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Stacey

July 30, 2006

thank you so much for this site! i have been trying to find time to add my pics and and story for weeks!

i am mom of 2, a girl and boy. when i found out i was pregnant with my daughter i had just lost 25 pounds. i was worried about gaining all the weight back and of course i did plus another 25. at 29/30 i was put on bed rest and medication for preterm labor. my stretch marks didn’t show until i was about 35 weeks along. i was a little upset but i knew they coming and i was happy that she stuck in there long enough to give me them. i ended up being induced 10 days late :)

this is the day before i was induced with my daughter.
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miss j was born by urgent c-section on 4/1/02. she was stuck and just too big to be born vaginally. i tried to breastfeed but it just didn’t happen. i was depressed because of the c and not being able to nurse. i told my husband that i didn’t want anymore kids because my body didn’t know what to do. i couldn’t birth or feed a child and i didn’t want to go through all the medication and bed rest i had to with the first.

when j turned a year i started thinking she needed a brother or sister. maybe the second time around would be different. i went off the pill 4 months later and got pregnant right away. i lost that baby a week after i got my positive. about 5 or 6 months after that i got pregnant again. i started spotting at 6 weeks and knew i was loosing the baby. the spotting stopped but 4 weeks later my daughter and i were in an accident. i went to see my ob and he did an ultrasound and there was a perfect little baby heartbeat and all. i was told to rest as much as possible and if there was any problems to call.

5 weeks after that at 15 weeks the contractions started. i had an ultrasound and the baby was fine. the contractions never stopped and i was eventually put on modified bed rest and medication again. i gained weight slow this time and ended up gaining 25 lbs.

miss j and i at 36-37 weeks
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at 37 weeks i started having contractions and was told i was in early labor. my dr. was on vacation and i had a c-section scheduled for when she was back. the dr. on duty sent me home because i wasn’t dilating, i was at a 2. the next day i was still having contractions and went in. he agreed to do my c but he wanted me to wait until i was 38 weeks unless my water broke or i began progressing more. i went 4 days after that with contractions but no progress. the day i went in for my c they hooked me up and the nurse asked me how long i had been having contractions and i told her about a week. she checked me and i was still at a 2. i never progressed! i guess my body just doesn’t know how to have a baby.

the day i delivered my son i weighed 198.5 just like my daughter. i had a few new stretch marks on my thighs and by my belly button. i was much bigger with him then i was her.

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the day i delivered m
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breast feeding came natural this time around and he just weaned 2 months ago.

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i lost all the weight i gained in 2 weeks. 22 months later my tummy is still squishy and soft. the extra skin is a little tighter but it’s still there. my tummy has housed and cared for 3 babies. 1 i never got a chance to hold but i still love that baby just as much as the other 2. my scars and stretch marks have faded but i look at them and i see gifts from my children.

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now that i have written a book thank you again for this site! it’s awesome to read everyone story and see the pics here.

thanks!

stacey

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12 Responses to “Stacey”

  1. The Shape of a Mother Says:
    July 30th, 2006 at 3:35 pm

    Stacy, first of all, I LOVE that last picture! One of my favorite ones at this site! Second, I wanted to touch on the fact that you had contractions for so long with no dilation. I once studied to be a childbirth educator (and I swear someday i’ll go back to that!!!) and I just wanted you to know that having contractions for so long with “no progress” is SO NORMAL. Many many women go through that and while it is absolutely frustraiting, it is no indication of your body’s ability to birth a baby. Hugs!Bonnie

  2. jade Says:
    July 30th, 2006 at 4:35 pm

    Glad to see ya here:) You look beautiful:)

  3. thordora Says:
    July 30th, 2006 at 6:27 pm

    I love that shot with the kids as well! So nice!

  4. Manic Mom Says:
    July 30th, 2006 at 7:55 pm

    What a gorgeous picture of your babies AND your belly!

  5. julie Says:
    July 30th, 2006 at 8:35 pm

    I love that pic of you with your kids! So sweet.

  6. Birth Junkie Says:
    July 30th, 2006 at 8:48 pm

    Your body works fine, you have 2 beautiful and healthy kids!Love that last picture as well. You are such great mom. Kudos to you for allowing your kids to see your belly and topless.

  7. peppypilotgirl Says:
    July 30th, 2006 at 9:04 pm

    What a wonderful portrait of love that last picture is!!

  8. andrea Says:
    July 31st, 2006 at 5:48 am

    stacey…you are awesome!! beautiful body…beautiful mommy!!

  9. Rosalie Says:
    August 1st, 2006 at 11:34 am

    Stacey- You look great! The kids kind of like our squashy-soft bellies, don’t they? My son likes to poke mine. Love the last picture with your two children. Very sweet. :-)

  10. Livs Mommy Says:
    August 1st, 2006 at 4:11 pm

    I just love love love that precious last photo of your beautiful mother body and your gorgeous healthy children!

  11. PacificMod Says:
    August 1st, 2006 at 5:25 pm

    Just wanted to add my admiration for that last picture… your children look so joyful, and what a wonderful mama they have!

  12. Brittany Says:
    April 2nd, 2007 at 5:22 pm

    That last picture is the cutest.. EVER!

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