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teen mom and wife (Anonymous)

November 9, 2008

Hello so somehow I discovered this site, Im not sure how but ive known of it for a few months now. I finally got the guts to post some pics of myself as I see women that look just like me. It isnt like im alone out there anymore after looking around on here. I am 19, married and have my first child, Aiden. Its hard being young and taking on the wife and mother role. I love it though and I wouldnt want it any other way. I used to be really skinny and I was never happy with my body until right before I became pregnant. I was never fat but i always thought I was. At age 12 I was anorexic and I came out of it from help of my mother. I now know that I should have appreciated my body a lot more than I did. I was 119 lbs. before I became pregnant. A month before that I was 109 lbs. but I just stopped exercising and started eating badly again making me gain weight. I gained 70 lbs. during my pregnancy. I didnt eat too much more than I did prepregnancy but I was on bedrest b/c of preterm contractions from 7 months although my contractions started at 7 wks.! Allowing to get no exercise in. I wouldnt trade my old body back for my son, he was all worth it. But seeing girls my age, I shouldnt have a body the way I do. I mean come on, Jamie Lynn Spears dosent even look like she gained a pound. She was all belly. Her legs look amazing!I have stretch marks on my tummy, boobs, legs (even down to my calves!), sides and even a little on my triceps. I am now down to 144 lbs, need to lose 25 more pounds. My husband is encouraging me by putting me through a hard workout and a diet. We exercise wrestling style together 3 x a week and do Tae bo every other day. I eat no more than 1800 calories a day as I am breastfeeding. The photos I attached are me 6 months postpartum and I attached a photo of myself and my gorgeous son, Aiden Michael. The first one is me when I was 2 months prego and then I attached a pic of me breastfeeding my son. Please leave comments, I would love to talk to other mommies!



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23 Responses to “teen mom and wife (Anonymous)”

  1. Toni Says:
    November 9th, 2008 at 10:29 pm

    Congrats! He is beautiful!

  2. Shealene Says:
    November 9th, 2008 at 10:45 pm

    You’re looking good! Just wait until you’re like 1 years pp…you’ll be surprised by how much your body will change! And your son is so freaking ADORABLE!!!!!! He has such purdy eyes! And he just seems like he’s a really calm and content baby. You were one of the lucky ones I bet. I got lucky too, my daughter is so amazing…yup…my luck when she starts walking, she’ll he bad hah! You have a pretty smile too!

  3. Susy Says:
    November 9th, 2008 at 10:51 pm

    you are absolutely gorgeous! you seriously look like katie holmes. its understandable that you gained on the high side during your pregnancy since you were underweight pre-pregnancy. and your body has already recovered a lot. give a bit more time. you look great already!

    ps. people like jamielynne spears.. they get tummy tucks right after their birth. their career hinges on it. and they have swarms of people catering to every aspect of getting their body back, cooking their meals, one on one trainers.. we’d look like that to if we had the entourage! and if they still don’t look perfect the rest is airbrushed out. don’t compare yourself to them. it’s not a fair fight. you are beautiful the way you are :)

  4. Ashley Says:
    November 10th, 2008 at 12:18 am

    Hunn, you look amazing! I was a teen bride and mommy too so I totally understand! My husband and I have been together for 6 years and we got married when I was 18 and I had my son Caden right after I turned 20, he’s 7 weeks old now and my body looks MUCH different from what it used to, I have a very saggy belly and I miss my old flat tummy which I totally took for granted, but like you said I would NEVER trade it for my little boy, he’s worth every stretch mark! I also battled with anorexia so I know where you’re coming from there too, and I do agree that being a young wife/mommy is hard, but again so worth it! And it makes us much stronger women in my opinion! Keep your head up and when you start to get down about your body remind yourself of what a wonderful thing it did, you nourished and grew an ENTIRE person for 9 whole months, that’s amazing! And always remember that you are beautiful.
    =]

  5. melissa Says:
    November 10th, 2008 at 6:17 am

    i think you look beautiful and your son is just adorable!!! your body looks very soft and curvy – i honestly think you look better with a lil more meat on your bones! and i admire you for breastfeeding!!! i know what hard work that can be!!!

