age 28
one pregnancy one birth
my son is now 2 ½ years old
I say “lucky” because in reality I do not have many stretch marks and the ones I do have are light. I have returned to my pre-pregnacy weight but that does not mean I am at my pre-pregnacy shape. I gained 70 pounds during my pregnancy. Watching your body go through such a transformation in it self, no matter what you end up looking like down to road, is something to deal with. I never wanted a kid. I didn’t even like being around children. I was one of those people who scoffed at all the people who go around saying ‘children are a blessings in disguise.’ ‘its different when it is your own child.’ When I found out that I was pregnant my first thought was to have an abortion. I am a naturalist and there for went to a herb store and asked about herbal abortions. Of course they were out of the herb and would not have it for three days. By the time I made it home (actuality by the time I asked about herbal abortion) I knew that I would not be able to go through with that choice. I knew that there was only one option that I would be able to see to the end. To have the child and raise it. The father and I were not together, we were not even talking. He was trying to get sober but relapse, bad, and was now a junkie. So I was pregnant and had no idea if the father was even going to be alive when I gave birth or how I was going to pay my bills. So I was not only dealing with the mental mind fuck but also the physical changes. I think I did well considering! When I gave birth to my son and they laid him on my stomach everything changed, I changed. The father had gotten sober 2-3 months before I gave birth and is still sober today. He also changed. My son was a catalyst for amazing growth in my self and his father. His father and I are still not together but we have stubbornly gotten to a point where we are friends. I know this should be more about the physical shape of a mother but the mental shape is what I had the most difficulty with. I am a single working mom. I have felt the person I was disappear. I am either working or being a mom there is no time to be me. Or so I thought/felt. Every article, book, magazine, what have you I have read has been written from the perspective that you have a significant other. Because of this I stopped reading a long time ago.
Today I am able to see the beauty and strive for balance. I do my best to balance work, time with my son and time for myself. The mommy identity is the biggest part of my life but not the only part. I’ve never been one to stay down long and my son is so amazing that down is not even an option! He amazes me every day and the love I feel for him amazes me every minute. If I get a glimpse of the stretch marks or my mommy pouch it is just a reminder of the little person that I created. In my son’s eyes I am perfect! At least until he is a teenager! I have discovered that when I am able to stay present in the moment when with my son, I am happy. He has been and will always continue to be worth every sacrifice.
And I still have a nice ass!!
You look beautiful, and yes, you do have a nice ass! :P
I give major credit to single mothers. I appreciate them more than words can speak. I have always had my husband by my side, and it is still difficult. So I can only imagine the amount of strength, courage, and determination it must take to raise a child on your own.
I love your attitude towards it and your story is very inspiring.
Thank you for sharing, and continue to flaunt your ass!
“I know this should be more about the physical shape of a mother but the mental shape is what I had the most difficulty with.” I think that’s probably true for just about everybody. If there wasn’t a mental shape problem, the physical shape wouldn’t be considered a problem either!
it’s a beautiful story. not easy but beautiful. congratulations on your valiant decision!
hope u are proud of yorself!!!
take care
(really like the 3th photo – very nice shapes!)
I’ve read many many entries on this site and I have never been inspired to comment. You are absoulutely beautiful. Don’t let anyone including yourself make you think differently.
ok, first off what you have gone through and the choice you made to keep your sweet child are the most commendable and admirable actions I have ever read about. And the fact that you can see past yourself to get along with the father for the sake of your son is not something many people can ever attempt in their lives. You are an incredible and strong woman and i admire you for how you live your life! And secondly, I am currently in my third trimester with my first son and can still fit my pre pregnancy jeans with an extender in the waist, and I am hoping so much that I look as amazing as you after I give birth! I know it’s not instant, but what you have there is what I have set as my goal in the end!
Definitely lucky! Look at that tooshie! :D
I gained 70lbs during my pregnancy just like you and I’m amazed at how much I hate myself, but you are embracing it. I’ve been going to the gym regularly and I still hate myself even though my body is changing.You have a VERY nice ass and I think I need to take more of your attitude away from this.
Thank you for all the wonderful comments!
Something that I like to do is refer to my spider veins as rainbows! This past weekend someone had point to some veins on my leg and I pointed out some other ones and explained to them that my rainbows were showing.
My son is still amazing! He is a very creative person and his imagination is awesome!
Sadly his father has since relapsed and is drinking again but still no drugs.