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The Real Teen Mother (Katelyn)

October 6, 2011

I’m tired of only seeing the prom queen that just happens to have a baby, pop a bottle in their mouth, and go out to party in their size 0 miniskirt a week later… it’s like I’m supposed to be like that. but I’m not…

I was 15 years old (2wks shy of my 16th birthday, [since i was induced a week early on January 13th, 2011] my due date was January 20th, 2011 & my birthday is January 25th) when i delivered (vaginally) my first (and only) beautiful baby girl, Kamari Marie Hinojosa Ficenec she was 7lbs 10.6oz & 20in long with a head circumference of 13in……..

when i started dating her dad i was 14yrs old, 5′ 3” and weighed 122lbs, 11months later when i got pregnant i was 15yrs old, 5′ 3 3/4” and weighed 160lbs. (he’s Hispanic and introduced me to the delicious [but lard smothered] world of authentic Mexican food:) during my pregnancy gained 31 lbs, so on delivery day i weighed 191 lbs.

at my school, Bellevue East High School, you are only allowed 2wks off after you have a baby. i took off a semester. while everyone else force-fed their babies formula, i breastfed. while all the other girls left their babies with anyone and everyone at the drop of a hat and partied, i stayed home and whenever i went anywhere, (walmart and families houses) Kamari would go too.

Now my daughter is 2days shy of 8months and i started my junior year and she started early head-start 4weeks ago. i still breastfeed full-time (pump during the day) and and take care of my daughter when I’m not at school (that still sounds horrible to me)…

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25 Responses to “The Real Teen Mother (Katelyn)”

  1. Misty Says:
    October 6th, 2011 at 7:20 am

    You are beautiful girl!!! And you sound like you have your head on straight… Dream big and accomplish great things for you and your daughter :)

  2. sarah Says:
    October 6th, 2011 at 7:31 am

    You sound like a strong, smart young woman. It’s good to hear that you realize how important you are to your daughter, and want to spend as much time as possible with her. I’m also amazed you breastfed-it takes so much determination! Congratulations :) Please though, don’t judge women who formula feed we weren’t all able to BF.

  3. Nicole Says:
    October 6th, 2011 at 12:08 pm

    It made me happy to read your post. Especially the first paragraph..

    I watch MTV’s “teen mom” show and those girls show up in magazines with fantastic bodies post-birth. And I looked forward to being able to show off mine post birth as well, since i’m only 19 I assumed my body would bounce right back just like theirs did.

    Well it didn’t. I have extra flabby skin on my stomach. I have stretch marks on my stomach, sides, legs and behind. Not one single woman in my family got stretch marks when they were pregnant, but I did.

    Thanks for sharing your story. It makes me feel not so alone. You sound like a beautiful strong confident woman! How you are handling this is something to be very proud of!

  4. amber Says:
    October 6th, 2011 at 6:04 pm

    love your post!!!

  5. Terressa Says:
    October 6th, 2011 at 6:30 pm

    Our stories are scarily similar. I was 14 when I got pregnant, 15 when I had my daughter. Almost* all the other teen moms I know are just as you described: constantly partying and right back into their size 0 mini skirts in a matter of weeks. It’s great to hear about another mom as young as me who actually took responsibility for their actions. Unfortunately I wasn’t able to have an all natural birth nor was I able to breastfeed like I wanted, but I’m highly impressed by you. Best of luck, check out my post if you want : http://theshapeofamother.com/blog/update-15-year-old-mother-terressa/

  6. Abby Says:
    October 6th, 2011 at 10:35 pm

    Lovely girl, rock on! It takes cojones and determination to pump milk at school/work!

  7. Kim Says:
    October 7th, 2011 at 8:01 am

    You sound incredibly responsible. Keep your head in your books, finish high school, and you’ll have a whole world of opportunities open up to you. The next few years are going to be hard, but not as hard as the rest of your life would be without an education.

