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Stretched, Marked, & Saggy at 18! (Kelsey)

May 13, 2010

Hi, My Name is Kelsey.. I was 16 when I found out I was pregnant.. This came as a big shock to my boyfriend and I. At The time we hadn’t been dating long, and we we’re just in high school after all! We decided to carry on with the pregnancy and Keep our son..Now named Noah.. He’s an almost 2 outgoing, amazing little guy!! We are married and have turned out to be quite successful. I am now almost 19 only don’t feel it.. My breasts are saggy and marked ( due to 1 year of breast feeding), I have a c-section scar, My sides, thighs and butt have been stretched and marked, and Overall I just don’t look like I Should! My self confidence has really been fading lately as summer comes and I see all the girls “my age” in there cute bikinis and short shorts, and this is when it really starts to hit me that I’m never going to look any different!! It’s starting to effect my relationship with my husband and just the way i interact with people in general.. I would love to get the self confidence back that i had when i was a young teenager.. I mean who wouldn’t ! I love my son to death, always have, always will.. I just hate the feeling of being so discusted when you look at yourself in the mirror.. I just don’t know where to turn????
I Found this website when my son was about 6 months old, and I am finally getting up the nerve to post my story.

AGE:18
NUMBER OF PREGNANCY’S: 1. Noah almost 2 years
NUMBER OF BIRTHS: 1

1st picture My son Noah
2nd picture Myself Pre-Pregnancy
3rd picture Scarred Breasts
4th picture Postpartum body
5th picture stretch marks

PS: I want to thank you for your site.. I find it very empowering to women to see this.. While it hasn’t quite hit me yet, i’m hoping this step will help. Thank you

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23 Responses to “Stretched, Marked, & Saggy at 18! (Kelsey)”

  1. Jess Says:
    May 13th, 2010 at 7:35 am

    Your boobs are TOTALLY not saggy! Mine got so big when I nursed that now they look like rocks in socks and they literally point down

    Your body is my goal

    Your stretch marks have faded
    Get yourself a little tan (real or fake) and stick on a 2 piece
    You look GORGEOUS

  2. Suzanne Says:
    May 13th, 2010 at 7:47 am

    I know what you mean, it seems so much harder to deal with when it happens to someone young, i was 20 when i had my first daughter, I’m now 23 and i do feel inadequate compared to other people my own age who haven’t had children, it limits clothing choices etc. But anyway, you look great, you have fantastic boobs!! they’re big but still look nice and full, your lucky! :) Personally i think your body looks way better in your AFTER baby pics.. you have curves now and you look like a woman not a girl, it’s a good thing, you look amazing.

  3. kat Says:
    May 13th, 2010 at 7:55 am

    Seriously?? Your body is beautiful!! You have great boobs and you can barely see your stretchmarks. Your stomach is still flat with great muscle tone. Be confident and rock the bikini! Plus your son is so handsome!! I am happy that your marriage is working out, some things are just meant to be :)

  4. Kerry Says:
    May 13th, 2010 at 8:09 am

    I know what you mean, Im 19 and feel the same way, I got to wear a bikini for 1 year!!! You look terrific though, I’d totally rock a 2 piece if I looked like you! You cant even see your stretchmarks and your skin is smooth! My post was http://www.theshapeofamother.com/it-looks-like-a-frowny-face-kerry/ You’re body is beautiful! Dont forget it! Your son is adorable too :)

  5. tanya Says:
    May 13th, 2010 at 8:51 am

    you are still amazingly beautiful! you look pretty similar to your before pic to me. just you look tanned in the before. It always helps me when i lay in the sun for a bit and get a little bronzed ..it totally helps. But you really do look gorgeous , you have a curvy waist and full boobs :)

  6. ashley Says:
    May 13th, 2010 at 9:43 am

    I wish my belly looked like yours!

