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Plus-Sized, Proud and a mommy to a monkey! (Monkey’s Mommy)

October 2, 2009

Let me start of by saying I am very proud of who I am. I don’t let the numbers on the scale dictate my happiness. With that being said, here is my story. I am 24 years old and i am a plus sized mommy. I have been plus size since 4th grade and so I really don’t know or remember life any other way.
I got pregnant May of 2008 at 308lbs. I had recently become engaged to my now husband and we had planned a July 2009 wedding. Little did we know we would become pregnant and push up our wedding to September 2008. Our child wasn’t planned, but was 100% wanted. Since we weren’t planning this pregnancy, we were unsure of when she was conceived. We ended up having a Due Date Scan to find out that our child was due January 27th, 2009.
I was over joyed with the fact that I had this life growing inside me. I couldn’t wait for the 1st kicks and I counted down the months until we knew the sex (a girl that we found out 3 days before our wedding, and kept it a secret until our wedding reception where I announced it to all our family and friends). I had a normal pregnancy. No Gestational Diabetes, and only a high blood pressure issue from 36 to 38 weeks that corrected itself. My due date came and went. I stayed at 1cm until I was induced.
My induction went very smoothly and my daughter entered the world on February 4th, 2009 at 8:10 pm via a vaginal, medicated birth. She weighed in at 8lbs 9.4 oz and scored a 9 out of 10 on both her apgar scores. I ended up weighing 326lbs right before delivery. Once home I weighed myself and I was down to 311lbs.
At 4 months postpartum I was diagnosed with PPT (Postpartum Thyroiditis) I have to now take medication for my thyroid. Other than that, I have had no issues with myself. My current weight is 290lbs and I am 7 months PP. I have been working on trying to be healthier, not so much with weight on my mind. I am happy with my body, my husband has never know, seen me any other way and he loves all my curves.
For all the women out there who feel like they would be happier a size or three smaller I say, be proud of who you are, not what your BMI is or your weight is. Love you for you!

~Your Age: I am 24 years old
~Number of pregnancies and births: 1 pregnancy resulting in 1 birth

~The age of your children, or how far postpartum you are: Mya, my daughter is 7 months old and i am 7 months PP

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31 Responses to “Plus-Sized, Proud and a mommy to a monkey! (Monkey’s Mommy)”

  1. Sarah Says:
    October 2nd, 2009 at 11:51 am

    you are wonderful! if only we were all so comfy in our own skins!! <3 this post!

  2. Deb Says:
    October 2nd, 2009 at 1:31 pm

    That is one rockin cute little monkey! I have one too, a spider monkey actually, named Zac) And my sister’s b-day is Feb. 4th too. Congratulations Momma!

  3. Samantha Says:
    October 2nd, 2009 at 1:39 pm

    Congratulations on your absolutely adorable monkey!!!;) She is precious! Also I wanted to mention that its wonderful that you’re happy with you body and the extra shed pounds are a plus!

  4. Anna Says:
    October 2nd, 2009 at 3:56 pm

    I envy your confidence! Your positive attitude just radiates in your post. My body is shaped exactly like yours, only I’m slightly heavier. Congrats on having such a cute !

  5. Rochelle Says:
    October 2nd, 2009 at 5:47 pm

    I think that you have a beautiful body. And have been such an inspiration to so many women to be comfortable with themselves, being plus size and pregnant. I would have never posted my postpartum belly pictures anywhere if you wouldn’t have made me feel like it was ok for people to see the real me. I don’t think you know the impact you have on my life

  6. Monkey's Mommy Says:
    October 2nd, 2009 at 8:48 pm

    Thank you ladies for all your kind words. I truly hope I can/have inspired someone else by posting my pictures. I try and remain positive and optimistic in my self image. Don’t get my post wrong, there are days I have zero self esteem. I seem to have more self confidence when I don’t see pics of myself naked (like the ones posted above.)

    I am currently starting a diet (as of October 1st). I am trying to lose 30 lbs by sometime in January.

    I also wanted to add that the 1st pic was take at 24 weeks pregnant. The 2nd one at 40 weeks pregnant. The 3rd at 4 days postpartum. And the next 2 are at 7 months PP.

