age:20
numberof kids:2
I wanted to first start out and say that i recently found your site when i was looking for pictures of tummys like mine after pregnancy.. i am so glad i did find it bc i know now i am not alone. Thank you so much 
you are all beautiful
I am living a life that i dont know how i am living.. the smiles i put on in front of friends and family, the fake confidence that i wish i had, and the constant dreaming of me being in a different body. I just turned 20 last week and feel 40. I am in a relationship with a guy that makes me feel like i am the dirt on his shoes.. always telling me i am fat and calling me lazy, telling me that i am good for nothing and only keeps me around so he can see his kids.. why do i put up with it you wonder? I have left many times.. but his constant calls telling me he loves me and he will change always win me back. I love my kids with everything i have and having them in my life makes me blessed.. They put a major smile in my life! when you see me i look normal ya know a good mom, nice clothes, and a smile.. and really thats all true, i am a happy mom and do love life.. i just hate the situation i seem to be in.. which is my ugly body and emotionally abusive relationship.
I found out i was pregnant when i was 15 and that was in the tenth grade and one yr after loosing my virginity to the guy i am still with. After getting over the shock and deciding i will not abort i was always very excited!! My son was born Oct 5, 2006 and a year later i found out i was pregnant again!! This time it was a beautiful baby girl! I love being a mom.. its all im really good at. But i basically put my life on hold to be a good mom and now i just want to be happy with my body a little bit and this site has helped gain some confidence!
My daughter was born July13,2008 and for some reason after i had my daughter i cant seem to loose the weight!!!
I was 120 before i had my son and after i went right back down to 120 but after i had my daughter i am stuck at 140.. ughh my stomachs ugly.
These pics i took today of my stomach.. and then you see my angels !!
July 7th, 2010 at 7:48 am
You are not ugly, you are not fat, you are beautiful. DO NOT BELIEVE him. Staying in that relationship will be more detrimental to your children even if he is the father. Think of this what example is he showing your beautiful children. He is telling your children it is okay to be abusive. That is NEVER okay.
July 7th, 2010 at 8:33 am
Oh hunny, you look AMAZING! The man you are with needs to be slapped and you need to leave and make sure he NEVER has anything to do with those children…When your daughter grows up he will do the same to her. He has issues that will never fix, no one not even your children will fix. LEAVE and LEAVE NOW…Abuse is not good for the children either…Here is a quote you should live by, “The best thing a man can do for his children is love their mother.”….That is the most true quote I have ever read….By not loving and treating you kind he is also not loving and treating them kind. Your son will grow and learn from him how to be a man….Your daughter will grow and learn from you that it’s okay to take abuse if you stay…She will find a man like her father…I am so thankful my mother left my biological father before I was 3….I have no memories of him, THANK GOD…..I would be one messed up headcase had she stayed…Be strong, love yourself, but most of all, do what’s best for your children.
July 7th, 2010 at 9:26 am
I am a young mother too, and I know it can be really hard to cope with the changes, so I empathize with you…but I want to tell you that from my perspective, you are SEXY!
July 7th, 2010 at 9:40 am
I have to agree with David and Elissa. You look beautiful! I know you do not feel it…because I feel fat and ugly 95% of the time too. The difference is, I have a husband that tries to make me feel beautiful. You may not look the same as you did before you had children…but it is so worth it! He should look at your belly and smile, because it nourished and protected HIS children, nothing is better than that! You should not stay with a man that brings you down. I can tell you that you will have no trouble finding a man that will love your body! It is beautiful! You have great hips, and a narrow waist! Go treat yourself to a cute belly button piercing! You have the tummy for it
OH, and your kids are adorable!
July 7th, 2010 at 10:10 am
First and for most, you are beautiful. And I mean this with every breathe. You are an astounding mother, and your children are beautiful.
But if there is one thing I can not stand to watch, hear, or read about it abusive relationships; whether they be physical, mental or emotional. You deserve better and you know that. And not only do you need better, your children need better. The quote that Elissa quoted is nothing but honestly and reality. What you feel, say, act out is what your children feel and learn. When you hurt, they do too. What they see, they copy, whether it be today or 10 years down the road.