  7. Ali Says:
    May 13th, 2010 at 10:43 am

    I think you are absolutely gorgeous!! You’re lucky your stretch marks have faded into the lovely color of the rest of your skin. Mine are still a purpely/red/and SOME white mix!!! Not so attractive!

    Anyway I’m much older than you (31) but I really do understand what you are feeling as I feel it too even at my age. I feel like I’ve taken really good care of my body and I’m in good shape to rock a bikini or even any cute lower cut shirts but I don’t feel comfortable exposing my scarred up breasts to the world or even my husband sometimes. But I will tell you what is starting to help me heal…..that is appreciating all of the great things I do have in my life even when my self esteem with not having the “perfect” body is low. I have a wonderful husband (sounds like you do as well) two great kids, my health, etc. Whenever you envy others for wearing what they do or looking a certain way, just remember that we are all envious of SOMETHING. I bet your friends have their own issues to struggle with even if they aren’t body conscious (and they probably are despite what you see on the surface…most women are)

    I know it’s easier said then done, and believe me, I have my moments too, but I hope this helps. You really are SO beautiful! Once you visit this site more often you will see what real women look like and what real beauty is and it will help you on the journey to appreciate your own body. There are many others who are around your age feeling similarly. I wish you the best!!

  8. ME Says:
    May 13th, 2010 at 11:03 am

    i love your breast, i wish mine looked like yours!

  9. Lindsey Says:
    May 13th, 2010 at 2:25 pm

    Holy crap! I read this story and I thought it was mine.. I got pregnant when I was 16 too.. And I also have stretch marks on my sides, butt, and thighs. Also on my stomach, and my calves though.. My boobs sag bad and they’re covered in stretch marks.. (I also had a c-section). I’m really having a tough time with this new “mom” image…. Me and my boyfriend, the dad, plan on getting married.. Seriously, reading this story reminded me of me. I just sent in a story of me 2 days ago, and our stories relate ALOT. So keep an eye out for it if you’d like. It’ll be called “Why me, why this young”.

    I think you look great though. My nipples are so dark compared to yours.. I think you have nice breasts. And I hope my stretch marks fade as much as yours, mine are really red right now.. If you ever want to talk, email me at Lindsey.gibson69@yahoo.com. I also have a facebook. If you have one add me.. (Use that email).

  10. tinifer Says:
    May 13th, 2010 at 2:39 pm

    First, I’ll say, I understand your pain. I was 19 when I had my first. Now I am 36 and have 5 children. You are NOT alone in your thoughts and feelings. I can tell you that you look great, and in my eyes you do(!) but you’ve got to find a way to feel that yourself. Push through, find some peace….and if you can, let your man adore you, don’t push him out. and remember VERY FEW women like swimsuit season!!!

  11. Natassia Says:
    May 14th, 2010 at 8:34 am

    I feel the same way that you do! I had my first child at 19 and now 7 years later I am the mother of 3. Your feelings are the same as mine. I still hate the fact that most of my friends or women my age can wear a bikini when I don’t even want to wear a bathing suit or shorts!! But you really do look great! I guess we just all have to find a way to love our “mommy” bodies. Good Luck!

  12. Sarah P. Says:
    May 14th, 2010 at 1:00 pm

    You’re gorgeous! So many women would trade for your beautiful body! And one note: breastfeeding DOESN’T make your breasts sag. What makes them sag: pregnancy alone with or WITHOUT breastfeeding AND genetics are the two biggest causes. And yours are NOT saggy at all! You have a beautiful baby and it really does bless my heart for young moms to breastfeed! I was 22 when I had my daughter (young, but not as young as you) and breastfed for two years. It was such a great experience. Keep your head up!

  13. Mariah Says:
    May 15th, 2010 at 1:31 pm

    Keep it going! I had my son at 17, and my body looks like yours, and girl, its great!