  7. Claire Says:
    October 2nd, 2009 at 11:06 pm

    Beautiful Mumma & beautiful bubba x your outlook on life is so admirable and your lucky daughter will get that from you. If only everyone had the same amazing attitude as you if suspect life would be easier for a lot more people….congrats on your baby girl and thank you for the inspiration.

  8. Alicia Says:
    October 3rd, 2009 at 8:28 am

    I follow this site and regularly read the stories here. Lots of women say what you’re saying about loving your body at whatever shape/weight you’re at. I struggle with this daily, though, and have a difficult time reading/accepting this from moms whose photos reveal that they have skinny (or even healthy weight) bodies. I always think, “Yeah. Easy for you to say at age 22 and 106 pounds.”

    I am 33 and a mother of four. When I got pregnant with my first child, I was probably 130 pounds (I’m 5′ 2″). I’ve gone up and down on the scale and am now about 185 at four months postpartum with baby #4 (and final :)).

    Your story is an inspiration. Thank you for sharing your photos. You are beautiful, and you have a gorgeous little monkey. :)

  9. mamaoffour Says:
    October 3rd, 2009 at 12:26 pm

    Yes! This is what I like to hear! Great post and gorgeous mom and babe.

  10. Amy Says:
    October 3rd, 2009 at 9:42 pm

    Wow.

    I can’t believe it! You are my body double! EXACTLY! Well, except for my tattoo :D

    Thank you so much for posting, it really has made a difference to me. Maybe I’ll get up the nerve to post my pictures someday.

  11. Coralie Says:
    October 4th, 2009 at 4:30 am

    Inspirational! What a fabulous attitude you have … and a fantastic curvy figure with a lovely waistline! And your gorgeous little daughter is proof positve that big girls CAN have perfect babies!
    Would be honored if you would write your maternity wedding story for my site – lots of gorgeous plus girls get married and i know you’d be an inspiration for them!
    Your story has brightened my day. Thank you!

  12. Sarah Says:
    October 4th, 2009 at 9:59 pm

    I think you are beautiful and sexy and to top it off, you have a gorgeous spirit that is just beaming through this computer screen. Your little monkey baby is just so darling and perfect! Thank you for your story! Congratulations! ♥

  13. Monkey's Mommy Says:
    October 6th, 2009 at 9:06 am

    Thank you ever so much ladies for all the kind words. I am truly appreciative.
    (for some of you who have seen my original pictures and wondered why they are covered now, i will explain)
    You see my hubby threw a fit that ANYONE can see pictures of my body. And he was livid with me. (to the point that we weren’t on speaking terms :( ) So we agreed that i i covered up the boobs, he would be fine with me posting them. (at first i showed him all the postings about what a positive impact they have had, and it still didn’t convince him. Heck i even went with the “its my body” *i know childish right?*. In the end i had to come to some sort of compromise.)

    Long sorry!
    But thank you ladies! I truly feel so great now seeing all the positive feed back!!!

  14. Emily Says:
    October 17th, 2009 at 12:20 am

    What lovely photos, You have a beautiful body, gorgeous curves, I am jealous!

  15. suzanne Says:
    November 17th, 2009 at 9:32 pm

    what a gorgeous little girl you have!

  16. Jessikah Says:
    November 30th, 2009 at 2:45 pm

    You`re beautiful and so is your baby! <3

  17. alysha Says:
    December 12th, 2009 at 6:15 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing! I really needed to read something uplifting. I too am a plus size mom, but I lack the positive self-esteem you possess. Thanks again.

  18. Jen Says:
    December 14th, 2009 at 11:25 pm

    Thanks for sharing, and most importantly, the pep talk. I needed that. God bless.

  19. Becki Says:
    December 15th, 2009 at 1:14 pm

    Your story was great!! I wish I could love my body the way you love yours!! :)) Thank you for sharing!

  20. Kelaiah Lynn Says:
    December 26th, 2009 at 10:59 pm

    You look great Mamma! Baby is adorable!

  21. Tiffany Says:
    December 28th, 2009 at 2:16 am

    you have a gorgeous baby, and a beautiful body.
    numbers on a scale should NEVER EVER decide how someone should feel about themselves.
    ever.
    our bodies are almost identical, right down to the dip in the waistline, and the low pannus. and i LOVE my body. i love being in my body. i love how my husband loves my body, i love that my children see my soft body as a comfort, and i wouldnt change my body, in any way, at all, ever.