You need to believe in yourself and your children and begin a new life for you guys. Your children are beautiful, just like their mother, and you need to do what is best for them. And in return, it is also what is best for you.
Be strong and love who and what you are.
July 7th, 2010 at 11:10 am
One of the most dangerous things anyone can do is stop being assertive enough to protect their happiness. The problem is that they end up thinking, that in order to be nice, they must give in to every request from other people. This is of course most true of people who are sensitive or “sweet”.
Just one of the things that worries me here is the part where you said, “only reason he keeps me around” ..what do you think he meant by that?
Fact is, most people who are really abusive (in any way) don’t change easy, if ever. Don’t go by what people say in one moment, it’s easy to sustain sounding nice or “all better” when they are pleading for something. What you go by is checking their overall character or behavior. If someone’s old habits of blaming others or being negatively critical are still there, then odds are they will still treat you the same -after the front they put on has vaporized, that is. Hint: people might hide how they treat you directly, for a certain period of time to fool you, but they often don’t think you’ll notice how they treat others or little comments/reactions they have indirectly to you.
For all this, you have to set aside misleading feelings while you think about what might really be going on at any moment..
Just realize most importantly, life isn’t long enough to be miserable for any amount of time. Protect your heart/soul/mind ( and those close to you ;> ) and realize your always better off without abusive people. Sometimes you need to deal with them, but that doesn’t mean they need to be ingrained into your life if they are harmful to you. At one time I had to distance myself from my father, though I never gave up on trusting people in general.
At the point you feel you can freely express yourself, that’s the point that you know your really free with someone (and yourself).
As you might tell, I’ve been through a few things myself, so I’d like to think someone might help me out should anyone see what I’m going through -that’s the reason I decided to make a comment here.
Remember, feeling beautiful has a LOT to do with
how you treat yourself and,as a result, how you let others treat you. Surely you babies are very fragile, and a negative atmosphere can create a large stumbling block for them though life.
I hope you do well.
Jay
July 7th, 2010 at 2:29 pm
I personally think you look great after having your two children. I had my 1st a month after turning 17 and my second 3mos. before turning 19. I felt the same way about my body and though my kids father never said it to me he made me feel worthless and ugly, all by cheating on me with a girl he worked with who was way skinnier than I was and who had no children, after this I didn’t even want to show him my body.
But I learned that I’ am beautiful inside and out, and my body brought two beautiful children into this world. Even with my body being the way it is I still got hit on and when me and my kids father split up for a couple months, I dated somebody else for a short time and he liked my body the way it was so I had so much more confidence.
You deserve better than what you are living with now, and your kids really dont deserve to see their mother being torn down and sad, your daughter will think that its ok to get treated that way.
I hope things get better for you and I truely hope you will regain confidence in your body and know that you really are beautiful!!
July 7th, 2010 at 8:55 pm
I hope you read and listen to this comment as well as the rest of them. you are beautiful and the miracle your body performed aka pregnancy and childbirth is also beautiful. It should be respected and even awed. You and your beautiful children deserve better.
July 7th, 2010 at 9:04 pm
He doesn’t love you. His actions clearly deny that. I am also a young mum btw i know the difficulties and the idea that raising these two wonderful kids without a man seems impossible but they will thank you in the long run for leaving this abusive relationship. I agree totally with Chantay. I hope you know that you are beautiful and deserve so much better. The beautiful miracle your body performed should be awed.
July 7th, 2010 at 9:56 pm
oh my gosh you are honestly like my twin. I got pregnant with my son my senior year of high school had him 3 weeks before graduation. 26 months later had a beautiful little girl. She turned a month old two days ago. I am married to their father and he also abuses me mentally and sometimes physically. He doesnt work, I fully support him and the kids. sometimes I think it is ok b/c he is mentally disabled…LOL. he is though and I think he knows that he can use that as an excuse to not work and sit on his butt all day at home playing video games. I know i need to leave but just cant seem to do it. I always said I would never put my kids through having to live in a broken home…but I do not want my daughter to choose a man like I did nor do I want my son to grow up just like him. I can totally relate to your situation…I need the same help….We both need to better our lives along with our children’s lives and leave these jerks. And by the way you look amazing! I think you are gorgeous and that butt head of a guy you are with is blind…he does not know what he will soon be missing. Good luck hun and I wish the best for you
July 7th, 2010 at 11:52 pm
My heart breaks for you! You speak as if life is over when you are only twenty! Listen to me: Nobody, NOBODY has the right to make you feel badly about yourself. Please take that to heart. You are beautiful. You are worthy of respect and love.