  6. Makayla Says:
    November 10th, 2008 at 7:47 am

    I think you look great for 6mo pp..I am also 19. And we both have the same thing in common always being skinny and stuff. I weighed 102lbs at the 16week apt. I gained about 35lbs during my pregnancy. My daughter is 17mo old now. I got streach marks too on my sides and stomach. They looked alot like yours. But now they have faded out so much you can barely see them. As far as the stomach goes. I didn’t work out hardly any and it went from what yours looks like in the picture down to about the way it was before (besides maybe a small little pouch when i bend over for something). Just give yourself lots of time honey the good thing is you will improve and improve. My entry hasn’t been posted yet I submitted it a couple days ago. The name of it is Making My Way Back to Acceptance. Our stories are alot alike. Keep an eye out for it.

  7. ashleigh Says:
    November 10th, 2008 at 12:35 pm

    you remind me of myself. i was 20 when i got pregnant, and 130 lbs. i had always struggled with my weight and right before i got pregant i was at my highest weight. i gained 70 lbs as well. i was 203 lbs the day i delivered. i now have stretch marks from my boobs to my knees, it’s very upsetting. i am now 3 1/2 months postpartum and am down to 148 lbs so i am very grateful that i have lost even that much in such a short amount of time. hang in there mama, we’re young & we will bounce back. the stretch marks are just a reminder of the amazing life we have created

  8. kimmy Says:
    November 10th, 2008 at 6:40 pm

    you look much like I do…I was a teen mom as well..i had my daughter at 17, and my son at 19. Let me tell you, that boy is what messed me up…cravings galore. I had problems with not enough amniotic fluid and my doc told me to stay off my feet with both pregnancies…sucked cuz I did walking as my excercise. Of course I was scared so I took it easy. It seemed so easy to loose weight after my lil girl. I got on the depo shot after my son and since then it’s been hard. I even went through basic training and I am in the Army now and I still have trouble. I did get injured so I am somewhat restricted in what I do.
    It’s good to see you are being very optimistic..the one thing about being a young mom is you have time and energy to get back in shape. sorry for babbling!! love the post!

  9. AsHleY r0bLeS Says:
    November 11th, 2008 at 4:11 pm

    first of all you and your son is beautiful!your like my twin!i have stretch marks where you do too and i hate them!im married too i got married when i was16 and i have a daughter who is 9months!i also gained alot of weight i gained 62lbs!but you look good!i know how you feel when you look at other girls i know it makes me feel bad..i go to school and i jus want to cry lookin at all those girls who had babys and dont even look like it!im on here too if you ever need anyone to tlk to im “16married 17first baby”but again you look good!and your son is beautiful!

  10. Tamara Says:
    November 11th, 2008 at 8:23 pm

    first off u r freakn gorgeous and ur son is a blessing…i know exactly what ur going through..i too had my son at 19 and before then i was pretty ok with my body…after pregnancy i was left with stretch marks from my boobs to my ankles pretty much!!!! and not a day goes by that i dont stare…MAINLY at other mommies and jelousy infuriated me cz they look perfect still!!! and its really hard..but as time goes on the weight will shed off…the saggy skin will smooth out a bit and the stretch marks will fade…mine were bright bright red and i started using collegen boostin lotion and they have lightened so much…and its cheap too!! it Jergens skin firming…have faith sweety! im on here too if ya wanna check out my story…its under 19 and insecure (Tamara)

  11. taiyo Says:
    November 11th, 2008 at 10:44 pm

    You are beautiful. You will look back and say “What was I thinking, I was hot!” so enjoy it now. I know it’s hard to accept, but beauty isn’t a number on the scale or the size of jeans we wear. I can see that when I look at you. Congrats on your beautiful son.

  12. Ashley Says:
    November 11th, 2008 at 11:51 pm

    I also wanted to tell you to look into buying a girdle or a corset of some sort, I did recently and in just a few days I’ve seen a HUGE difference! Just go into the underwear section at WalMart or even Target and they’re really inexpensive, i think I only paid 12 bucks for mine. So anyway good luck with everything and remember that you did an amazing thing!