  8. Lola Says:
    October 7th, 2011 at 8:37 am

    Your body looks so much like mine! I’m 20 years old and i had my son 6 months ago. I have been searching this website for someone with a body similar to mine-well i found yours and suprisingly enough your story is quite similar to mine as well. Although i am older and not in school i can relate to breastfeeding fulltime while others formula feed and drop their kids off where ever and with whom ever. My babys father is mexican also! hehe You are a VERY beautiful girl who should be the example to all these young teenage mothers out here. Your daughter will grow up and be so proud of her mother for always doing what was best for her and not worried about “being young and living life”. Your daughter is your life now and isn’t it wonderful :) Again, you are simply gorgeous(inside & out) and do not let anybody tell you otherwise EVER!

  9. Marz Says:
    October 7th, 2011 at 12:43 pm

    Kudos for breastfeeding as diligently as you have :) I wanted to breastfeed so badly; my supply dried up after 2 weeks. My husband was deployed and I got so depressed over “failing” to give my son the best that my hubby’s command actually took him out of a top secret area to call me and make sure that I wasn’t, like, suicidal or something.
    Youre still a teenager, and while you are certainly far more mature than most your age (hands down), your body is not. Yes, it gave birth, but it is still changing into its adult form. Even if you had snapped back into your prepregnancy form right away your body woul still be changing and morphing. Just try to keep that in mind :)

  10. L Says:
    October 7th, 2011 at 12:55 pm

    Good job mama! This is a breath of fresh air to know a teen mom takes care of her baby. Most all I know except one leave the babies with anyone to go out and party. Keep your head up and congrats on your little princess!!!

  11. s Says:
    October 7th, 2011 at 7:28 pm

    you look amazing and have a very beautiful face. im also a teen mother, my daughter turned one july 10th and im turning 18 next week. I wear a size 0 miniskirt but in no means go out and party. Just because some young teens bodies bounce back doesnt mean they arnt as good as mothers. Im a single mom who takes care of my baby girl by day and works part time and goes to college part time. you can look like a prom queen and be a great mother too! you have such a pretty face and im jealous of your even skin tone. keep your head up mama you seem to be doing a great job!

  12. Diana Says:
    October 8th, 2011 at 5:33 am

    Keep up the good work. Just one little aside…those of us that opted to formula feed (for whatever reason) didn’t “force-feed” our babies. I have twins and had a very low milk supply so I couldn’t breastfeed. Just needed to add that 2 cents.

  13. samantha Says:
    October 8th, 2011 at 10:07 am

    sounds like you are doing a great job! I am a college student and had my bay my freshman year. but please dont judge those that formula feed. i worked and went to school and did not have time. it doesnt make me a bad mother.

  14. Aidan Tro Says:
    October 8th, 2011 at 12:09 pm

    You might as well wait to kick back and party some when you’re old enough to have a drink! You’ll still be young enough to dance all night when your daughter is old enough for sleepovers at grandma’s! Trust me, I’m 38, I have four kids, and I can still kick up my heels just fine.

  15. Susy Says:
    October 8th, 2011 at 1:36 pm

    Congrats!! And how wonderful to hear of a mom so in touch with her baby, making her needs top priority. I wish more moms were like this. You are beautiful inside and out.

  16. kat Says:
    October 9th, 2011 at 7:00 am

    I don’t comment often, but I felt compelled to comment in your post. First off, you are stunning! But more importantly, you are the kind of mother anyone would b lucky to have! You are putting your baby first and doing everything you can to enjoy these precious and fleeting first year moments with her and you will cherish that for the rest of both of your lives! Keep up the phenomenal work! God bless :-) you are an incredible woman and mother!!