You have beautiful babies and you are a beautiful woman!
July 8th, 2010 at 12:45 am
I just want to give you a big hug.
You are worth SO much more than you put up with!
Speaking from personal experience, I too was in a severely emotionally/physically abusive relationship, and it hurts..so so so bad!!
You set the standard for yourself. You determine how you will be treated and what you deserve. Is that the man that you would like your daughter to end up with???
For yourself and for you children, get a plan together and leave, don’t look back just move on. I know easier said then done but find the strength within and leave.
I GUARANTEE in the long run you will be so glad you left.
you’re beautiful and worth something. remember that!
July 8th, 2010 at 6:17 pm
You have such a sweet and beautiful face and the strong body of a mother. You are strong enough to carry your children… you are strong enough to be happy.
July 9th, 2010 at 8:41 am
Oh My Goodness…. your story is almost just like mine!!
I too found out I was pregnant when I was 15 To the guy I gave away my virginity too. My son was born in August 2006 and then in 2008 I found out I W
July 9th, 2010 at 8:50 am
sorry my comment posted before I was finished……anyways
… I found out I was pregnant in 2008 and in october I had my little girl… The father of my kids was verbally abusive to me as well. A few months ago I finally put my foot down and kicked him out, I did not deserve it and neither do you! I have since found a guy who loves me and truly doesn’t care about my stomach….In fact he says he loves it all the time…. My stomach looks just like yours!!!!! I have had trouble accepting it but being out of that relationship and in a healthy one has helped A LOT!…. not to mention this site and seeing other moms just like me, it’s a great feeling! Keep your head up! and realize just how strong you are!!!
July 10th, 2010 at 4:00 am
I completely agree with David (1st comment). I don’t think you’d like it if some man treated your daughter like that. What a blessing to be a mom. i love children so much. i couldn’t imagine having a child & then breaking up….i don’t think i could deal with it (my parents had a nasty divorce. i’m in my mid-20′s & sometimes still feel the pain). I think if your man really wants to be a good parter & father then he will seek counseling. you do NOT deserve to be treated like crap!
July 10th, 2010 at 11:57 am
Your story reminds me a lot of myself. I had my daughter when I was 15. My belly looks a lot like yours and her dad would always ridicule me and tell me no other man would want me with a stretched out belly. I’m proud to say he was WRONG! I left him and have a new, caring, and loving man in my life. He treats me and my daughter as if we were princesses (every girl’s dream). He tells me I’m beautiful every day and I believe him. He has NEVER made fun of my scars or told me they’re ugly. My point is that there are men out there that will treat you like you deserve. You are beautiful. I know its hard when the other girl’s your age have perfect bodies and wear the bikini’s you wish you could. But the sooner you accept yourself, the happier you will be. Also, you need to dump that loser ASAP!
July 27th, 2010 at 11:18 am
Aww girl you look great!! We’re belly twins, I swear!! But seriously, you look amazing!! and you’re children re beautiful!
October 26th, 2010 at 5:39 am
I think you look gorgeous! but i am begging you. please leave that guy. Maybe things will be difficult financially or whatever. but it will be totally worth it in the end. its not healthy for you or your children. and you seem like such i nice woman. you could do sooo much better.
February 10th, 2011 at 9:10 pm
You are beautiful!!! You have two beautiful kids. My stomach is similar to yours anson trying to tone up also. You should really leave that jerk your not a doormat. You will find someone else who treasures you and kids. You are showing them that abuse is normal because as they get older thy will model the behavior the see. You don’t want your daughters boyfriend in 20yrs treating her that way or your son treating a girl that way. You are the cardholder not him even thoug it doesn’t feel like it. Do good for yourself and your children let go of him and move him.