That was a really nice article. I wish there were more websites like yours’, Bonnie. We get so caught up with people on TV and completely lose connection with those existing around us.
And I agree, you can’t post anymore than what you are given and if stretch marks outweigh flawles skin, then that’s the reality. It may not be fact, but those are the only women submitting. And honestly, if any girl/woman gets scared enough of our bodies to not have kids, that’s their loss. It takes a lot of confidence and selflessness to risk your body for another life. It truly does. And we need to start appreciating that fact.
Thank you Bonnie, you’re a true pioneer woman.
Well, I think the POINT of SOAM is that if we all share these images, they won’t be a surprise anymore and they won’t BE as scary. I realize some women are afraid of what might happen to their bodies, and that is a valid reaction (every reaction and feeling is valid). I feel that the more normal we make this, the less there is to fear. Things hidden in darkness always seem more frightening than they do in the warm sunshine.
And, FTR, I feel there is a good balance of body shapes, sizes and degrees of stretch marks here at SOAM. I’d love to have more mamas of color and I’d love more older moms (as in moms of grown children) to share here.
I am not in agreement with when you say
“I dont care what size my jeans are”
you see, unlike you…I do care, it does matter, fit is heatlhy and fat large bellies are NOT healthy, do you not want ot be around for your children and have the energy toplay and run with them? I do, i dont plan on sitting my days away on the couch eating doritos while “watchin” the kids…it should matter.
Are you asking me or are you asking Meg Case, the woman who made that comment?
Since I could easily have said that or something similar, I’ll answer for myself. I’ve said it time and again – I strongly support a healthy lifestyle. I live a healthy lifestyle. But I am 5’9″ with a large frame. I cannot possibly expect to fit into the same size pants that a petite, 5’2″ woman might wear. Her healthy is NOT the same as my healthy. Therefore, I do not care what size my jeans are. I care what I eat – organic as much as I can afford, low sugar, and – for me – no gluten or dairy. I care how I move my body – I take walks daily with the kids and we hike as often as we can. But I do not care what size jeans I wear.
Delie, sometimes I like what you have to say, but more often than not I find your comments to be vitriolic and caustic. Kindly remember that there are people with real feelings – just like yours – on the other end of the wire.
Beautiful web site which I found via the Star article. There is a local, Toronto store that celebrates women’s post-partum bodies. You can find them online at http://www.evymama.ca. They have beautiful nursing clothes including lingerie that will make any new mom feel wonderful! Happy mothering ladies.