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Obsessed with this jelly belly (B.J.)

October 13, 2011

I’ve struggled with my weight since I was 9.At one point in time I even became anorexic. I’ve always been one to exercise and diet to stay in shape. In high school I had a really nice body, and for once I was kind of proud of it. But at the age of 16 I got pregnant and gave birth to my son in June of 2009. I lost all of the weight really fast but my stomach is saggy and stretched with stretch marks. I can’t wear a bikini and though with clothes on my body looks fine, I try not to look at myself in the mirror with clothes off. I’m getting married in December and my fiance’ has never seen me with my clothes off. I’ve told him about this dilemma and he assures me its not that big of a deal but he hasn’t seen it yet so I’m like how can he say its not a big deal? I don’t even wanna take my shirt off around him. I’ve been dieting and exercising and though the rest of my body is in shape my stomach is so ugly. I’ve been using creams and everything but the results are limited. I emailed pictures to doctors and they tell me only a tummy tuck will fix my tummy and no amount of dieting or exercise will give me significant results. I just want my husband to think of me as beautiful when he finally sees whats underneath but I doubt he can if I can”t even look myself in the mirror.

Age:19
Number of pregnancies and childbirths:1
Age of child: 2 years
Postpartum: 2 years

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13 Responses to “Obsessed with this jelly belly (B.J.)”

  1. shannon Says:
    October 13th, 2011 at 8:33 am

    you are seriously sooooo beautiful (I mean it!). You look amazing, and your belly is beautiful just like the rest of you. I know what it is like to be a young mama, I had my 1st at 20 and my 2nd at 22. You honestly look great, no need for a tummy tuck :) Oh, and your husband will know how beautiful you are…if you don’t want him to see you right away, but you want to feel sexy then google bodystockings (they are very sexy!).

  2. s Says:
    October 13th, 2011 at 8:53 pm

    you are so beautiful. i was blown away lol. Your fiance is marrying you because he loves you! You dont have to worry about your belly, not to mention you look amazing for having a baby! i know what you mean tho, with clothes on or even standing up i love my body, but when i sit or bend over i have that weird stetchky skin. I weigh 96 pounds at 5’1 so losing more weight isnt an option and im afraid ill never be able to tighten my skin around my belly either. But you look wonderful and by no means neeed a tummy tuck!!

  3. Marz Says:
    October 13th, 2011 at 9:29 pm

    You have a face like that, you’re worried about your BODY?!? I honestly think you may have the most beautiful features I’ve ever seen. You could have another head from a deformed twin growing out of your pelvis and it wouldn’t be a big deal with a face like that, girl!

  4. Casey Says:
    October 14th, 2011 at 7:24 am

    Do not worry. Sounds like you have a great man, and a good man is actually more concerned with who you are as a person and not what you might perceive as the perfect body. Everybody is perfect in it’s uniqueness anyway! If anything, real men are more about overall shape and not worried about some stretch marks or extra fat from pregnancy. Look around this site and you’ll see you’re perfectly normal. You’re a good person inside, beautiful on out the outside, have a wonderful child and great man – all set for a wonderful life!

  5. amber Says:
    October 14th, 2011 at 10:52 am

    you and i are tummy twins… SEXY as heck with clothes on, insecure without them (seach me: blessed and tortured) – i assure you your hubby will love you regardless… my husband still love s to touch all over altho i HATE when he touches my stomach, he still does cause he loves it and me. i am 24 with a 4 year old son. you look great, stop worrying so much about your tummy and love the life your living! be a proud mama in every sense!

  6. Sarah Says:
    October 14th, 2011 at 3:23 pm

    First of all, you’re insanely, ridiculously beautiful – face AND tummy! If anyone could rock a bikini with a few little stretch marks, it’s you! And believe me, if a man TRULY loves a woman, it doesn’t matter if she has stretch marks or is missing legs or has a growth on the side of her face! I think you’re underestimating your fiance. He loves you for you, not your body. My husband has seen me be given an episiotomy – cut wide open. He’s seen me naked and crying with my hemorrhoid-ridden butt stuck under icy cold bath water. He’s seen me without make up (truth is, I rarely wear it). He’s seen me hugely pregnant with stretch marks and completely un-pregnant with deflated breasts. He loves me, desires me, wants to see me naked, wants to touch me, loves my stretch marky 34AA deflated breasts and often touches them or my butt. He finds me sexy, despite seeing my flaws… probably because he has seen my flaws! Your fiance is the same. He loves you. You are gorgeous and desirable. He loves your heart and he will love your body. Now is the time to release yourself from this prison you’ve put yourself in! Don’t hide yourself any more. It’s not fair to him or to yourself or your child. Life is sweet on the other side. ;)

  7. Ash Says:
    October 16th, 2011 at 8:04 pm

    Your mommy belly makes you sexy forget the rest you are gorgeous and he will be more than happy to be with you especially if he loves you. I seen your photos and I was like DANG this woman is soooooo sexy and Im another chick so thats saying alot lol lol forget a lil squish with everything else you got going on it dont even matter anyways what would you gain with a PORN STAR belly lol lol not a dif man if its confidence you want focus on other things that stuff is petty lol and that squish by the way is a symbol and sacrifise of the child you have I dont know about you but for my kids I would take my stretch marks plus 10000000 just to have them hell id give my life for them and by the way its just a body its whats on the inside that matters and a bonus you are gorgeous think about some women out there who have real issues like ones who have been burnt on the face or are missing limbs or who were born with deformities they would look at you and be like that is so wrong for this woman to be upset when she is PERFECT THE WAY GOD MADE HER!! NOT WHAT YOU THINK MAN WANTS YOU TO BE BUT WHAT YOU REALLY ARE BEAUTIFUL BECAUSE THE LORD MADE YOU THAT WAY> dang if your upset now what are you going to do when you get old lol and your boobies are touching the floor then you would wish you looked like you do now lol or youll be more wise then and not give a poop lol lol love yourself first then your man.

  8. Megan Says:
    October 17th, 2011 at 1:27 pm

    wow who cares about your damn tummy. I’d kill to look like you again.

  9. Beth Says:
    October 20th, 2011 at 2:13 pm

    You are BEAUTIFUL! It is important as women to feel confident in our own bodies! I gave birth a year ago and I am still struggling to find that confident girl prior to having my son. All hope is not lost! I don’t want to be another one of the people on here posting about how you should be happy and Acknowledge you beauty and except it (although I think you should because you a truly gorgeous!) but if you are disappointed in your body then you can def do something about it! You may not have your pre-preggo tummy back completely but I promise you it can improve. I am proof! Check out my website and contact me. http://www.brinontheburnwithbeth.com I really am not looking to sell you on anything just help guide you in the right direction.

  10. Beth Says:
    October 20th, 2011 at 2:14 pm

    I apologize for the mis-spelling, http://www.bringontheburnwithbeth.com

  11. Breanna Janee' Says:
    October 21st, 2011 at 8:04 am

    Thanks so much you guys. I know I have a lot to work on with my self esteem but physical appearance isn’t everything and I know I have to love myself for who I am and what I look like. I really appreciate all of your kind words. God bless you all. <3

  12. shannon Says:
    November 28th, 2011 at 8:44 am

    You are gorgeous!! If you dont rock a bikini on your honeymoon, def get a monokini they are sexy too but still have that strip to cover your stomach :)

  13. Joleen Says:
    March 2nd, 2012 at 11:31 am

    Completely agreeing with everyone! You are absolutely gorgeous girl! And your fiancee is in love with YOU and could care less about your gorgeous belly!

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