  17. Kaitlyn Says:
    October 9th, 2011 at 6:03 pm

    You have got the cutest face!! Your stretch marks WILL fade. I have very faint stretch marks from gaining weight quickly, and then I lost a ton and then I got pregnant! You ARE doing the right thing, breastfeeding and juggling a schedule is hectic! Keep at it, you’re doing the best thing for your baby. Give yourself time to lose the ‘baby weight’ and as much as I wish I was ‘one of those girls’ that a week later looks fantastic..I am not. We’re ‘real’ women…cut yourself some slack!

  18. lauryn Says:
    October 9th, 2011 at 7:14 pm

    sounds like me.. iwas 17 when i got pregnant. i had weighed 160 for two years before igot pregnant then i started gaining weight.. i thought i was fat before i got pregnant and afterwarda i just really hated my body.. my daughter cearra is with me pretty much 24/7. i dont leave her with anyone but my mom my boyfriend or her paternal grandparents. she is now 15 months and i weigh 173. i want to be atleast me pre pregnancy weight if not less.. my body just wont let me lose weight.

  19. Sarah P. Says:
    October 9th, 2011 at 10:26 pm

    You are an amazing and dedicated young mother! I am proud of you. I want you to know that! Good for you!!!

    Stretch marks fade with time and weight loss comes as well. It took me a full 18 months to get where I was comfortable and 2-3 years to get where I truly wanted to be. :) Like you said, it isn’t like on TV with the “Teen Moms” or celebrities. This stuff is real life. You’re taking on real life full-on and i think that’s amazing. You’re setting an example for young mothers of your generation. That says a lot.

  20. shannon Says:
    October 10th, 2011 at 9:24 pm

    I think you look beautiful. I was/am a young mother as well. I got pregnant with my 1st at 19 and my 2nd at 22. I breastfed my 2nd for almost 2 years. I am in nursing school now. You can do this! Congrats on your beautiful new baby and your new life (mommyhood).

  21. Katelyn M. F. (the real teen mother) Says:
    October 12th, 2011 at 5:57 pm

    hey everyone sorry if i sounded like i was bashing anything! i was only talking about the specific individuals i’ve come in contact with. i know damn well that some people have to use formula and i totally support them doing what’s best for their family:) i was once again only talking about this specific group of girls.. and thank you soo much for all the support!! i didnt know if this would even get looked at, let alone commented on…. once again thank you soo much and i wish everyone the best of luck and all long happy lives with their beautiful babies:)

  22. Katelyn M. F. (the real teen mother) Says:
    October 12th, 2011 at 6:12 pm

    Lauryn,
    i know exactly how you feel to a “T”!! they say it takes time but god the wait is soo long..if you find anything that helps let me know! katelynficenec@yahoo.com that goes for anyone else that has anything to say too:) i dont check my computer often but i would love to get in contact with anyone that’s in the same boat as me:) and also thank you everyone for not treating me like a child, as that’s what i usually run into with any mom that’s older than me. there should be more moms like all of you out there:) just remember that even if you cant go out for drinks together it’s nice to expose young mothers to a change of scenery, (it’s hard to know what to do if all we’re exposed to is crappy “moms”) so maybe if you see a younger mom in the park or grocery store, you could talk to her:) you never know what you can teach each other:) thank you soo much:)

  23. Kristen Says:
    November 17th, 2011 at 5:18 pm

    Wow! 1. You are gorgeous! 2. You are amazing for BFing and pumping! Way to be a great mom!

  24. Julie Says:
    December 12th, 2011 at 11:05 am

    Don’t give up, going to school is the best thing that you can do right now. I got pregnant with my first my jr year of college, and my second in my senior year of college. They are Irish twins…Now they are almost 2, and almost 1, I am finished with college, and in grad school…. It is very hard, and my life is boring some days but I know that my babies and my husband and I will have a better life in the long run… Look to the future, and live in the moment, don’t miss a thing with your little girl b/c you will never get that time back….

  25. Jolene Says:
    December 19th, 2011 at 12:33 am

    You sound even more dedicated than I was and I am a lot older and still getting used to being a mom with our second on the way soon. You look lovely and I would be proud if I were you. <3

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