  13. Erin Says:
    November 12th, 2008 at 3:40 am

    wow you sound ALOT like me in a lot of ways it was creepy ahhaa i am 19 also turning 20 Jan 11th anyways i have not gave birth to my son yet which his name is actually Zachary Aiden hahahah we were going to name him Aiden or Brayden but we heard that name a lot lately but decided to keep it as the middle name… anyways i am currently 34 weeks into my pregnacny and it just was soo weird to read ur entry here i was 116-120 depends on what time of day i weighed myself i guess before pregnancy and what is really weird is i had an eating disorder too not when i was 12 but from 14-17 and my husband actually helped me through that i HATED my body soo much and up until igot pregnant the first time but i had a miscarriage and i was soo upset then i started really accepting my body and then i got pregnant again and i started getting worried about how much weight i was going to gain and how many stretch marks i would get i was really upset since i already hated my body i knew even if i gained 10 pounds if feel like a cow and the first stretch mark would make me feel soo nasty but my husband has stretch marks all over him from when he took steriods for his eye condition and i dont think they are even a lil gross its just me im soo self critical i think u would be really interesting to talk to do u have a myspace or email??

  14. Erin Says:
    November 12th, 2008 at 3:43 am

    by the way ur not fat u look really great hun i promise u do! also a very gor. face and ur son is a cutie pie!! so handsome!

  15. Heather Says:
    November 12th, 2008 at 8:14 am

    you have such a gorgeous smile !!

  16. liv Says:
    November 14th, 2008 at 9:00 pm

    first of all jamie lynn…rich she can get all that wiped away with money if we were all rich noone would have stretch marks or a saggy stomache….but your son is beautiful and thats what i want to name my son, i have a daughter that is 9 months i was 17 when i had her…still am and i have a hubby but im 5 months pregnant and if its a boy im gna name him Ayden….i breastfeed also and i really feel like it helped but you seem like you really are determined and you look great so im sure you will come to love the body your working on….im learning to love my body and even though i know im getting all that weight back again its all worth and it makes me feel alot better…you did a great thing so love your body and love every mark that reminds you of the beautiful boy you brought into this world

  17. Amanda Says:
    November 22nd, 2008 at 7:49 am

    Hi! Wow, you are beautiful! I am an eighteen yr. old mommy and wife, and I completely understand! I’m going to college full time and then I take care of my son. It’s a crazy life, but it’s sooo worth it. I’d love to chat sometime. =]

  18. Kate Says:
    November 30th, 2008 at 8:46 pm

    You are beautiful and don’t you worry about a thing you’ll get there. You know Weight Watchers has a program for breastfeeding mom’s. I breastfeed also and I’ve been doing it for a few months now and I have lost 45 lbs! You typically lose an average of 2 lbs a week or more depending on how active you are. Sparkpeople.com is a great tool also. Sounds like you have a really supportive hubby. So ignore all the media images out there….the reason they look like that is cause they have the money to! God knows if we had the money too our bodies would look just as good!

  19. aimee Says:
    December 2nd, 2008 at 1:34 pm

    you are gorgeous, and very lucky to still have agreat body…way to go!

  20. Tessa Says:
    December 6th, 2008 at 9:00 pm

    Congrats to you for breastfeeding that beautiful baby.

  21. Jill Says:
    January 16th, 2009 at 9:50 pm

    oh man you’re so pretty!! I’m a 20 year old wife and mom and I totally understand how you feel. had to grow up fast and miss out on a lot of the fun stuff girls our age get to normally experience. but I figure most of that stuff isn’t important and it’s probably better it got skipped.. I just wish I got some me time every once in a while!

  22. Jacquie Says:
    March 2nd, 2009 at 7:22 pm

    I envy you and I hope to god I look like you after my pregnancy- I’m 37 weeks currently and on bedrest for spotting. I was 135 pre-pregnancy and right now i’m only a glorious 163- just hitting the 30lb mark! I only got stretchmarks at 8 months but they’re getting worse along the bottom of my tummy. I’m 19 too- and awaiting that proposal :P which I’m told by friends is coming soon lol. Good for you to look so good and be so proud- your son is gorgeous and I hope our daughter is as healthy looking as him =)

  23. K Says:
    September 23rd, 2009 at 7:05 pm

    What a great picture of mom and baby. You look great. I think you look amazing after the baby. Smile. Take care scififan65@yahoo.com

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