and supportive. You need that. I can not imagine how stressful all this has been, especially with your family. They are missing out on so much joy. I hope and pray they wake up and re-connect with you.

  2. Kerry Says:
    November 3rd, 2009 at 1:38 pm

    I think you look fantastic! You can only see your stretch marks when you are really close, the farther away pictures you look like you have defined abs! Are you at your prepregnancy weight? And you are soooo tan! I’m jealous!

  3. Lauren Says:
    November 3rd, 2009 at 3:17 pm

    You look great! And it can only improve with healthy eating and exercise. :)

  4. Samantha Says:
    November 3rd, 2009 at 3:41 pm

    God Bless you and your baby! You look wonderful hunny!!! The marks will fade but don’t let your spirit fade! Keep strong and know that the only thing that matters is you and your baby! Screw everyone else!

  5. Sarah Says:
    November 3rd, 2009 at 11:32 pm

    Your boyfriend is so smart and loving! Stop dogging on yourself! You are gorgeous and womanly and so blessed!!!

  6. Tif Says:
    November 8th, 2009 at 10:03 am

    thank you guys so much for the kind words. No im not at my pre prgnancy weight, iam about 10 to 15 pounds away

  7. marianne Says:
    November 22nd, 2009 at 8:45 pm

    your tummy looks like my tummy! i hope i’m as lucky as you to find such a great guy. best luck!

  8. Vanessa Coe Says:
    March 11th, 2010 at 8:17 pm

    You honestly look great….!! I too am 21 years old….spent my 21st birthday pregnant and feeling fat………and watching my twin sister party hard!!! I have such a similar body to you AND I too developed my stretch marks at the very end of my pregnancy..having thot id got off scot free and rubbed so many oils in every day..i guess no women is immune!!!! All of my post preggy tops consisted of short sexy numbers that flashed my tanned, toned belly….i cried and got so worked up about my stomach…i always LOVED that i had such a perfect tummy, i was so confident about my body!!!….but the stretchmarks, they have slowly grown on me….and to find your post and read all the other girls posts..well were not alone are we??? we are brilliant women whom have created the most amazing thing possible…life!!! fuck the norm….who cares about how society labels a “perfect tummy” lets LOVE our marks………..xoxo

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