  14. Del Says:
    May 18th, 2010 at 12:17 am

    I completely understand how you feel,as I was a teen mom and am now a married mommy of two with one on the way. But I think the majority of women can relate, whatever their age. The changes are bodies go through due to pregnancy and having a baby can put a damper on our self esteem. What we all have to do is 1)learn to live with and embrace our new bodies and change what we can if we really want to. I hate my boobs, unless they are in a push up bra now. I hate the extra tummy flab I’ve had so I wore a girdle while working on weight loss and squeezed into whatever i liked. And stretch marks? well, i still haven’t learned to rid myself of nor accept those. But I must agree with everyone else – you still have a beautiful body. You aren’t fat or flabby looking, you could easily tone up your abs. You also have great breasts, I wish mine were like yours! I pray that you learn to work what you’ve got and be happy about those things that matter most anyway :-)

  15. Kelsey Says:
    May 19th, 2010 at 9:46 am

    I Want To Thank ALL of you for your wonderful inspirational comments on my story… It’s nice to see how many people are in the same position I am! Even though my husband tells me day in and day out that I AM beautiful in every way, It’s hard for me to believe him sometimes! I’m definantly getting better though! =) I have found myself a few good push up bras that I wear on a daily basis! I have the start of a tan (a spray for now as it’s still raining where i am :/ ) And Every day I try and find one more thing that is beautiful or “sexy” about myself, just to get that feeling back!! I may not be your average 19 year old..but i’m okay with that, I love my son, and with him came my post body… There for I should love it too.. RIGHT?!?!
    xoxo
    love to all!

    Update to come.. as all goes along!

  16. Kristina Says:
    May 19th, 2010 at 8:21 pm

    Are you kidding me? You look immaculate!

  17. Ashley M. Says:
    June 18th, 2010 at 9:29 pm

    You look great! I can’t even see your stretchmarks and your boobs are NOT saggy! I know exactly how you’re feeling though, I go through it every day. I’m 19 and my son is 7 months and since it’s summer I feel really bad about my body since the girls my age are wearing next to nothing.

  18. christina Says:
    July 3rd, 2010 at 2:41 pm

    wow still the stretch marks there is pretty much none your so lucky in that way your body looks beautiful and i know the self pain that comes along with it and i find it hard to accept myself some days but that’s why we are all here to remind each other how good we look. plus your body is constantly changing so over time things just look better i can vouch for that

  19. Amy Says:
    July 13th, 2010 at 7:45 pm

    What may help your confidence is to consider the category you are in now. Comparing yourself to non-mothers your age isn’t fair. For a young mother, you have your health, and you still look really great! You have got it going on! And do not worry about your breasts, the sag will come if you breastfeed or not.

  20. milkmilk Says:
    July 27th, 2010 at 5:29 pm

    You look now a way better than me at your age.

  21. Starr Says:
    October 21st, 2010 at 3:26 pm

    I know how you feel, i had my son at the age of 20 (4 days after 20) now im 23. i weigh less than i did before my 3 year old and i hate having to look in the mirror. my husband and i even seperated a year ago because my self confidence hendered ALL relationships with anyone i come in contact with… i have to keep telling myself that im pretty in order to just make it day to day. I cant even hold a job due to my insecurities.

  22. sarah Says:
    July 24th, 2011 at 8:06 am

    Seriously, there is nothing wrong with your breasts, they are where I wish mine was, I’m 30 with 3 children. before first pregnancy I was 10AA within 14 weeks I went to a 14C and by the time my child was born I was D, I now Have D cup breasts which Look like Rocks in socks, they look south to the ground and can never take off my bra in front of a man again because they sit just above my naval. Be proud of your body, you have naturally shaped breasts!

  23. kc Says:
    May 25th, 2012 at 3:57 pm

    You are so pretty!! All you need is a push up bathing suit if you’re worried about your stretch marks on your breasts. I have them WAYYYYY worse and I hate them. I am gonna get a breast lift one day (heard that helps). I never comment on these posts but I really think you’re so pretty and your body is banging!

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