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Still not quite where I want to be (Kris)

February 20, 2013

Age: 28
Years postpreg: 2.5
# of children: 1

At the age of 24, i was single, in college, and living alone in a new town. I was enjoying the single life since it was the first time in my adult life that i had been single for a significant period of time. In fact, I was entertaining the idea of committing to a life a spinster hood. However, I met my son’s dad and after knowing him under two months, i found out i was pregnant. I wanted to keep my baby, so we decided to give us a try and he moved in with me. Within 4 months, i realized this man i was about to raise a child with was a severe alcoholic, and not a very nice one at that. But i stuck it out in hopes that everything would just work itself out, which i know now was stupid. I was in a relationship that put me in a constant state of stress, always worried that id come home to a hostile drunk, not having a supportive partner to help me in this difficult period of my life, feeling unloved, and completing my junior year in college. So i turned to food. I was gaining close to 8lbs a month, so at 5’0, i went from my prepregnancy weight of 135 to 205 by the time my son was born. I was miserable. I felt so ugly.

My son was born via csection after being two weeks over due and a failed induction. After he arrived, my weight stayed around 178. The first few months of his life were difficult, i tried to work on my health and getting back in shape, but the combination of my senior year in college and an unpleasant homelife drained me of all my energy. When my son was six months old, i finally realized i needed to leave my son’s father, so i moved us into a new apartment and i graduated college. Since then, I’ve worked housekeeping jobs and watched my son grow into a beautiful person who i love more than anything in the world. 2.5 years later and i am finally committing to getting healthy and getting my life on track. i am working out 3-5 days a week and eating better while working on my application for grad school. So far I’ve lost 10lbs, but I’m worried that my tummy, which used to be my favorite feature, is going to always look gross and saggy no matter how much weight i lose:(

The photos i am posting are of me 2.5 years postpregnancy and168lbs. I’d love to hear if anyone knows if with diet and exercise, i can get my tummy somewhat back to normal or if I’ll need to consider surgery.

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3 Responses to “Still not quite where I want to be (Kris)”

  1. Michele Says:
    February 20th, 2013 at 9:07 am

    You can get that down with cardio.Lots of fast walking/running and drinking plenty of water daily. Also do about 60 curl up crunches on a stability ball every night. I am 4 mths postpartum and have already lost pretty much all of it by following these steps and my son was almost 10 lbs. I weigh 165 now at almost 5’8 so your weight isn’t a problem, you just need to tone and you will lose more as well. You look great really you do, I looked the same and it was disheartening for me to look in the mirror, but I decided to work at it and it is amazing to see the results. You can do this…. Just take your time, you can’t spot lose so you must jog, etc for cardio to get it down, drink plenty water to help lose the belly fat and then the toning comes in with the stability ball, pilates is good for this as well. You can do it! Stay encouraged, get moving more and drinking that water!!!

  2. Ashley Says:
    February 20th, 2013 at 9:15 am

    It will go back! It just takes hard work and a good diet. I gained 50lbs with my first and it took me 2.5yrs but I started looking better then before pregnancy. My 2nd I gained 35lbs with and again I felt/looked way better 2yrs after. I hope this holds true for #3 due in June.

    You look beautiful. And you have done such an amazing job with your life!! Hang in there.

  3. Laura Says:
    February 20th, 2013 at 6:40 pm

    Wow! Our stories are very similiar.. I’m 22 now, pregnant at 21 while in college. My SO (still with him) has also struggled with alcoholism. When I was pregnant he was out getting drunk every night while I sat alone.. and ate.. I too gaineed 70 lbs, and at 9 months PP have lost all but 15 of them. Like you, I have a bit of extra skin. I’ve come to terms with the fact that my skin will never go away. But, that doesn’t mean the fat underneath the skin can’t! Maybe counting calories and fitting in some exercise will work for you as it has worked wonders for me.

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