  22. Monkey's Mommy Says:
    February 10th, 2010 at 12:08 am

    Thank you so much ladies for all the wonderful words! I am elated to hear that my story has inspired other women! (and empowered them as well!)

    I am happy to announce that we are currently expecting our second child (planned) Due in October! As we just celebrated our daughter’s 1st birthday we cannot be more thrilled to be welcoming our 2nd child into our lives!

    To all the ladies who hold back the courage to not show of your bodies i say to you this. The love and support you get from logging on here and seeing all the positive kind words that people have to say (and can relate) empowers you and helps you to realize the beauty from within!

    Love you, Love your body! Only you can change what you feel is wrong about your body. No-one else should have the power to take that away from you! If you feel like that is slipping come back on here! Regroup and see all the beautiful women who get support and encouragement to empower themselves!

    God Bless!

  23. Sammee Says:
    March 2nd, 2010 at 4:16 pm

    I just found out about this site and love it! I’m also plus size and expecting. Thank you for posting this! You are a brave and beautiful woman for posting this. I’m also expecting on October so I hope you have a happy and healthy second pregnancy. :D

  24. Shawn Says:
    March 29th, 2010 at 10:16 pm

    You should be proud of your “mommy shape” simply for the fact that your daughter is so GORGEOUS!

  25. MonicaAaron Says:
    April 3rd, 2010 at 10:01 am

    Our bodies are amost identical! It was crazy to see your pictures and go ‘wait a minute, that’s not me” :D It’s good to know I’m not the only one.

  26. Monkey's Mommy Says:
    July 14th, 2010 at 3:21 pm

    Thank you again ladies! I truly appreciate all the support I have gotten from posting!
    I am currently 27 weeks pregnant with a little boy! We expect him in the beginning of October!
    So far this pregnancy I have gained a total of 8lbs!
    I just had my GD testing and passed with flying colors (Don’t ever assume just because your bigger or someone is bigger they automatically have GD or BP issues!)
    I hope this encourages other Plus Size Mommies to come out and not be ashamed on their bodies! :)

  27. Elizabeth Says:
    February 27th, 2011 at 2:56 pm

    Thank you so much for posting your pictures. My husband and I are planning to start trying to get pregnant in the next couple of months. I am a plus-size lady and I am a nurse. So, in the back of my mind I freak out that I will not have a healthy pregnancy and that I am going to be ginormous. lol Sometimes being well informed as a nurse can make one worry more. Anyway. Your pictures are so inspiring to me. I am pretty much your size and shape. I think your pregnant belly looks amazing and now I am stoked to see mine and post some pics as well. :)

  28. Amber Sterling Says:
    March 31st, 2011 at 7:02 pm

    Thank you for your post. It’s exactly what I was looking for. I am 27 yrs old and about 300 lbs. I was hoping to see what would happen to my body and if it does the same as yours- I will be thrilled. Thank you again for posting :-) And congratulations.

  29. Monkey's Mommy Says:
    April 13th, 2011 at 8:37 pm

    I just wanted to update again and thank everyone for all the positive words. My son was born 11 days overdue on October 19th, 2010 at 1:37am. He tipped the scales at 9lbs 13oz and 21.75in. long. I had an un-medicated natural child birth and am please to announce that I had zero issues during my pregnancy. No GD, HBP or anything. I am almost 6 months PP (will be on the 19th of April) and have successfully lost 80 pounds on my own. I am breast feeding my son exclusively and have been doing portion control, exercise and cutting out lots of sugar, bad foods. My daughter (the one in picture) is growing and such a great big sister. She is 26 months old and defiantly a mini me! My children are my inspiration to become A Size Healthier! If I can do it, anyone can!! My goal is 100lbs lost by my son’s 1st birthday (well I am at 80lbs lost at his 6 month!)

    Don’t let anyone tell you that because your overweight you cannot get pregnant, have major issues, or let your weight BMI be a factor in your pregnancies!

    Love your body!!!

  30. Penny(gigi) Says:
    September 11th, 2012 at 1:07 pm

    YOU ARE TRULY AN INSPIRATION TY AND GOD BLESS

  31. monja Says:
    August 22nd, 2014 at 8:10 am

    I absolutely love your post. You can be soo proud mommy !!

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